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How do I tell my boyfriend how much I want these pictures gone, and that this task is not something he can postpone any longer?

At this point, after dating for a couple of years, I don't think it's unreasonable for you to be a bit more firm in your request.

First, use your own idea of offering to remove them together. This seems like a good group effort approach to try first. It is a nonconfrontational approach to achieve the desired result.

If that doesn't work, on your next visit, say something like:

"It bothers me to see the pictures of your ex-girlfriend, and you don't seem to care about my feelings in this regard. If you are that attached to them and won't put them away, perhaps we can go out versus staying here at your place."

What you're doing essentially without saying it directly: as long as those pictures are still on display, I won't be staying or visiting your place. You have already tried a more gentle approach, and those don't appear to have been effective.

If I read the tea leaves correctly, that may be enough for him to put them away. He may also become a bit agitated that you are "making a big deal" out of what he perceives as nothing. Do not concede here. IMO it's very disrespectful to you, two plus years into your relationship.

When I see pictures of ex's around it still tells me the person with the photos may still have feelings for the ex. Certainly after two years, it should not be a big deal to put them away. If you were to marry this person, would they expect to keep the pictures on display then?

Ultimately, when I was dating I did not keep pictures of my ex-girlfriends out for the next person to see. It was part of my past, so those went in the drawer somewhere.

I know this is a bit of a generalization, but you have asked him to remove them already. I would have to ask myself:

"Why are they still there? Am I sure he is still not hung up on her?"

You have some interesting conversations ahead of you to get this resolved. But at some point, you need to stand your ground.

How do I tell my boyfriend how much I want these pictures gone, and that this task is not something he can postpone any longer?

At this point, after dating for a couple of years, I don't think it's unreasonable for you to be a bit more firm in your request.

First, use your own idea of offering to remove them together. This seems like a good group effort approach to try first. It is a nonconfrontational approach to achieve the desired result.

If that doesn't work, on your next visit, say something like:

"It bothers me to see the pictures of your ex-girlfriend, and you don't seem to care about my feelings in this regard. If you are that attached to them and won't put them away, perhaps we can go out versus staying here at your place."

What you're doing essentially without saying it directly: as long as those pictures are still on display, I won't be staying or visiting your place. You have already tried a more gentle approach, and those don't appear to have been effective.

If I read the tea leaves correctly, that may be enough for him to put them away. He may also become a bit agitated that you are "making a big deal" out of what he perceives as nothing. Do not concede here. IMO it's very disrespectful to you, two plus years into your relationship.

When I see pictures of ex's around it still tells me the person with the photos may still have feelings for the ex. Certainly after two years, it should not be a big deal to put them away. If you were to marry this person, would they expect to keep the pictures on display then?

Ultimately, when I was dating I did not keep pictures of my ex-girlfriends out for the next person to see. It was part of my past, so those went in the drawer somewhere.

I know this is a bit of a generalization, but you have asked him to remove them already. I would have to ask myself:

"Why are they still there? Am I sure he is still not hung up on her?"

You have some interesting conversations ahead of you to get this resolved. But at some point, you need to stand your ground.

How do I tell my boyfriend how much I want these pictures gone, and that this task is not something he can postpone any longer?

At this point, after dating for a couple of years, I don't think it's unreasonable for you to be a bit more firm in your request.

First, use your own idea of offering to remove them together. This seems like a good group effort approach to try first. It is a nonconfrontational approach to achieve the desired result.

If that doesn't work, on your next visit, say something like:

"It bothers me to see the pictures of your ex-girlfriend, and you don't seem to care about my feelings in this regard. If you are that attached to them and won't put them away, perhaps we can go out versus staying here at your place."

What you're doing essentially without saying it directly: as long as those pictures are still on display, I won't be staying or visiting your place. You have already tried a more gentle approach, and those don't appear to have been effective.

If I read the tea leaves correctly, that may be enough for him to put them away. He may also become a bit agitated that you are "making a big deal" out of what he perceives as nothing. Do not concede here. IMO it's very disrespectful to you, two plus years into your relationship.

When I see pictures of ex's around it still tells me the person with the photos may still have feelings for the ex. Certainly after two years, it should not be a big deal to put them away. If you were to marry this person, would they expect to keep the pictures on display?

