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A rumour is a rumour. It's like a fire, it can start because of many things... As the French say: Il n'y a pas de fumée sans feu (there's no smoke without fire / where there's smoke there's fire).

So, the 1st thing I would look for is "fire". Maybe her heart is burning with love for you :)

I would investigate in a way that shows her my concerns, whilst at the same time, I learn more about her feelings. But, in no way I would try and get some information about the who-and-why spread the rumour, because it's not worth it IMO, and may result in an unexpected kind of "Streisand effect" backfiring. I would dorather go for something likelike this:

Hi Alice,

I just heard something weird... It came into my ears that "either I wanted a relationship with you or you wanted a relationship with me."

Please be assured that I never told that to anyone! It is not me who carries out leaks, I can guarantee you that. Trust me.

I hope that you are not worrying or upset because of this. I don't care who started this, but I don't mind, and just wanted to let you know.

Then, I would follow with the nicest things:

You are someone I find very [ all nice things you want to tell her ].

  • This way, you kill the rumour right away, at least between the two of you.
  • You don't blame anybody for the rumour.
  • You let her know what you think about it (it's not a big deal for you, but you care about her and hope she's not been hurt).
  • You let her know with your own words what you think and feel about her.
  • You leave the door open for her to tell you (what she feels, or, from your comment "I think the rumour originated from her, directly or indirectly", if she really started this, or not...) without pressuring her and asking for any answer.

It seems like a good option to deflect all this rumour and, being straight, clear and honest, hopefully get the best out of it.


From your comments: France. I'm around the Spanish border and she is around the German border. I want to know the truth by curiosity and to boost my self-confidence. If she was closer, I would act...

That's roughly 1000km. But not far enough to hide the truth I guess :) You can still use texts/mail/letter to learn more.

A rumour is a rumour. It's like a fire, it can start because of many things... As the French say: Il n'y a pas de fumée sans feu (there's no smoke without fire / where there's smoke there's fire).

So, the 1st thing I would look for is "fire". Maybe her heart is burning with love for you :)

I would investigate in a way that shows her my concerns, whilst at the same time, I learn more about her feelings. But, in no way I would try and get some information about the who-and-why spread the rumour, because it's not worth it IMO. I would do something like this:

Hi Alice,

I just heard something weird... It came into my ears that "either I wanted a relationship with you or you wanted a relationship with me."

Please be assured that I never told that to anyone! It is not me who carries out leaks, I can guarantee you that. Trust me.

I hope that you are not worrying or upset because of this. I don't care who started this, but I don't mind, and just wanted to let you know.

Then, I would follow with the nicest things:

You are someone I find very [ all nice things you want to tell her ].

  • This way, you kill the rumour right away, at least between the two of you.
  • You don't blame anybody for the rumour.
  • You let her know what you think about it (it's not a big deal for you, but you care about her and hope she's not been hurt).
  • You let her know with your own words what you think and feel about her.
  • You leave the door open for her to tell you (what she feels, or, from your comment "I think the rumour originated from her, directly or indirectly", if she really started this, or not...) without pressuring her and asking for any answer.

It seems like a good option to deflect all this rumour and, being straight, clear and honest, hopefully get the best out of it.


From your comments: France. I'm around the Spanish border and she is around the German border. I want to know the truth by curiosity and to boost my self-confidence. If she was closer, I would act...

That's roughly 1000km. But not far enough to hide the truth I guess :) You can still use texts/mail/letter to learn more.

A rumour is a rumour. It's like a fire, it can start because of many things... As the French say: Il n'y a pas de fumée sans feu (there's no smoke without fire / where there's smoke there's fire).

So, the 1st thing I would look for is "fire". Maybe her heart is burning with love for you :)

I would investigate in a way that shows her my concerns, whilst at the same time, I learn more about her feelings. But, in no way I would try and get some information about the who-and-why spread the rumour, because it's not worth it IMO, and may result in an unexpected kind of "Streisand effect" backfiring. I would rather go for something like this:

Hi Alice,

I just heard something weird... It came into my ears that "either I wanted a relationship with you or you wanted a relationship with me."

Please be assured that I never told that to anyone! It is not me who carries out leaks, I can guarantee you that. Trust me.

I hope that you are not worrying or upset because of this. I don't care who started this, but I don't mind, and just wanted to let you know.

Then, I would follow with the nicest things:

You are someone I find very [ all nice things you want to tell her ].

  • This way, you kill the rumour right away, at least between the two of you.
  • You don't blame anybody for the rumour.
  • You let her know what you think about it (it's not a big deal for you, but you care about her and hope she's not been hurt).
  • You let her know with your own words what you think and feel about her.
  • You leave the door open for her to tell you (what she feels, or, from your comment "I think the rumour originated from her, directly or indirectly", if she really started this, or not...) without pressuring her and asking for any answer.

It seems like a good option to deflect all this rumour and, being straight, clear and honest, hopefully get the best out of it.


