Timeline for How do I explain moving out due to medical reasons to my roommate?
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| May 24, 2022 at 7:31 | comment | added | gnasher729 | The problem is not your fault, but you caused it. You call your friend insensitive, but it doesn’t look like you ever tried to see it from his point of view. You solved your problem, at your friends expense. Not that you shouldn’t solve your own problems but acknowledge that you caused him a problem. | |
| Mar 29, 2022 at 11:16 | vote | accept | stoic-santiago | ||
| Mar 27, 2022 at 16:49 | comment | added | Kate Gregory | I know you don't mean "my roommate is so noisy that I can't sleep" -- I am suggesting your angry and upset room-mate thinks you said "my roommate is so noisy that I can't sleep" - in other words, that this became a complaint about them. I'm encouraging you to characterize it as about you, not them, but only after you offer sympathy and understanding about what happened to them. If your room-mate knew you intended to go to housing, then the "if appropriate" part isn't, so don't say that part. And if you're not willing to withdraw your request, don't say that. I thought my "ifs" covered that. | |
| Mar 27, 2022 at 16:29 | comment | added | stoic-santiago | since my roommate was always aware of my issues, it's definitely not a shock or a surprise. In fact, he also knows most of the details. This is what makes me think that his reaction was quite insensitive! Also, I can't even say that I'm willing to withdraw my request, because I'm not - it's a pretty serious issue :'( Lastly, I did not know until much after my request was approved, that student housing had this particular allocation in mind. I really could not have done anything! (3/n) Thanks again, Kate. Let me know what you think. | |
| Mar 27, 2022 at 16:24 | comment | added | stoic-santiago | More precisely, my health issues make me highly sensitive to sounds in general - so I have nothing against him as a person, I just cannot live with any roommate who has different sleep habits. It's tough. I made this clear to student housing - that I had no specific personal issues with my roommate (in fact, I don't think he would intentionally create problems for me), rather it is a matter of taking care of my own health and finding a better environment in general. By the way, it wouldn't make sense to mention my private health issues without details (2/n) | |
| Mar 27, 2022 at 16:21 | comment | added | stoic-santiago | Thanks for your response, Kate! I must clarify a few things. My roommate already knew this was happening (and did not raise any objections), the only unknown was where the new room would be allocated to me. As a matter of chance, it happened to be on the same floor, which may have led to him having to move in with two roommates (instead of, say, one). If student housing were smart enough to find me a different floor, I don't think this situation would've arisen. Also, I didn't say that "my roommate is so noisy that I can't sleep", because that is not quite the case. (1/n) | |
| Mar 27, 2022 at 15:23 | history | edited | Kate Gregory | CC BY-SA 4.0 |
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| Mar 27, 2022 at 15:18 | history | answered | Kate Gregory | CC BY-SA 4.0 |