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I’ve been friends with someone I met at university for 7 or so years now. We became fairly inseparable rather quickly after meeting. We're both equally socially awkward females that shared very common interests and then cultivated new interests together pretty consistently throughout the years. I'm 25, she's 24. Through life's funny twistsWe're both mid-twenties and turns, we ended up working in the same team, at the same companywork together. We've taken a few trips together over the years and we have another one coming up in roughly a month.

I'm socially anxious as well, I've had situations in a previous recent small trip (1 week break overseas) where she would refuse to do something as simple as take a photo at a landmark, either with me or even of me, and I lacked the confidence to feel comfortable using my selfie stick or to ask another person. These were isolated incidents, often in heavily crowded attractions (she's not a fan of crowds) but seeing as I never know what attitude to expect from her nowadays... that's a very likely scenario to happen. Personally, I have resigned myself to knowing that I have to build up the courage to get the outcomes I desire in these situations, but I don't want to do it in a way in which my frustration or unhappiness will be apparent to her, so as to not create animosity.

I’ve been friends with someone I met at university for 7 or so years now. We became fairly inseparable rather quickly after meeting. We're both equally socially awkward females that shared very common interests and then cultivated new interests together pretty consistently throughout the years. I'm 25, she's 24. Through life's funny twists and turns, we ended up working in the same team, at the same company. We've taken a few trips together over the years and we have another one coming up in roughly a month.

I'm socially anxious as well, I've had situations in a previous recent small trip (1 week break overseas) where she would refuse to do something as simple as take a photo at a landmark, either with me or even of me, and I lacked the confidence to feel comfortable using my selfie stick or to ask another person. These were isolated incidents, often in heavily crowded attractions (she's not a fan of crowds) but seeing as I never know what attitude to expect from her nowadays... that's a very likely scenario to happen. Personally, I have resigned myself to knowing that I have to build up the courage to get the outcomes I desire in these situations, but I don't want to do it in a way in which my frustration or unhappiness will be apparent to her, so as to not create animosity.

I’ve been friends with someone for 7 or so years now. We became fairly inseparable rather quickly after meeting. We're both equally socially awkward females that shared very common interests and then cultivated new interests together pretty consistently throughout the years. We're both mid-twenties and work together. We've taken a few trips together over the years and we have another one coming up in roughly a month.

I'm socially anxious as well, I've had situations in a previous recent small trip where she would refuse to do something as simple as take a photo at a landmark, either with me or even of me, and I lacked the confidence to feel comfortable using my selfie stick or to ask another person. These were isolated incidents, often in heavily crowded attractions (she's not a fan of crowds) but seeing as I never know what attitude to expect from her nowadays... that's a very likely scenario to happen. Personally, I have resigned myself to knowing that I have to build up the courage to get the outcomes I desire in these situations, but I don't want to do it in a way in which my frustration or unhappiness will be apparent to her, so as to not create animosity.

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How would I deal with this? ifIf we find each other disagreeing on the day's activities, or if I want to do something but am getting the "vibe" from her thanthat she would rather not... I don't want that to spoil my enjoyment or make me miss out on experiences that I could have, only because she has fallen into a sullen mood where she spends most of the time looking at her phone looking bored and disinterested in my company, let alone any scenery surrounding us. I'm unsure how to deal with this without causing hostility between us, which would be quite unfortunate when in a foreign country with nothing but ourselves for company!

I'm socially anxious as well, I've had situations in a previous tripsrecent small trip (1 week break overseas) where she would refuse to do something as simple as take a photo at a landmark, either with me or even of me, and I lacked the confidence to feel comfortable using my selfie stick or to ask another person. theseThese were isolated incidents, often in heavily crowded attractions (she's not a fan of crowds) but seeing as I never know what attitude to expect from her nowadays... that's a very likely scenario to happen. Personally, I have resigned myself to knowing that I have to build up the courage to get the outcomes I desire in these situations, but I don't want to do it in a way in which my frustration or unhappiness will be apparent to her, so as to not create animosity.

How would I deal with this? if we find each other disagreeing on the day's activities, or if I want to do something but am getting the "vibe" from her than she would rather not... I don't want that to spoil my enjoyment or make me miss out on experiences that I could have, only because she has fallen into a sullen mood where she spends most of the time looking at her phone looking bored and disinterested in my company, let alone any scenery surrounding us. I'm unsure how to deal with this without causing hostility between us, which would be quite unfortunate when in a foreign country with nothing but ourselves for company!

I'm socially anxious as well, I've had situations in previous trips where she would refuse to do something as simple as take a photo at a landmark, either with me or even of me, and I lacked the confidence to feel comfortable using my selfie stick or to ask another person. these were isolated incidents, often in heavily crowded attractions (she's not a fan of crowds) but seeing as I never know what attitude to expect from her nowadays... that's a very likely scenario to happen. Personally, I have resigned myself to knowing that I have to build up the courage to get the outcomes I desire in these situations, but I don't want to do it in a way in which my frustration or unhappiness will be apparent to her, so as to not create animosity.

How would I deal with this? If we find each other disagreeing on the day's activities, or if I want to do something but am getting the "vibe" from her that she would rather not... I don't want that to spoil my enjoyment or make me miss out on experiences that I could have, only because she has fallen into a sullen mood where she spends most of the time looking at her phone looking bored and disinterested in my company, let alone any scenery surrounding us. I'm unsure how to deal with this without causing hostility between us, which would be quite unfortunate when in a foreign country with nothing but ourselves for company!

I'm socially anxious as well, I've had situations in a previous recent small trip (1 week break overseas) where she would refuse to do something as simple as take a photo at a landmark, either with me or even of me, and I lacked the confidence to feel comfortable using my selfie stick or to ask another person. These were isolated incidents, often in heavily crowded attractions (she's not a fan of crowds) but seeing as I never know what attitude to expect from her nowadays... that's a very likely scenario to happen. Personally, I have resigned myself to knowing that I have to build up the courage to get the outcomes I desire in these situations, but I don't want to do it in a way in which my frustration or unhappiness will be apparent to her, so as to not create animosity.

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I just wasn't sure how to summarize this, sorry. But let's try: Was very close friends with someone for the better part of 7 years. We've been drifting apart for the last year or so as she makes me feel underappreciated, taken for granted and sometimes even like a nuisance. I want to cut ties to being only coworkers but we have a trip coming up. Since she has exhibited untoward behaviour in previous trips together (plus her overall attitude lately), I am feeling anxious about the possibility of this trip being ruined by her. Cancelling is not an option.

How would I negotiate the situation when she is acting sullen and uninterested in our activities or is exhibiting an attitude that is sullying the mood? I don't want to miss out on opportunities or experiences but also don't want to antagonize her or create an even more uncomfortable situation...

Suggested TL;DR

I just wasn't sure how to summarize this, sorry. But let's try: Was very close friends with someone for the better part of 7 years. We've been drifting apart for the last year or so as she makes me feel underappreciated, taken for granted and sometimes even like a nuisance. I want to cut ties to being only coworkers but we have a trip coming up. Since she has exhibited untoward behaviour in previous trips together (plus her overall attitude lately), I am feeling anxious about the possibility of this trip being ruined by her. Cancelling is not an option.

How would I negotiate the situation when she is acting sullen and uninterested in our activities or is exhibiting an attitude that is sullying the mood? I don't want to miss out on opportunities or experiences but also don't want to antagonize her or create an even more uncomfortable situation...

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