Ultimately, when I was dating I did not keep pictures of my ex-girlfriends out for the next person to see. It was part of my past, so those went in the drawer somewhere.

I know this is a bit of a generalization, but you have asked him to remove them already. I would have to ask myself:

"Why are they still there? Am I sure he is still not hung up on her?"

You have some interesting conversations ahead of you to get this resolved. But at some point, you need to stand your ground.

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How do I tell my boyfriend how much I want these pictures gone, and that this task is not something he can postpone any longer?

At this point, after dating for a couple of years, I don't think it's unreasonable for you to be a bit more firm in your request.

First, use your own idea of offering to remove them together. This seems like a good group effort approach to try first. It is a nonconfrontational approach to achieve the desired result.

If that doesn't work, on your next visit, say something like:

"It bothers me to see the pictures of your ex-girlfriend, and you don't seem to care about my feelings in this regard. If you are that attached to them and won't put them away, perhaps we can go out versus staying here at your place."

What you're doing essentially without saying it directly: as long as those pictures are still on display, I won't be staying or visiting your place.   You have already tried a more gentle approach, and those don't appear to have been effective.

If I read the tea leaves correctly, that may be enough for him to put them away. He may also become a bit agitated that you are "making a big deal" out of what he perceives as nothing. Do not concede here. IMO it's very disrespectful to you, two plus years into your relationship.

When I see pictures of ex's around it still tells me the person with the photos may still have feelings for the ex. Certainly after two years, it should not be a big deal to put them away. If you were to marry this person, would they expect to keep the pictures on display then?

Ultimately, when I was dating I did not keep pictures of my ex-girlfriends out for the next person to see. It was part of my past, so those went in the drawer somewhere.

I know this is a bit of a generalization, but you have asked him to remove them already. I would have to ask myself:

"Why are they still there? Am I sure he is still not hung up on her?"

You have some interesting conversations ahead of you to get this resolved. But at some point, you need to stand your ground.

How do I tell my boyfriend how much I want these pictures gone, and that this task is not something he can postpone any longer?

At this point, after dating for a couple of years, I don't think it's unreasonable for you to be a bit more firm in your request.

First, use your own idea of offering to remove them together. This seems like a good group effort approach to try first. It is a nonconfrontational approach to achieve the desired result.

If that doesn't work, on your next visit, say something like:

"It bothers me to see the pictures of your ex-girlfriend, and you don't seem to care about my feelings in this regard. If you are that attached to them and won't put them away, perhaps we can go out versus staying here at your place."

What you're doing essentially without saying it directly: as long as those pictures are still on display, I won't be staying or visiting your place.  

If I read the tea leaves correctly, that may be enough for him to put them away. He may also become a bit agitated that you are "making a big deal" out of what he perceives as nothing. Do not concede here. IMO it's very disrespectful to you, two plus years into your relationship.

Ultimately, when I was dating I did not keep pictures of my ex-girlfriends out for the next person to see. It was part of my past, so those went in the drawer somewhere.

I know this is a bit of a generalization, but you have asked him to remove them already. I would have to ask myself:

"Why are they still there? Am I sure he is still not hung up on her?"

You have some interesting conversations ahead of you to get this resolved. But at some point, you need to stand your ground.

How do I tell my boyfriend how much I want these pictures gone, and that this task is not something he can postpone any longer?

At this point, after dating for a couple of years, I don't think it's unreasonable for you to be a bit more firm in your request.

First, use your own idea of offering to remove them together. This seems like a good group effort approach to try first. It is a nonconfrontational approach to achieve the desired result.

If that doesn't work, on your next visit, say something like:

"It bothers me to see the pictures of your ex-girlfriend, and you don't seem to care about my feelings in this regard. If you are that attached to them and won't put them away, perhaps we can go out versus staying here at your place."

What you're doing essentially without saying it directly: as long as those pictures are still on display, I won't be staying or visiting your place. You have already tried a more gentle approach, and those don't appear to have been effective.

If I read the tea leaves correctly, that may be enough for him to put them away. He may also become a bit agitated that you are "making a big deal" out of what he perceives as nothing. Do not concede here. IMO it's very disrespectful to you, two plus years into your relationship.

When I see pictures of ex's around it still tells me the person with the photos may still have feelings for the ex. Certainly after two years, it should not be a big deal to put them away. If you were to marry this person, would they expect to keep the pictures on display then?

