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How should I confess my feelings to a teammate I'm falling for?

I need some advice on a situation I’m facing. I'm part of my school's track and field team. A year ago, I met a new member of our team. We've always been on friendly terms, but a couple of months ago, ...
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Is this a known tactic in interpersonal skills? [closed]

I know that I am opposed to your happiness and I need to win, make you unhappy. To do this, I make friends with your allies, and treat you so badly that you respond to them with hostility, and so they ...
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How to approach my autistic friend regarding his negative behavior?

I have a close friend who is autistic. We have been friends for over 20 years. Over time he has made increasingly disparaging comments about me and I am unsure of how to address this. My friend was ...
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How do I avoid discussions that provoke my aversion to slang words and my friends that use them? [closed]

I am a 16 yo teen. I have recently gotten admitted into a new school. My classmates in this school use too much slangs and discuss on topics related to lust too often. My initial socialization attempt ...
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What to do if you suddenly encounter a famous person whom you really admire? [closed]

Once I came across a great Indian scientist who was just sitting in a park. I knew him through books and media. But I didn't know how and what to talk to him. I didn't know exactly what he worked on, ...
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Would it be rude to message a pen pal on Facebook to know why they haven't responded to my last letter yet? [closed]

I met a female friend on a reputable online pen pal website about three months ago, and I think we hit it off immediately. She responded to my messages within two to four days, and as the weeks went ...
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How do I stop my friends & relatives from postponing their requests for help until the last minute and then disrupting my plans with urgent requests?

The problem outlined in the title is really getting to me. Some of my relatives and friends are overburdened by their everyday duties and barely manage to plan ahead. They often suddenly face an ...
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How to Deal with Harassment Pranksters in Public?

Harassment pranksters create content that solely involves harassing people. They make people visibly uncomfortable and, in some cases, creating potentially unsafe situations. My general strategy in ...
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When is confirmation or acknowledgement desirable in a mail dialogue?

In a mail dialogue, when is confirmation or acknowledgement desirable? Or to put it differently, when does the conversation end and both parties are clear on what is agreed to? For example (shortened):...
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How can I get women to reject me more openly?

I'm a rather socially active guy in my early thirties. I meet many interesting women at meetups, speaking clubs, speed dating events and such. When I want to get to know them better, I will usually ...
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How to let a roomate know that their speakerphone is loud and I can hear it?

I have a roommate who is on his phone a lot (he works from home over the phone). His phone is always on speakerphone at quite a loud volume. When his door will be closed and my door is closed and I'm ...
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How can I explain my crisis of confidence to my judo sensei without casting aspersions on his teaching?

I am a 27 year old male and have been taking judo lessons twice a week for the past six years, give or take a year when the dojo was closed for the pandemic. The class is run by three men, all between ...
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Strategies for talking less on dates or job interviews

I have a problem where I talk too much on dates and job interviews. This can lead to revealing too much information, not asking enough questions (especially on dates), and veering into overly intense ...
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How can I politely indicate that I know Spanish (or any other language)?

I am a white American, but I have learned Spanish as a second language. Sometimes, I will end up in an enclosed area (perhaps a waiting room or an elevator), and the only people there are me and a ...
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How to respond to people telling me I'm smart?

I am often told that I am smart. Someone will hear about something I did or made, or just my field of study and say "Wow you are so smart!" I don't think they are being sarcastic from their ...
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What are the etiquette rules for bringing someone with me to a high school reunion?

I got invited to a 10-year high school being hosted at a local restaurant. I'd like to go, but I haven't seen most of my classmates in years. I have some social awkwardness and didn't really form my ...
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Trying to teach my nephew to improve on a skill

My nephew (16y) is a little bit on the spectrum and sometimes has a hard time dealing with people but has a great capacity to learn. He loves to create 'games' on a platform called scratch. I (36y) am ...
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How to Re-establish Professional Boundaries with a Coworker?

