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^{using or understanding interpersonal interactions to resolve specific problems or prevent problems from occurring with a specific goal in mind. This includes interactions with family, friends, work/school associates, acquaintances or strangers (or anyone else).}

Some strangers believe they're "helping" people who spend their time on a machine, by talking through their physical space, even talking through walls.

^{the written and unwritten - but well-established and expected - rules or conventions of behavior in a specific setting (also called etiquette)}

There are (to my knowledge) limited (social) conventions pertaining to people living on a computer. In the past, this sort of isolation and quarantine would be associated with some terrible life, even now people during COVID-19 can not talk about being alone with stable variables with which we can agree to be valid. People are worried about people changing (into what?) because they're "just sitting" that much.

^{understanding social norms as they relate to interpersonal interactions - why do we interact the way we do?}

What are the worries and implications, are others involved thinking about my health (sitting?) and safety (computer catching fire?)?

I am not old enough to sit by myself?

What etiquette examples for being a person alone in your room are there?

^{understanding theories and concepts commonly associated with interpersonal skills. - What is [theory/concept] or How do I use [theory/concept] to achieve [goal]?}

I guess there are many beliefs/theories about how being at a computer effects you or is part of real life.

How does the virtual-meet-physical in terms of city area style housing where people know you're "just" sitting in the next room all the time, might even know your location all the time if you're always here, theoretically/possibly many people would always know where you are and NOT need an app for tracking that.

Interpersonal realities become an issue if US Law "allows" this interaction, through a wall.

My experiential comments from personal experience, to give perspective.:

This seems to be a fairly common scenario for me only/uniquely, til COVID-19 hit and now everyone's doing it. I figure the judgement is still there, but now you have to qualify yourself to be alone, with reasons unrelated to my being alone (https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/alone).

*Editor's Note: Heres wording was inspired by Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (CC licensed), because that's exactly what I'm being told here, I remember thinking of that question too. Feels like being told to smile instead of being alone.

This seems to be a fairly common scenario for me only/uniquely, til COVID-19 hit and now everyone's doing it. I figure the judgement is still there, but now you have to qualify yourself to be alone, with reasons unrelated to my being alone (https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/alone).

*Editor's Note: Heres wording was inspired by Responding to being told to "smile" by a stranger? (CC licensed), because that's exactly what I'm being told here, I remember thinking of that question too. Feels like being told to smile instead of being alone.

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What do I do if some strangers believe they're "helping" people who spend their time on a machine, by talking through their physical space, even talking through walls.

^{the written and unwritten - but well-established and expected - rules or conventions of behavior in a specific setting (also called etiquette)}

There are (to my knowledge) limited (social) conventions pertaining to people living on a computer. In the past, this sort of isolation and quarantine would be associated with some terrible life, even now people during COVID-19 can not talk about being alone with stable variables with which we can agree to be valid. People are worried about people changing (into what?) because they're "just sitting" that much.

^{understanding social norms as they relate to interpersonal interactions - why do we interact the way we do?}

What are the worries and implications, are others involved thinking about my health (sitting?) and safety (computer catching fire?)?

I am not old enough to sit by myself?

What etiquette examples for being a person alone in your room are there?

^{understanding theories and concepts commonly associated with interpersonal skills. - What is [theory/concept] or How do I use [theory/concept] to achieve [goal]?}

I gather there are many beliefs/theories about how being at a computer effects you or is part of real life.

How does the virtual-meet-physical in terms of city area style housing where people know you're "just" sitting in the next room all the time, might even know your location all the time if you're always here, theoretically/possibly many people would always know where you are and NOT need an app for tracking that.

Interpersonal realities become an issue if US Law "allows" this interaction, through a wall.

This seems to be a fairly common scenario for me only/uniquely, til COVID-19 hit and now everyone's doing it. I figure the judgement is still there, but now you have to qualify yourself to be alone, with reasons unrelated to my being alone (https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/alone).

What do you say, however, because I really don't know what to say next when people put me in this position. I don't want to be quiet and silent if that worries others, I get that me being completely 100% quiet and silent is not a "good response" for some people.

Given this information, what's the best way to respond to such comments? Is there a comment I can make and not be misperceived?