From your comments: France. I'm around the Spanish border and she is around the German border. I want to know the truth by curiosity and to boost my self-confidence. If she was closer, I would act...

That's roughly 1000km. But not far enough to hide the truth I guess :) You can still use texts/mail/letter to learn more.

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A rumour is a rumour. It's like a fire, it can start because of many things... As the French say: Il n'y a pas de fumée sans feu (there's no smoke without fire / where there's smoke there's fire).

So, the 1st thing I would look for is "fire". Maybe her heart is burning with love for you :)

I would investigate in a way that shows her my concerns, whilst at the same time, I learn more about her feelings. But, in no way I would try and get some information about the who-and-why spread the rumour, because it's not worth it IMO. I would do something like this:

Hi Alice,

I just heard something weird... It came into my ears that "either I wanted a relationship with you or you wanted a relationship with me."

Please be assured that I never told that to anyone! It is not me who carries out leaks, I can guarantee you that. Trust me.

I hope that you are not worrying or upset because of this. I don't care who started this, but I don't mind, and just wanted to let you know.

Then, I would follow with the nicest things:

You are someone I find very [ all nice things you want to tell her ].

  • This way, you kill the rumour right away, at least between the two of you.
  • You don't blame anybody for the rumour.
  • You let her know what you think about it (it's not a big deal for you, but you care about her and hope she's not been hurt).
  • You let her know with your own words what you think and feel about her.
  • You leave the door open for her to tell you (what she feels, or, from your comment "I think the rumour originated from her, directly or indirectly", if she really started this, or not...) without pressuring her and asking for any answer.

It seems like a good option to deflect all this rumour and, being straight, clear and honest, hopefully get the best out of it.


From your comments: France. I'm around the Spanish border and she is around the German border. I want to know the truth by curiosity and to boost my self-confidence. If she was closer, I would act...

That's roughly 1000km. But not far enough to hide the truth I guess :) You can still use texts/mail/letter to learn more.

A rumour is a rumour. It's like a fire, it can start because of many things... As the French say: Il n'y a pas de fumée sans feu (there's no smoke without fire / where there's smoke there's fire).

So, the 1st thing I would look for is "fire". Maybe her heart is burning with love for you :)

I would investigate in a way that shows her my concerns, whilst at the same time, I learn more about her feelings. But, in no way I would try and get some information about the who-and-why spread the rumour. I would do something like this:

Hi Alice,

I just heard something weird... It came into my ears that "either I wanted a relationship with you or you wanted a relationship with me."

Please be assured that I never told that to anyone! It is not me who carries out leaks, I can guarantee you that. Trust me.

I hope that you are not worrying or upset because of this. I don't care who started this, but I don't mind, and just wanted to let you know.

Then, I would follow with the nicest things:

You are someone I find very [ all nice things you want to tell her ].

  • This way, you kill the rumour right away, at least between the two of you.
  • You don't blame anybody for the rumour.
  • You let her know what you think about it (it's not a big deal for you, but you care about her and hope she's not been hurt).
  • You let her know with your own words what you think and feel about her.
  • You leave the door open for her to tell you (what she feels, or, from your comment "I think the rumour originated from her, directly or indirectly", if she really started this, or not...) without pressuring her and asking for any answer.

It seems like a good option to deflect all this rumour and, being straight, clear and honest, hopefully get the best out of it.


From your comments: France. I'm around the Spanish border and she is around the German border. I want to know the truth by curiosity and to boost my self-confidence. If she was closer, I would act...

That's roughly 1000km. But not far enough to hide the truth I guess :) You can still use texts/mail/letter to learn more.

A rumour is a rumour. It's like a fire, it can start because of many things... As the French say: Il n'y a pas de fumée sans feu (there's no smoke without fire / where there's smoke there's fire).

So, the 1st thing I would look for is "fire". Maybe her heart is burning with love for you :)

I would investigate in a way that shows her my concerns, whilst at the same time, I learn more about her feelings. But, in no way I would try and get some information about the who-and-why spread the rumour, because it's not worth it IMO. I would do something like this:

Hi Alice,

I just heard something weird... It came into my ears that "either I wanted a relationship with you or you wanted a relationship with me."

Please be assured that I never told that to anyone! It is not me who carries out leaks, I can guarantee you that. Trust me.

I hope that you are not worrying or upset because of this. I don't care who started this, but I don't mind, and just wanted to let you know.

Then, I would follow with the nicest things:

You are someone I find very [ all nice things you want to tell her ].

  • This way, you kill the rumour right away, at least between the two of you.
  • You don't blame anybody for the rumour.
  • You let her know what you think about it (it's not a big deal for you, but you care about her and hope she's not been hurt).
  • You let her know with your own words what you think and feel about her.
  • You leave the door open for her to tell you (what she feels, or, from your comment "I think the rumour originated from her, directly or indirectly", if she really started this, or not...) without pressuring her and asking for any answer.

