Timeline for How can I convince my parents to respect my privacy?
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| Aug 28, 2017 at 6:25 | comment | added | NVZ | @DerekElkins I suppose you're going to post an answer? Comments are temporary. | |
| Aug 26, 2017 at 9:10 | comment | added | user510 | I disagree strongly. This answer just advocates giving up privacy and boundaries and accepting the false opposition between privacy and illegitimate secrets. | |
| Aug 26, 2017 at 2:03 | comment | added | user3316 | Ok, maybe what I'm saying is that if something is out of the norm, it is... curious. After taking a look at the actual definition of suspicious (having or showing a cautious distrust of someone or something), I'd say that it is a bit too strong. But it might be of note to the parents. Haha | |
| Aug 25, 2017 at 23:53 | comment | added | Derek Elkins left SE | @Thomas I would say someone doing something that everyone does can hardly be viewed as suspicious behavior. I explicitly acknowledged that the parents are (possibly irrationally) taking this perspective. What I'm complaining about is the answer does and suggests buying into the parents' framing. First, I just think that framing is wrong. Second, this eliminates leverage from the OP: "I agree this is suspicious, but you should let me do suspicious things anyway" is not a strong argument. Third, this sets a bad precedent. I admit rejecting the framing in a non-combative way is difficult. | |
| Aug 25, 2017 at 23:25 | comment | added | user3316 | @Derek, there is no objective right or wrong to whether it is suspicious, and frankly it isn't really even relevant either. What really matters is whether the OPs parents think it's suspicious. They do. The answer masterfully took that into account imo. | |
| Aug 25, 2017 at 23:20 | comment | added | HDE 226868 | @DerekElkins That assumption is something that the OP's parents made; it's the reason he's in this situation in the first place. | |
| Aug 25, 2017 at 23:17 | comment | added | Derek Elkins left SE | I strongly disagree with the underlying premise in this answer that closing one's door "looks suspicious" or is "hiding" something. Wanting privacy is a perfectly normal thing that people do throughout their lives, rarely because they are doing "something bad". Why even have doors in homes if their only purpose is for "suspicious" people to "hide" doing "something bad"? I do agree that there seems to be a trust issue if the parents feel they need to constantly surveil the OP to feel confident the OP isn't doing "something bad", but this may be an irrationality on the parents' part. | |
| Aug 25, 2017 at 20:55 | comment | added | HDE 226868 | That's an excellent point, @user3169. Thank you. I've made an edit accordingly. | |
| Aug 25, 2017 at 20:55 | history | edited | HDE 226868 | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Aug 25, 2017 at 20:50 | comment | added | user3169 | You might add that a parents responsibility (often legal) for their children is different from other situations between adults. So they have some additional rights in that respect. Management of electronic communications is a contentious issue. | |
| Aug 25, 2017 at 20:10 | vote | accept | Android Admirer | ||
| Aug 25, 2017 at 19:57 | history | edited | HDE 226868 | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Aug 25, 2017 at 19:47 | history | edited | HDE 226868 | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Aug 25, 2017 at 19:44 | vote | accept | Android Admirer | ||
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| Aug 25, 2017 at 19:38 | history | answered | HDE 226868 | CC BY-SA 3.0 |