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What should I take into consideration when resuming conversations online after an extended lack of contact?

I've been exchanging messages online with someone of the opposite gender for an extended time now. We live in different countries. I think we get along fairly well, and there have been situations ...
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My boyfriend has problems with his family and I don't know how to support him

Some background info: My boyfriend is 23 I'm 21 His brother is 19 His mom is 45 His father is 53 I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years and we've been living together for 2 years....
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Active listening in casual conversation: why does it not work?

I’m on the spectrum. Language doesn’t always come as naturally to me as to others. I often have a need to confirm I understand the conversation partner, for which I use active listening techniques ...
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Is this American waitress “talking down” to the Swedes at the table in this short video clip from a 2013 reality TV series? [closed]

Video URL: https://streamable.com/s/1bbjl/kdkfko I cut out and uploaded these 47 seconds from one part of an episode of a Swedish reality/travel TV series originally aired in 2013. I have removed the ...
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Why do people take offense from me saying “females” instead of “women”? [closed]

I often call females females, just as I call males males. Using "women" and "men" is problematic in the sense that it's very specific to a certain age group; you cannot call a little girl a "woman", ...
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How to talk to a friend about her concerning social media posts?

Recently one of my friends has been writing concerning posts on her social media. She said something like "my life has always been so hard", and "what's the point of living if there is so much ...
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BF (35M) wants to have a baby but I don't think he's ready. OP 35F - how do I communicate this?

My boyfriend wants to have a baby, but I don't think he's ready for one. He claims he wants to be the main caregiver but he is often emotionally unavailable, either playing video games or focused on ...
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Was this person flirting by offering me free doughnuts? Should I have accepted? [closed]

Earlier today I went to a Krispy Kreme to get some doughnuts. After placing my order, the cashier (who was quite smiley) offered to give me the doughnuts for free. I didn't really know what to do (...
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How do I communicate with my friend about her hurtful behavior?

Context: L and I have been friends since junior high. Starting college, we both left our home town and went our separate ways in life. Over the last 20 years we still kept in touch and would meet up ...
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What is this speaking method?

There is a certain tactic in public speaking, where the speaker will repeat a short phrase, and change just one or two words. Each time, the energy of each phrase builds on another. An example of this ...
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How can I make my girlfriend understand that what she said hurt my feelings?

I (male) am in my early twenties and so is my current girlfriend, we have been together for close to a year. Up until recently, our relationship has been mostly problem free. However, some days ago, ...
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Asking a previous manager to sign a form at a group dinner

I organised a catch up with my ex-colleagues and I’ve also invited my former manager, and I wanted to ask her to sign a form for my professional certification. I’m concerned that she might think that ...
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My wife wants to support her parents far more than me (mainly financially)

I have been married to the daughter of my father's cousin for 1+ years. My father has a very friendly relationship with this cousin. Following are my observations about my wife's and her parents' ...
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How now to be affected by a toxic sibling when he is not there? [closed]

The problem isn't directly concerning myself, but my SO (30 yo). She has only one sibling, a brother (25 yo), that she came to hate overtime. When he is there, she is always very anxious, sad, and ...
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Helping friend with project, how to tell him I'm not comfortable using my info for registering something? [closed]

My friend wants to make a website and I would like to help him do this. He asked me what free hosting to use and I suggested one. Part of the registration process is to upload photo ID. My friend ...
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How to ask potential wedding photographer about low number of reviews

My fiance and I are looking at wedding photographers. She found one she says is perfect (matches our budget and preferred style). We talked with him over the phone yesterday and he seemed like a great ...
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Wrongly accused, do I deserve apology or not [closed]

In a common office space, a coworker came over to my desk and asked for help (verbally). As I was busy, I said 'I cannot help as I am busy'. The next day morning, she then sent an email with CC: to ...
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How to decline attending a funeral

To set the scene my family are very strict on the idea of family and respect. However, I do not wish to attend the funeral for a few reasons. I did not visit this relative for at the very least five ...
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Transactional Analysis: Dealing with a “Rebellious Child” [closed]

Transactional Analysis analyzes social transactions to determine the ego state of the patient (whether parent-like, childlike, or adult-like) as a basis for understanding behavior. A Child ego state ...
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Getting acquainted with acquaintance [closed]

Over the past couple weeks, I have been particularly moody: ranging from sad to depressed to lonely. It has always cheered me up when I am talking to someone in person or over text. Right now, I feel ...
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Give a personal loan to an acquaintance [closed]

After a burnout I have had an increasing need to do something good for others. I have been disappointed with the charities I have donated to in the past, as it always turns out that only a fraction of ...
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Get someone to shut doors because of wasted heating [closed]

I live in a shared apartment in a cold country where heating is expensive. One of our flat mate keeps forgetting to close doors which causes radiators to heat up unnecessarily. Talking doesn't suffice ...
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How can I have a conversation with my fiancé about a subject he doesn't want to talk about?

My fiancé has a bit of a troubled history. I knew that when we got together. He has some mental issues, which I attributed to years of being bullied. Only recently I managed to figure out the main ...
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what are the answers the we may get from the best friend if we propose her [closed]

I want to know that in any one's life is there a situation where you want to propose to your best friend and then she rejected you by stating which answer? I want to know on which reason she rejected ...
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How to Support Emotionally Drained Friend

I have known my friend for only 1.5 years but we connected very well from the beginning and I would now call her my best friend. I've known her from college, she still lives in the same area though I ...
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How to cope with my wife's unfinished plans? [closed]

Me and my wife are married for almost 10 years. One thing that bothers me is that my wife makes a lot of plans but never finishes them, and this puts a lot of financial and mental burden on us. Some ...
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How to avoid disappointing my friend when I criticize her writing? [duplicate]

Recently, a close friend of mine has started writing very short novels. From a conversation we had, I could clearly tell that she is very proud of the fruit of her labor and seriously considers ...
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How can I ask for recommendations from an acquaintance?

