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From what you've said here (and in your other post), there are three problems :

  • She wants to win every argument and discussion
  • She won't stick to agreements intended to fix problems
  • She plays mind games with you

On top of that there's the way you got together, which sounds like she was doing this to you and your predecessor from the start.

Be aware that some people never see themselves as being wrong, regardless of what they say or do. You cannot "fix" this if she is like that, because as far as she's concerned it already works fine for her.

I normally try to encourage people in relationships to work things out, but from what you've said about this, I'd recommend you break up.

I don't think she will change because people like this don't.

She will always be the aggrieved party in her own mind and compromise is just a word to her.

Now I'm assuming you're less than perfect, but you're at least looking for a solution. I think, from what you've said, that her solution is to keep things the way they are.

You haven't moved in together yet - perfect ! Don't move in together. Break up instead.

You sound like two people with different goals :

  • You're looking for someone to build a relationship with for the long term with whatever reasonable compromise is needed
  • She's looking for someone to fill a space in her life without compromise

Assuming things are as you say you'll basically be a "victim" in this relationship, but she'll be the one claiming it's all your fault. Trust me - you don't want this long term.

Bail now before you invest too much in the relationship.

From what you've said here (and in your other post), there are three problems :

  • She wants to win every argument and discussion
  • She won't stick to agreements intended to fix problems
  • She plays mind games with you

On top of that there's the way you got together, which sounds like she was doing this to you and your predecessor from the start.

Be aware that some people never see themselves as being wrong, regardless of what they say or do. You cannot "fix" this if she is like that, because as far as she's concerned it already works fine for her.

I normally try to encourage people in relationships to work things out, but from what you've said about this, I'd recommend you break up.

I don't think she will change because people like this don't.

She will always be the aggrieved party in her own mind and compromise is just a word to her.

Now I'm assuming you're less than perfect, but you're at least looking for a solution. I think, from what you've said, that her solution is to keep things the way they are.

You haven't moved in together yet - perfect ! Don't. Break up.

You sound like two people with different goals :

  • You're looking for someone to build a relationship with for the long term with whatever reasonable compromise is needed
  • She's looking for someone to fill a space in her life without compromise

Assuming things are as you say you'll basically be a "victim" in this relationship, but she'll be the one claiming it's all your fault. Trust me - you don't want this long term.

Bail now before you invest too much in the relationship.

From what you've said here (and in your other post), there are three problems :

  • She wants to win every argument and discussion
  • She won't stick to agreements intended to fix problems
  • She plays mind games with you

On top of that there's the way you got together, which sounds like she was doing this to you and your predecessor from the start.

Be aware that some people never see themselves as being wrong, regardless of what they say or do. You cannot "fix" this if she is like that, because as far as she's concerned it already works fine for her.

I normally try to encourage people in relationships to work things out, but from what you've said about this, I'd recommend you break up.

I don't think she will change because people like this don't.

She will always be the aggrieved party in her own mind and compromise is just a word to her.

Now I'm assuming you're less than perfect, but you're at least looking for a solution. I think, from what you've said, that her solution is to keep things the way they are.

You haven't moved in together yet - perfect ! Don't move in together. Break up instead.

You sound like two people with different goals :

  • You're looking for someone to build a relationship with for the long term with whatever reasonable compromise is needed
  • She's looking for someone to fill a space in her life without compromise

Assuming things are as you say you'll basically be a "victim" in this relationship, but she'll be the one claiming it's all your fault. Trust me - you don't want this long term.

Bail now before you invest too much in the relationship.

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From what you've said here (and in your other post), there are three problems :

  • She wants to win every argument and discussion
  • She won't stick to agreements intended to fix problems
  • She plays mind games with you

On top of that there's the way you got together, which sounds like she was doing this to you and your predecessor from the start.

Be aware that some people never see themselves as being wrong, regardless of what they say or do. You cannot "fix" this if she is like that, because as far as she's concerned it already works fine for her.

I normally try to encourage people in relationships to work things out, but from what you've said about this, I'd recommend you break up.

I don't think she will change because people like this don't.

She will always be the aggrieved party in her own mind and compromise is just a word to her.

Now I'm assuming you're less than perfect, but you're at least looking for a solution. I think, from what you've said, that her solution is to keep things the way they are.

You haven't moved in together yet - perfect ! Don't. Break up.

You sound like two people with different goals :

  • You're looking for someone to build a relationship with for the long term with whatever reasonable compromise is needed
  • She's looking for someone to fill a space in her life without compromise

Assuming things are as you say you'll basically be a "victim" in this relationship, but she'll be the one claiming it's all your fault. Trust me - you don't want this long term.

Bail now before you invest too much in the relationship.