Ultimately, when I was dating I did not keep pictures of my ex-girlfriends out for the next person to see. It was part of my past, so those went in the drawer somewhere.

I know this is a bit of a generalization, but you have asked him to remove them already. I would have to ask myself:

"Why are they still there? Am I sure he is still not hung up on her?"

You have some interesting conversations ahead of you to get this resolved. But at some point, you need to stand your ground.

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How do I tell my boyfriend how much I want these pictures gone, and that this task is not something he can postpone any longer?

At this point, after dating for a couple of years, I don't think itsit's unreasonable for you to be a bit more firm in youyour request.

First, use your own idea of offering to remove them together. This seems like a good group effort approach to try first. It is a non confrontationalnonconfrontational approach to achieve the desired result.

If that doesn't work, on your next visit, say something like:

"It bothers me to see the pictures of your ex girlfriend-girlfriend, and you don't seem to care about my feelings in this regard. If you are that attached to them and won't put them away, perhaps we can go out versus staying here at your place."

What you're doing essentially without saying it directly: as long as those pictures are still on display, I won't be staying or visiting your place.

If I read the tea leaves correctly, that may be enough for him to put them away. He may also become a bit agitated that you are "making a big deal" out of what he perceives as nothing. Do not concede here. IMO it's very disrespectful to you, two plus years into your relationship.

Ultimately, when I was dating I did not keep pictures of my ex girlfriends-girlfriends out for the next person to see. It was part of my past, so those went in the drawer somewhere.

I know this is a bit of a generalization, but you have asked him to remove them already. I would have to ask myself:

"Why are they still there? Am I sure he is still not hung up on her?"

You have some interesting conversations ahead of you to get this resolved. But at some point, you need to stand your ground.

How do I tell my boyfriend how much I want these pictures gone, and that this task is not something he can postpone any longer?

At this point, after dating for a couple of years, I don't think its unreasonable for you to be a bit more firm in you request.

First, use your own idea of offering to remove them together. This seems like a good group effort approach to try first. It is a non confrontational approach to achieve the desired result.

If that doesn't work, on your next visit, say something like:

"It bothers me to see the pictures of your ex girlfriend, and you don't seem to care about my feelings in this regard. If you are that attached to them and won't put them away, perhaps we can go out versus staying here at your place."

What you're doing essentially without saying it directly: as long as those pictures are still on display, I won't be staying or visiting your place.

If I read the tea leaves correctly, that may be enough for him to put them away. He may also become a bit agitated that you are "making a big deal" out of what he perceives as nothing. Do not concede here. IMO it's very disrespectful to you, two plus years into your relationship.

Ultimately, when I was dating I did not keep pictures of my ex girlfriends out for the next person to see. It was part of my past, so those went in the drawer somewhere.

I know this is a bit of a generalization, but you have asked him to remove them already. I would have to ask myself:

"Why are they still there? Am I sure he is still not hung up on her?"

You have some interesting conversations ahead of you to get this resolved. But at some point you need to stand your ground.

How do I tell my boyfriend how much I want these pictures gone, and that this task is not something he can postpone any longer?

At this point, after dating for a couple of years, I don't think it's unreasonable for you to be a bit more firm in your request.

First, use your own idea of offering to remove them together. This seems like a good group effort approach to try first. It is a nonconfrontational approach to achieve the desired result.

If that doesn't work, on your next visit, say something like:

"It bothers me to see the pictures of your ex-girlfriend, and you don't seem to care about my feelings in this regard. If you are that attached to them and won't put them away, perhaps we can go out versus staying here at your place."

What you're doing essentially without saying it directly: as long as those pictures are still on display, I won't be staying or visiting your place.

If I read the tea leaves correctly, that may be enough for him to put them away. He may also become a bit agitated that you are "making a big deal" out of what he perceives as nothing. Do not concede here. IMO it's very disrespectful to you, two plus years into your relationship.

Ultimately, when I was dating I did not keep pictures of my ex-girlfriends out for the next person to see. It was part of my past, so those went in the drawer somewhere.

I know this is a bit of a generalization, but you have asked him to remove them already. I would have to ask myself:

"Why are they still there? Am I sure he is still not hung up on her?"

You have some interesting conversations ahead of you to get this resolved. But at some point, you need to stand your ground.

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