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I've been dating my girlfriend for two years (I'm 20 and she's 19) but I often find that we're running into situations where I'm being held to a standard that she won't comply with, despite a joint decision to follow the rule.

For example, if we don't like each other personally texting the opposite sex. She'd be angry that there was a woman in my phone. I wouldn't like the same, so we make the compromise not to do said thing as a unit. The problem is, she will end up doing it anyway but avoid fault by basically playing a middle ground.

She'd say something like "OK, but you're just being territorial" and basically act like it was 'OK' because of what she believed/her excuse to avoid accountability. Yet if I did the same I'd get blasted.

How can I talk to my significant other about this double standard so that she will stop?


Some background:

I've never cheated, but we got together in a weird way: she lied about being with another guy , that she said she was technically separated with or something like that. And then I found out, she said it was because she was scared to tell him they were done.

When I had female friends in the beginning of the relationship, she wanted them all gone because she said "females aren't just friends with guys". When I talked to her about that she basically said that I am an attractive guy, and females aren't just friends with attractive guys without other motives basically, or that they are just waiting for an opportunity to get intimate. She makes it pretty clear that she doesn't want any other women around period.

How can I talk to my significant other about this double standard soShe's explained that she will stop?really doesnt get along with or trust other women, and its like.. she doesnt want them to even experience satisfaction in interaction with me. Kind of like even if they smile at me, I must have done something wrong - I made another girl smile.

I've been dating my girlfriend for two years (I'm 20 and she's 19) but I often find that we're running into situations where I'm being held to a standard that she won't comply with, despite a joint decision to follow the rule.

For example, if we don't like each other personally texting the opposite sex. She'd be angry that there was a woman in my phone. I wouldn't like the same, so we make the compromise not to do said thing as a unit. The problem is, she will end up doing it anyway but avoid fault by basically playing a middle ground.

She'd say something like "OK, but you're just being territorial" and basically act like it was 'OK' because of what she believed/her excuse to avoid accountability. Yet if I did the same I'd get blasted.

When I had female friends in the beginning of the relationship, she wanted them all gone because she said "females aren't just friends with guys". When I talked to her about that she basically said that I am an attractive guy, and females aren't just friends with attractive guys without other motives basically, or that they are just waiting for an opportunity to get intimate. She makes it pretty clear that she doesn't want any other women around period.

How can I talk to my significant other about this double standard so that she will stop?

I've been dating my girlfriend for two years (I'm 20 and she's 19) but I often find that we're running into situations where I'm being held to a standard that she won't comply with, despite a joint decision to follow the rule.

For example, if we don't like each other personally texting the opposite sex. She'd be angry that there was a woman in my phone. I wouldn't like the same, so we make the compromise not to do said thing as a unit. The problem is, she will end up doing it anyway but avoid fault by basically playing a middle ground.

She'd say something like "OK, but you're just being territorial" and basically act like it was 'OK' because of what she believed/her excuse to avoid accountability. Yet if I did the same I'd get blasted.

How can I talk to my significant other about this double standard so that she will stop?


Some background:

I've never cheated, but we got together in a weird way: she lied about being with another guy , that she said she was technically separated with or something like that. And then I found out, she said it was because she was scared to tell him they were done.

When I had female friends in the beginning of the relationship, she wanted them all gone because she said "females aren't just friends with guys". When I talked to her about that she basically said that I am an attractive guy, and females aren't just friends with attractive guys without other motives basically, or that they are just waiting for an opportunity to get intimate. She makes it pretty clear that she doesn't want any other women around period.

She's explained that she really doesnt get along with or trust other women, and its like.. she doesnt want them to even experience satisfaction in interaction with me. Kind of like even if they smile at me, I must have done something wrong - I made another girl smile.

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What should How can I say to convince my significant other to stop double standards?

I've been dating my girlfriend for two years (I'm 20 and she's 19) but I often find that we're running into situations where I'm being held to a standard that she won't comply with, despite a joint decision to follow the rule.

For example, if we don't like each other personally texting the opposite sex. She'd be angry that there was a woman in my phone. I wouldn't like the same, so we make the compromise not to do said thing as a unit. The problem is, she will end up doing it anyway but avoid fault by basically playing a middle ground.

She'd say something like "OK, but you're just being territorial" and basically act like it was 'OK' because of what she believed/her excuse to avoid accountability. Yet if I did the same I'd get blasted.

When I had female friends in the beginning of the relationship, she wanted them all gone because she said "females aren't just friends with guys". When I talked to her about that she basically said that I am an attractive guy, and females aren't just friends with attractive guys without other motives basically, or that they are just waiting for an opportunity to get intimate. She makes it pretty clear that she doesn't want any other women around period.

How should I approach and respond to double standards? Should I end the compromise and do the same, or is there somethingcan I could say to get hertalk to understand themy significant other about this double standard so that she will stop?

What should I say to convince my significant other to stop double standards?

I've been dating my girlfriend for two years (I'm 20 and she's 19) but I often find that we're running into situations where I'm being held to a standard that she won't comply with, despite a joint decision to follow the rule.