Should I scream back? Watching TV that would seem to be the advice, if you want a confrontation. I never did before (I do not scream, period, decibel volume is not part of my grammar style, is that my mistake?), but I will take your suggestions seriously.

Can I post a paper on my door/window informing people to be quiet because there is someone recording their conversation inside their room? Should I post a paper on my door saying I am making pop music to make it easier/simpler for others to understand/empathize/humanize me?

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^{using or understanding interpersonal interactions to resolve specific problems or prevent problems from occurring with a specific goal in mind. This includes interactions with family, friends, work/school associates, acquaintances or strangers (or anyone else).}

Some strangers believe they're "helping" people who spend their time on a machine, by talking through their physical space, even talking through walls.

^{the written and unwritten - but well-established and expected - rules or conventions of behavior in a specific setting (also called etiquette)}

There are (to my knowledge) limited (social) conventions pertaining to people living on a computer. In the past, this sort of isolation and quarantine would be associated with some terrible life, even now people during COVID-19 can not talk about being alone with stable variables with which we can agree to be valid. People are worried about people changing (into what?) because they're "just sitting" that much.

^{understanding social norms as they relate to interpersonal interactions - why do we interact the way we do?}

What are the worries and implications, are others involved thinking about my health (sitting?) and safety (computer catching fire?)?

I am not old enough to sit by myself?

What etiquette examples for being a person alone in your room are there?

^{understanding theories and concepts commonly associated with interpersonal skills. - What is [theory/concept] or How do I use [theory/concept] to achieve [goal]?}

I guess there are many beliefs/theories about how being at a computer effects you or is part of real life.

How does the virtual-meet-physical in terms of city area style housing where people know you're "just" sitting in the next room all the time, might even know your location all the time if you're always here, theoretically/possibly many people would always know where you are and NOT need an app for tracking that.

Interpersonal realities become an issue if US Law "allows" this interaction, through a wall.

My experiential comments from personal experience, to give perspective.:

This seems to be a fairly common scenario for me only/uniquely, til COVID-19 hit and now everyone's doing it. I figure the judgement is still there, but now you have to qualify yourself to be alone, with reasons unrelated to my being alone (https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/alone).

I don't want to be quiet and silent if that worries others, I get that me being completely 100% quiet and silent is not a "good response" for some people.

Given this information, what's the best way to respond to such comments and not be misperceived?

Should I scream back (I am not asking for words to say), matching their decibel volume? Watching TV that would seem to be the advice, if you want a confrontation. I never did before (I do not scream, period, decibel volume is not part of my grammar style, is that my mistake?), but I will take your suggestions seriously.

Rhetorically (what ideas are important?), can I post a paper on my door/window informing people to be quiet because there is someone recording their conversation inside their room? Should I post a paper on my door saying I am making pop music to make it easier/simpler for others to understand/empathize/humanize me?

I am not seeking legal advice, in fact I am nonlitigious (if not antilitigious), so I would appreciate angles that appreciate that. Also, I have no interest in spycraft so please do not suggest I install my own CCTVs, I wish my landlord(s) had that but that's not my responsibility.

However, every week while sitting alone in my room, other tenants (or cops, you be the judge? These people I am describing are NOT wearing uniforms/insignias, not invited nor official business) strike up a conversation with me (audio recorded from inside my room, if you have time/credentials please legally ask me for proof) that went something like this:

Further, to define "wall", in the interest of sincerity, I can prove the building schematics of the apartments I've been suggested alone and then rented, which all happen to only have apartments available with LENGTHY (10+ meters) plaster walls adjacent to a long hallway. Almost like it was selected/built/made to allow someone talk through the wall, um, theoretically, but who would/could plan that deliberately huh, just theoretical? Long enough hallway-adjacent-apartment-wall to say a few witty lines while slowly walking by, and be clearly heard inside your room. For some reason, all my apartment suggestions only have those available, just by, um, coincidence I guess? Provable as fact.

Anyway, however, every week while sitting alone in my room, other tenants (or cops, you be the judge? These people I am describing are NOT wearing uniforms/insignias, not invited nor official business) strike up a conversation with me (audio recorded from inside my room, if you have time/credentials please legally ask me for proof) that went something like this: