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When it comes to money and for that matter inheritance many people are willing to step over family members. Especially in your case, your relationship to your step-mother and sisters does not seem very stable. So do not act on theretheir advice without thinking carefully.

When it comes to money and for that matter inheritance many people are willing to step over family members. Especially in your case, your relationship to your step-mother and sisters does not seem very stable. So do not act on there advice without thinking carefully.

When it comes to money and for that matter inheritance many people are willing to step over family members. Especially in your case, your relationship to your step-mother and sisters does not seem very stable. So do not act on their advice without thinking carefully.

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[...] my close family members told me not to sign anything I don't fully understand [...]

Great, they are right about this.

When it comes to money and for that matter inheritance many people are willing to step over family members. Especially in your case, your relationship to your step-mother and sisters does not seem very stable. So do not act on there advice without thinking carefully.


First you have to be aware that it is your right to view these documents on your own and to consult any help you want, whether it is a lawyer, someone from the notary or another family member. Do not sign this without full understanding of the matter. Personally I would recommend to go to the notary first, see what they can tell you about the heritage and then go to a lawyer with this information already in the back of your head.


Now to the interpersonal part. Your step-mother and sisters want something from you. Not you from them. You are asking for insight in what you are going to sign. This is normal.

You have to make sure that time is your ally. You want it so that the longer they wait the more problems arise for them, while your situation just stays the same. It seems like this is already the case but make sure this really is the case! A lawyer will help you with this. You don't want to lose out on stuff because you overstepped deadlines. They need to give you a reasonable opportunity to read these documents and consult help, otherwise you are fine.

After this is secured you can simply step into this rotation:

1. Ask to view the documents on your own.

Can I view the documents on my own?

or if they approach you about signing them:

Sure, just send me a copy and I will go over it.

2. Their decision.

No. Well it is their decision. Don't sign. Just wait for them to come again.

I do not feel comfortable enough to sign this. I need more information about what I am going to sign. Tell me when you are ready.

Yes. You have done it! Read them, go to a lawyer, do whatever you see fit.

3. They want you to sign it.

I won't. I want to view to the documents on my own.

Just say that you want to view them on your own. No need to mention a lawyer. It is your decision who to consult and non of their business.

If they ask why you want to view them yourself just state the same again. You do not have to tell them why you want to view the documents. The reason is self explanatory. They are trying to guilt trip you.

Basically repeat this for every question they could ask and do not settle for less.

4. repeat

You are in no hurry, time is your ally. Wait for them to come.


Why I think this is the way to go

Their relationship is bad and it doesn't seem there is much enthusiasm to repair it on both sides. Screaming and potential scamming from their side do not make the situation better. Because of this there is no need to be overly friendly. It is better to be discreet and direct.

If the step-mother and sisters think it is so important and not dangerous to him, then they can get the matter settled by letting him view the documents. They won't so there is something fishy.

By consulting a lawyer now he will make sure to not lose out on anything and get into a stable situation.