For example, if we don't like each other personally texting the opposite sex. She'd be angry that there was a woman in my phone. I wouldn't like the same, so we make the compromise not to do said thing as a unit. The problem is, she will end up doing it anyway but avoid fault by basically playing a middle ground.

She'd say something like "OK, but you're just being territorial" and basically act like it was 'OK' because of what she believed/her excuse to avoid accountability. Yet if I did the same I'd get blasted.

When I had female friends in the beginning of the relationship, she wanted them all gone because she said "females aren't just friends with guys". When I talked to her about that she basically said that I am an attractive guy, and females aren't just friends with attractive guys without other motives basically, or that they are just waiting for an opportunity to get intimate. She makes it pretty clear that she doesn't want any other women around period.

How should I approach and respond to double standards? Should I end the compromise and do the same, or is there something I could say to get her to understand the double standard?

How can I convince my significant other to stop double standards?

I've been dating my girlfriend for two years (I'm 20 and she's 19) but I often find that we're running into situations where I'm being held to a standard that she won't comply with, despite a joint decision to follow the rule.

For example, if we don't like each other personally texting the opposite sex. She'd be angry that there was a woman in my phone. I wouldn't like the same, so we make the compromise not to do said thing as a unit. The problem is, she will end up doing it anyway but avoid fault by basically playing a middle ground.

She'd say something like "OK, but you're just being territorial" and basically act like it was 'OK' because of what she believed/her excuse to avoid accountability. Yet if I did the same I'd get blasted.

When I had female friends in the beginning of the relationship, she wanted them all gone because she said "females aren't just friends with guys". When I talked to her about that she basically said that I am an attractive guy, and females aren't just friends with attractive guys without other motives basically, or that they are just waiting for an opportunity to get intimate. She makes it pretty clear that she doesn't want any other women around period.

How can I talk to my significant other about this double standard so that she will stop?

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I've been dating my girlfriend for two years (I'm 20 and she's 19) but I often find that we're running into situations where I'm being held to a standard that she won't comply with, despite a joint decision to follow the rule.

For example, if we don't like each other personally texting the opposite sex. She'd be angry that there was a woman in my phone. I wouldn't like the same, so we make the compromise not to do said thing as a unit. The problem is, she will end up doing it anyway but avoid fault by basically playing a middle ground.

She'd say something like "OK, but you're just being territorial" and basically act like it was 'OK' because of what she believed/her excuse to avoid accountability. Yet if I did the same I'd get blasted.

When I had female friends in the beginning of the relationship, she wanted them all gone because she said "females aren't just friends with guys". When I talked to her about that she basically said that I am an attractive guy, and females aren't just friends with attractive guys without other motives basically, or that they are just waiting for an opportunity to get intimate. She makes it pretty clear that she doesn't want any other women around period.

How should I approach and respond to double standards? Should I end the compromise and do the same, or is there something I could say to get her to understand the double standard?

I've been dating my girlfriend for two years but I often find that we're running into situations where I'm being held to a standard that she won't comply with, despite a joint decision to follow the rule.

For example, if we don't like each other personally texting the opposite sex. She'd be angry that there was a woman in my phone. I wouldn't like the same, so we make the compromise not to do said thing as a unit. The problem is, she will end up doing it anyway but avoid fault by basically playing a middle ground.

She'd say something like "OK, but you're just being territorial" and basically act like it was 'OK' because of what she believed/her excuse to avoid accountability. Yet if I did the same I'd get blasted.

When I had female friends in the beginning of the relationship, she wanted them all gone because she said "females aren't just friends with guys". When I talked to her about that she basically said that I am an attractive guy, and females aren't just friends with attractive guys without other motives basically, or that they are just waiting for an opportunity to get intimate. She makes it pretty clear that she doesn't want any other women around period.

How should I approach and respond to double standards? Should I end the compromise and do the same, or is there something I could say to get her to understand the double standard?

I've been dating my girlfriend for two years (I'm 20 and she's 19) but I often find that we're running into situations where I'm being held to a standard that she won't comply with, despite a joint decision to follow the rule.

For example, if we don't like each other personally texting the opposite sex. She'd be angry that there was a woman in my phone. I wouldn't like the same, so we make the compromise not to do said thing as a unit. The problem is, she will end up doing it anyway but avoid fault by basically playing a middle ground.

She'd say something like "OK, but you're just being territorial" and basically act like it was 'OK' because of what she believed/her excuse to avoid accountability. Yet if I did the same I'd get blasted.

When I had female friends in the beginning of the relationship, she wanted them all gone because she said "females aren't just friends with guys". When I talked to her about that she basically said that I am an attractive guy, and females aren't just friends with attractive guys without other motives basically, or that they are just waiting for an opportunity to get intimate. She makes it pretty clear that she doesn't want any other women around period.

How should I approach and respond to double standards? Should I end the compromise and do the same, or is there something I could say to get her to understand the double standard?

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