Timeline for How do I clarify that the gift someone gave me is mine when they are asking for it back?
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| Apr 3, 2018 at 9:16 | comment | added | AndyT | @AngeloFuchs - I think, perhaps, there are different semantic interpretations of "a gift". Dictionary.com gives "something given voluntarily without payment in return, as to show favor toward someone, honor an occasion, or make a gesture of assistance". I hear "gift" and I think "something given to honor an occasion". I recognise its use as per OP's meaning of "something given to make a gesture of assistance", but to me it carries slightly different implications. Hence my attempted clarification in my answer. | |
| Apr 3, 2018 at 8:33 | comment | added | Angelo Fuchs | @LVDV I think so, my comment was more along the lines that his assumption of what is considered a "gift" might not be the same everywhere (or in general). Where I'm from the actions of Jane would be considered as giving a gift, then demanding it back. | |
| Apr 2, 2018 at 10:36 | comment | added | LVDV | @AngeloFuchs Jane didn't say OP can have the camera, she said OP could keep it. What I think AnyT means by "the favor" is OP having easy access and full use of the camera because OP could keep it with him. | |
| Mar 31, 2018 at 21:22 | comment | added | Angelo Fuchs | Might be a cultural thing, but where I live your sentence "This was just something Jane was no longer using. It's a favour, not a gift." is just plain wrong. When I give something to you without any intention of owning it back later and without cost to you - that's a gift. | |
| Mar 28, 2018 at 12:00 | history | answered | AndyT | CC BY-SA 3.0 |