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Explaining what I mean by "wall", before someone gets smart. Consciously avoided saying the law/legal words like "Rendering" and "Rendition" (because what section is that for?), to fit "Interpersonal" niceties.
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HoweverFurther, to define "wall", in the interest of sincerity, I can prove the building schematics of the apartments I've been suggested alone and then rented, which all happen to only have apartments available with LENGTHY (10+ meters) plaster walls adjacent to a long hallway. Almost like it was selected/built/made to allow someone talk through the wall, um, theoretically, but who would/could plan that deliberately huh, just theoretical? Long enough hallway-adjacent-apartment-wall to say a few witty lines while slowly walking by, and be clearly heard inside your room. For some reason, all my apartment suggestions only have those available, just by, um, coincidence I guess? Provable as fact.

Anyway, however, every week while sitting alone in my room, other tenants (or cops, you be the judge? These people I am describing are NOT wearing uniforms/insignias, not invited nor official business) strike up a conversation with me (audio recorded from inside my room, if you have time/credentials please legally ask me for proof) that went something like this:

However, every week while sitting alone in my room, other tenants (or cops, you be the judge? These people I am describing are NOT wearing uniforms/insignias, not invited nor official business) strike up a conversation with me (audio recorded from inside my room, if you have time/credentials please legally ask me for proof) that went something like this:

Further, to define "wall", in the interest of sincerity, I can prove the building schematics of the apartments I've been suggested alone and then rented, which all happen to only have apartments available with LENGTHY (10+ meters) plaster walls adjacent to a long hallway. Almost like it was selected/built/made to allow someone talk through the wall, um, theoretically, but who would/could plan that deliberately huh, just theoretical? Long enough hallway-adjacent-apartment-wall to say a few witty lines while slowly walking by, and be clearly heard inside your room. For some reason, all my apartment suggestions only have those available, just by, um, coincidence I guess? Provable as fact.

Anyway, however, every week while sitting alone in my room, other tenants (or cops, you be the judge? These people I am describing are NOT wearing uniforms/insignias, not invited nor official business) strike up a conversation with me (audio recorded from inside my room, if you have time/credentials please legally ask me for proof) that went something like this:

Making sure I am speaking from experience, and making sure you know who "started" what. :∫
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So this has happened many times/years (I do NOT talk back/fight back, I do not blast music back) to older me in apartments I paid rent for as an adult, as well as me younger in a family environment, generally from people who I suspect can not sit still/stationary for 24 hours let alone 7 days straight like I do, I generally (historically for multiple decades, provable with Google Maps Location Tracing I volunteer data for) leave ~once a week, and walk straight. (Sorry, I mean "let alone" https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/let_alone like the expression for that one reference.)

So this has happened to older me in apartments I paid rent for as an adult, as well as me younger in a family environment, generally from people who I suspect can not sit still/stationary for 24 hours let alone 7 days straight like I do, I generally (historically for multiple decades, provable with Google Maps Location Tracing I volunteer data for) leave ~once a week, and walk straight. (Sorry, I mean "let alone" https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/let_alone like the expression for that one reference.)

So this has happened many times/years (I do NOT talk back/fight back, I do not blast music back) to older me in apartments I paid rent for as an adult, as well as me younger in a family environment, generally from people who I suspect can not sit still/stationary for 24 hours let alone 7 days straight like I do, I generally (historically for multiple decades, provable with Google Maps Location Tracing I volunteer data for) leave ~once a week, and walk straight. (Sorry, I mean "let alone" https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/let_alone like the expression for that one reference.)

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Responding to being told to "walk around instead of staying alone in your room" by a stranger knocking on your wall?

This seems to be a fairly common scenario for me only/uniquely, til COVID-19 hit and now everyone's doing it. I figure the judgement is still there, but now you have to qualify yourself to be alone, with reasons unrelated to my being alone (https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/alone).

I was alone, since about age 10 to age 18, on my own floor in my house in my family-of-origin home too. Even family can be strangers, please feel free to include that angle. My parents lived permanently alone in their own rooms with their own locked doors in the same family house (for my entire life and my only real memory), care to judge what and how much expressing "alone" means to me, am I being fair/real about being alone, do these strangers/harassments deserve a response?

So this has happened to older me in apartments I paid rent for as an adult, as well as me younger in a family environment, generally from people who I suspect can not sit still/stationary for 24 hours let alone 7 days straight like I do, I generally (historically for multiple decades, provable with Google Maps Location Tracing I volunteer data for) leave ~once a week, and walk straight. (Sorry, I mean "let alone" https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/let_alone like the expression for that one reference.)

I do not technically know if these people are informed that by "alone", they're not including/mentioning/talking about the Internet. I am not alone talking to the concrete wall. Paying Amazon Prime while "alone". Avoiding diseases/viruses while alone. Internet while alone. Chatting while "alone". Social while alone.

I can guarantee/assure you I am not one of those people rioting about not being able to go outside. Because I like and found value in being inside. Again, this is not a new story for me, this is old news for my behavior. But every so often someone individually decides they're going to talk to me, even if that means blasting through my plaster wall, some people feel good about doing that apparently, and it does not require a warrant or expertise, just powerful singing lungs.

Also, for the record, I am not building bombs in my room.

However, every week while sitting alone in my room, other tenants (or cops, you be the judge? These people I am describing are NOT wearing uniforms/insignias, not invited nor official business) strike up a conversation with me (audio recorded from inside my room, if you have time/credentials please legally ask me for proof) that went something like this:

Stranger: "XYZ why alone in your/their room!? Waw taz weird wow!"

(Sung/screamed/belted through my door/window/wall, I do not like using CAPS KEY to show effect, please read like it's in capital letters please) [...including with "taz" instead of "that's", for the hyperaccentuated funny strangers who talk in funny voices for effect to show "emotion"/"concern", again not my accent, their "humorous"/"pleasant"/"nice" accent.]

Me: <silence/quiet> (I do not speak back.)

Personally, I find it annoying at best to feel like a stranger is telling me how to present myself (and where to go). I end up feeling like my personal security/"bubble" has been somewhat penetrated. It's not anyone's choice but my own if I choose to share a physical cue of (spatial) proximity with them, and being asked to do so makes me immediately disinterested in everything about the person in question who is making me listen to them by force.

What do you say, however, because I really don't know what to say next when people put me in this position. I don't want to be quiet and silent if that worries others, I get that me being completely 100% quiet and silent is not a "good response" for some people.

Given this information, what's the best way to respond to such comments? Is there a comment I can make and not be misperceived?

Should I scream back? Watching TV that would seem to be the advice, if you want a confrontation. I never did before (I do not scream, period, decibel volume is not part of my grammar style, is that my mistake?), but I will take your suggestions seriously.

Can I post a paper on my door/window informing people to be quiet because there is someone recording their conversation inside their room? Should I post a paper on my door saying I am making pop music to make it easier/simpler for others to understand/empathize/humanize me?

*Editor's Note: Heres wording was inspired by Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (CC licensed), because that's exactly what I'm being told here, I remember thinking of that question too. Feels like being told to smile instead of being alone.

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