It seems like a good option to deflect all this rumour and, being straight, clear and honest, hopefully get the best out of it.


From your comments: France. I'm around the Spanish border and she is around the German border. I want to know the truth by curiosity and to boost my self-confidence. If she was closer, I would act...

That's roughly 1000km. But not far enough to hide the truth I guess :) You can still use texts/mail/letter to learn more.

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A rumour is a rumour. It's like a fire, it can start because of many things... As the French say: Il n'y a pas de fumée sans feu (there's no smoke without fire / where there's smoke there's fire).

So, the 1st thing I would look for is "fire". Maybe her heart is burning with love for you :)

I would investigate in a way that shows her my concerns, whilst at the same time, I learn more about her feelings. But, in no way I would try and get some information about the who-and-why spread the rumour. I would do something like this:

Hi Alice,

I just heard something weird... It came into my ears that "either I wanted a relationship with you or you wanted a relationship with me."

Please be assured that I never told that to anyone! It is not me who carries out leaks, I can guarantee you that. Trust me.

I hope that you are not worrying or upset because of this. I don't care who started this, but I don't mind, and just wanted to let you know.

Then, I would follow with the nicest things:

You are someone I find very [ all nice things you want to tell her ].

  • This way, you kill the rumour right away, at least between the two of you.
  • You don't blame anybody for the rumour.
  • You let her know what you think about it (it's not a big deal for you, but you care about her and hope she's not been hurt).
  • You let her know with your own words what you think and feel about her.
  • You leave the door open for her to tell you (what she feels, or, from your comment "I think the rumour originated from her, directly or indirectly", if she really started this, or not...) without pressuring her and asking for any answer.

It seems like a good option to deflect all this rumour and, being straight, clear and honest, hopefully get the best out of it.


From your comments: France. I'm around the Spanish border and she is around the German border. I want to know the truth by curiosity and to boost my self-confidence. If she was closer, I would act...

That's roughly 1000km. But not far enough to hide the truth I guess :) You can still use texts/mail/letter to learn more.

A rumour is a rumour. It's like a fire, it can start because of many things... As the French say: Il n'y a pas de fumée sans feu (there's no smoke without fire / where there's smoke there's fire).

So, the 1st thing I would look for is "fire". Maybe her heart is burning with love for you :)

I would investigate in a way that shows her my concerns, whilst at the same time, I learn more about her feelings. But, in no way I would try and get some information about the who-and-why spread the rumour. I would do something like this:

Hi Alice,

I just heard something weird... It came into my ears that "either I wanted a relationship with you or you wanted a relationship with me."

Please be assured that I never told that to anyone! It is not me who carries out leaks, I can guarantee you that. Trust me.

I hope that you are not worrying or upset because of this. I don't care who started this, but I don't mind, and just wanted to let you know.

Then, I would follow with the nicest things:

You are someone I find very [ all nice things you want to tell her ].

  • This way, you kill the rumour right away, at least between the two of you.
  • You don't blame anybody for the rumour.
  • You let her know what you think about it (it's not a big deal for you, but you care about her and hope she's not been hurt).
  • You let her know with your own words what you think and feel about her.
  • You leave the door open for her to tell you, without pressuring her and asking for any answer.

It seems like a good option to deflect all this rumour and, being straight, clear and honest, hopefully get the best out of it.

A rumour is a rumour. It's like a fire, it can start because of many things... As the French say: Il n'y a pas de fumée sans feu (there's no smoke without fire / where there's smoke there's fire).

So, the 1st thing I would look for is "fire". Maybe her heart is burning with love for you :)

I would investigate in a way that shows her my concerns, whilst at the same time, I learn more about her feelings. But, in no way I would try and get some information about the who-and-why spread the rumour. I would do something like this:

Hi Alice,

I just heard something weird... It came into my ears that "either I wanted a relationship with you or you wanted a relationship with me."

Please be assured that I never told that to anyone! It is not me who carries out leaks, I can guarantee you that. Trust me.

I hope that you are not worrying or upset because of this. I don't care who started this, but I don't mind, and just wanted to let you know.

Then, I would follow with the nicest things:

You are someone I find very [ all nice things you want to tell her ].

  • This way, you kill the rumour right away, at least between the two of you.
  • You don't blame anybody for the rumour.
  • You let her know what you think about it (it's not a big deal for you, but you care about her and hope she's not been hurt).
  • You let her know with your own words what you think and feel about her.
  • You leave the door open for her to tell you (what she feels, or, from your comment "I think the rumour originated from her, directly or indirectly", if she really started this, or not...) without pressuring her and asking for any answer.

It seems like a good option to deflect all this rumour and, being straight, clear and honest, hopefully get the best out of it.


From your comments: France. I'm around the Spanish border and she is around the German border. I want to know the truth by curiosity and to boost my self-confidence. If she was closer, I would act...

That's roughly 1000km. But not far enough to hide the truth I guess :) You can still use texts/mail/letter to learn more.

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