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Rude would be arguing with the compliment. An honest gracious response is, generally, not rude.

Humility is also important, which you seem to have a good deal of. That's a good thing as well.

I understand your struggle with human interactions. There's never a good rule of "if this, then do that" or if there is, there are a ton of exceptions to that rule.

The best thing to do is simply say, "Really? Thanks!" and leave it at that. If there's a way to share credit, that goes a long way as well. Something like (for the website), "It wasn't just me; I worked with a team. I'll pass that along." If it's that you look nice, something like (if it's true), "My SO helped me select that" or "the salesperson thought this would look good"

@RRauenza added an excellent point: deflection can also be a valid response. For example, WRT the web page: "Thanks! I/The team worked really hard on it!" Or WRT clothing: "Thanks! I spent quite a while picking it out." I'd only do this if true, and not with every compliment.

I wouldn't deny every compliment; that can seem like false humility. Accept it, smile, say thank you, and move on. Don't get too hung up on motivation - be happy that someone noticed whatever it is.  

Rude would be arguing with the compliment. An honest gracious response is, generally, not rude.

Humility is also important, which you seem to have a good deal of. That's a good thing as well.

I understand your struggle with human interactions. There's never a good rule of "if this, then do that" or if there is, there are a ton of exceptions to that rule.

The best thing to do is simply say, "Really? Thanks!" and leave it at that. If there's a way to share credit, that goes a long way as well. Something like (for the website), "It wasn't just me; I worked with a team. I'll pass that along." If it's that you look nice, something like (if it's true), "My SO helped me select that" or "the salesperson thought this would look good"

I wouldn't deny every compliment; that can seem like false humility. Accept it, smile, say thank you, and move on. Don't get too hung up on motivation - be happy that someone noticed whatever it is.  

Rude would be arguing with the compliment. An honest gracious response is, generally, not rude.

Humility is also important, which you seem to have a good deal of. That's a good thing as well.

I understand your struggle with human interactions. There's never a good rule of "if this, then do that" or if there is, there are a ton of exceptions to that rule.

The best thing to do is simply say, "Really? Thanks!" and leave it at that. If there's a way to share credit, that goes a long way as well. Something like (for the website), "It wasn't just me; I worked with a team. I'll pass that along." If it's that you look nice, something like (if it's true), "My SO helped me select that" or "the salesperson thought this would look good"

@RRauenza added an excellent point: deflection can also be a valid response. For example, WRT the web page: "Thanks! I/The team worked really hard on it!" Or WRT clothing: "Thanks! I spent quite a while picking it out." I'd only do this if true, and not with every compliment.

I wouldn't deny every compliment; that can seem like false humility. Accept it, smile, say thank you, and move on. Don't get too hung up on motivation - be happy that someone noticed whatever it is.

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Rude would be arguing with the compliment. An honest gracious response is, generally, not rude.

Humility is also important, which you seem to have a good deal of. That's a good thing as well.

I understand your struggle with human interactions. There's never a good rule of "if this, then do that" or if there is, there are a ton of exceptions to that rule.

The best thing to do is simply say, "Really? Thanks!" and leave it at that. If there's a way to share credit, that goes a long way as well. Something like (for the website), "It wasn't just me; I worked with a team. I'll pass that along." If it's that you look nice, something like (if it's true), "My SO helped me select that" or "the salesperson thought this would look good"

I wouldn't deny every compliment; that can seem like false humility. Accept it, smile, say thank you, and move on. Don't get too hung up on motivation - be happy that someone noticed whatever it is.