I used to live in city X, and I have an acquaintance Y back then that I have not contacted since I left X. I recently moved back to X (after 6 years) and have some problems at home where I will need ...
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How to make a friend move out of my place [closed]

My and my flatmate's friend (also my best friend's brother) got into a heated argument with his family shortly after returning from working abroad, and decided to permanently move out from the family ...
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How can I communicate to my girlfriend that certain purchases may not be in the budget? [closed]

If my girlfriend wants to go out to an expensive restaurant, how can I best tell her that I can't afford it occasionally (since I almost always pay for us both)? I'm fairly well off, but most of my ...
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Is it acceptable to ask for money to replace a rug that an acquaintance's dog ruined? [closed]

Background: Recently, a young couple moved into our area, and started going to church in our congregation. They first couple months, they struggled to make friends and fit in, so my wife and I ...
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How can I explain that I don't appreciate my girlfriend's reaction to her gifts? [closed]

For Valentine's Day, my girlfriend told me she doesn't want chocolate or flowers. Instead of those things, she wants a specific beauty product which is roughly the same cost of chocolates and flowers. ...
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How to talk about ongoing nervous behaviours with boss without being offensive?

I am working an office job under a manager who I like and trust. He's very competent, a good person, a hard worker and generally open to feedback. This is his first leadership role (about 2 years in ...
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How do I discuss boundaries and moving out with my son?

I am a mother, I need to talk with my son, let's call him Jay, about moving out. He is 28 and has had severe depression over the years. He left college after the 1st year and has had several jobs. To ...
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Is it appropriate to say “happy valentines day” to a colleague? [closed]

By colleague, I mean the client of my company who I work for. There is no romantic intention whatsoever, I simply want to be nice. In terms of my proximity of relationship to the person, the client (...
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How to explain I won't attend a theme party?

My female friend had a son recently, and it is a source of great joy for all of us (friends). When her son was three months old, we organized a surprise party for him, and the mom was very happy with ...
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If I find one person hard to understand, how can I encourage a second person to try and explain?

I am part of a small friends group that (used to) routinely meet. Something happened that I am unsure how I feel about. Bob asked me to attend a "meeting" with him and Joe. I was not told what the ...
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Recovering from stumbling over words

There are times when I'm telling a story to friends, having a discussion in a meeting or giving a presentation when I'll stumble over my words. This may result in a word coming out sounding like ...
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How to get on good terms with a female friend, of whom I confessed my feelings to? [duplicate]

I have a friend who I have known for a long time. We are not good friends necessarily, due the fact that we had just reconnected a couple of weeks ago. A couple of days ago I confessed to her that I ...
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How do I resolve a situation where I am hurt by someone stepping on my duties? [closed]

I am a brown girl from India pursuing my graduate school. My English is fluent, not heavily accented, Americans do understand it without me having to repeat myself 95 percent of the time (from my ...
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How can I make it up to my best friend after I forgot her birthday?

TLDR; I’ve had a lot going on recently so forgot about my friend’s birthday until the following day and now she won’t speak to me. How do I fix it? TW for talk of depression So, the base of it is ...
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How to talk with girlfriend about avoiding events because of other people?

Me and my girlfriend were invited to a common friend's farewell party (this friend is going to live in another country). She does not want to go because some people I've been romantically involved in ...
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How to become friends again with a girl I was rejected by? [duplicate]

I have a friend who I have known for a long time. We are not good friends necessarily, due the fact that we had just reconnected a couple of weeks ago. A couple of days ago I confessed to her that I ...
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How to tell our mutual friend that we wouldn't like to spend one of our days with her on our four day trip

Background I am in a relationship with this girl who came to do her master's degree to my university for one year. We met in the Russian society and hence have mutual acquaintances from there. Since ...
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How would you react when someone tell you about their problems? [duplicate]

Your friend tells you they have a problem with a mobile app or with their car or they have a headache. What would be your immediate reaction? I would offer a solution if I knew or would ask them to ...
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Avoiding blame on single person

I have a group assignment that is due soon. We are only allowed one submission per group (and further submissions, even before the deadline, will be penalized). This group assignment is worth a ...
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Dealing with unwanted “Joking” physical contact

This isn't really a sexual thing, just something that makes me uncomfortable. So I hate having my hair up or braiding it or doing anything with it in general because I think it looks weird and it's ...
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How to become friends again with a girl I confessed my feelings to? [duplicate]

I have a friend who I have known for a long time. We are not good friends necessarily, due to the fact that we had just reconnected a couple of weeks ago. A couple of days ago I confessed to her that ...
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How do you use Instagram to get to know people outside your usual social circle? [closed]

Instagram is probably the most popular social media that allows you to meet people you haven’t seen before in real life; you normally can contact people within your social circle using other means ...
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How to get friends(s) to confirm for certain if they are attending or not? [duplicate]

I think this is a fairly common situation. When trying to arrange something, some people don't like to commit so they say "maybe". This is a problem, because space may be limited or reservations may ...

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