Timeline for How to tactfully communicate with ex-boyfriend about my personal choices?
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| Dec 2, 2019 at 19:40 | comment | added | Luke Griffiths | A statement of the form "If you date X, then I will not be your friend any more" is different than "If you date X, then I will take your air supply away". Air is a right and so threatening to take it away is coercion. His friendship is not a right so threatening to take it away is not coercion. One way to look at this is that Tom has just notified you of his policy. Perhaps it's not intended as a punishment to shape your behavior, but just disclosure of the fact that he won't be able to be friends with you while you date the coworker. | |
| Aug 3, 2018 at 15:23 | comment | added | user19898 | Thank you for the advice. I agree that I cannot demand Tom feel a particular way or expect him to be friends with me because I did hurt him. However, I would like to be civil and explain that I don't think it's fair for him to treat me this way or put ultimatums on who I can date now that we've broken up in the most tactful way possible. I'll take into consideration your advice next time I talk to him. Thanks again! | |
| Aug 2, 2018 at 16:08 | history | answered | Upper_Case | CC BY-SA 4.0 |