Timeline for In an early relationship, how can I handle my partner's deep depression and not be an enabler?
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| Oct 16, 2017 at 13:51 | comment | added | abavg | Oh, no judgement here. I read your intent, I just didn't know if I was clear on how I feel about her drug use, and how that factors in to be trying to find the line between being helpful (minimizing her pain) and being enabling (encouraging apathy and destructive behavior). Part of what makes this complicated is my desire to not shoot an essay into this SA community and try to at least be a little concise. Thank you!! | |
| Oct 16, 2017 at 3:27 | comment | added | apaul | @abavg also, my intent wasn't to judge you at all, my heart really goes out to you, I've been in enough of these situations to know what it feels like. It's absolutely gut wrenching to watch someone you care about suffer and not be able to do anything to help... I was just trying to offer a voice of experience. | |
| Oct 16, 2017 at 3:22 | comment | added | apaul | @abavg I don't doubt that she's suffering, and I'm well aware that marijuana can help with that, but like any prescription drug it can be abused. Often the goal in these situations isn't to eliminate pain, but to maximize function... I hope that makes sense? | |
| Oct 16, 2017 at 2:25 | comment | added | abavg | I have no doubt that some of the things I have been doing have been enabling, which is why I decided to seek advice here. Also, a comment on the self medication: I do believe she uses it to escape depression, but her chronic pain involves eating and reflux -- it manifests visibly, daily, and I have seen evidence that her smoking can keep it down. It is difficult to tell her not to smoke when I have to watch her eat less and be in visible pain as a consequence. | |
| Oct 13, 2017 at 6:50 | history | edited | apaul | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Oct 12, 2017 at 21:47 | history | answered | apaul | CC BY-SA 3.0 |