Several months ago, I decided to invite a coworker to a personal social event where they met my friends, something I had never done before. Subsequently, I began seeing them frequently outside of work....
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Politely reject advice because I don't respect the source's judgment

Sometimes, I am given unsolicited advice. I consider the advice itself (of course), but I also consider the source, as the expression goes. Usually, the advice must be written off entirely because the ...
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Mutual interests and common values vs skills

Claim The introduction of this book claims: What makes intimacy work? Some say it is the strength of your dream, the strength of your commitment to love itself. Others say it’s a matter of luck, the ...
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How do I tell my sister that her daughters should not use their smart phones in church?

I am part of a family in which I and my siblings were all raised Christian and our parents took us to church every week. Our parents expected us to behave in church and to try our best to listen ...
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How to persuade my parents that I am learning by using computers but not playing games

I am currently learning C#, and I need to look for a lot of information through different webpages. However, my parents distrust me and they think I am playing computer games because almost each time ...
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Tipping etiquette for combined self-service buffet & table service

We were on holiday in Brazil recently (we're Irish), and we went for a dinner / show. The dinner was a self-service buffet, however when sitting down and during the show, waiters did come around to ...
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Etiquette for wearing ties at a "Black Tie" event

I've been invited to a wedding (in Scotland, UK). It's described as a "Black-tie" event and the groom has asked guests to wear a dinner jacket (tuxedo), but it's not an absolute requirement. ...
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How to deal with a younger lady who I may have inadvertently offended?

I seem to be having some interpersonal problems with a female co-worker in my workplace. To put it into context, I'm a middle-aged male and she is a fair bit younger (early 20s). I first met her at a ...
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How to de-escalate social situations while standing my ground?

Context: I was at the gym today, and doing some squats. I sometimes grunt a bit loudly when I do 'em, and some people laugh when I do that (I don't really care about this). When I went to fill up my ...
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How does one give critical advice without killing morale?

I've been tasked with tutoring some people, and after some sessions, I gave quite negative feedback to someone, and killed their morale. I tried to say the negative feed back in a "nice way"....
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How to tell people to arrive before a certain time to have their admission paid?

My sister is hosting a birthday party at an indoor playground for my nephew this summer. We did this last year and rented a party room which are these tiny closet sized rooms that are pretty expensive ...
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How do I convince my neighbors to not bring dogs in public space without a significant negative effect?

We recently moved into a new community. There is a small community park just outside our homes and a larger park with rides, swings and slides a few hundred feet away. This community doesn't allow any ...
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How to approach a roommate who is regularly voluntarily throwing up?

I am currently spending an exchange semester in another country. I have moved into an apartment with several roommates due to a relatively high cost of living. I always had my 16 m² apartment for ...
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How to approach a friend who is vague when trying to plan a meet up?

I have a friend and we talk frequently on WhatsApp. We have just got back in touch after a few years of losing touch. I remembered her to be quite unreliable but I have considered that after a few ...
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How can I communicate with my girlfriend about sharing the rent?

My partner is Ukranian and we met in Australia. She moved into my home, which I loved, however inevitably the conversation of rent came up. I live in Melbourne which is a high cost of living area. At ...
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Putting pressure to get pending money from a client

An old client of mine says A owes me X amount. He is delaying payment for the past 3 weeks. One week he said - "His account is in an inactive state", and next week "He is in debt, he is ...
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How to have "consent talks" with a partner who strongly dislikes such conversation?

I have read a lot about rendering sex more interesting by trying to avoid falling into an always-the-same-procedure routine. Likewise, I have read a lot about having conversations with one's partner ...
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How can I carefully inquire if I would be welcome to join a group of colleagues at their regular social event?

I have learned that a group of colleagues sometimes meet after work for a social activity. I might be interested to join them, but they have not invited me. How can I carefully inquire if they would ...
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How can I enforce boundaries with a clingy younger woman without hurting her

Background Six months ago two sisters started to attend an association I am volunteering at. I developed a huge crush on the older sister, so I tried to approach her, but without success. Unexpectedly ...
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Is it acceptable to save seats for friends/relatives in waiting areas?

I've come across this rude habit of some people in the waiting areas at airports or hospitals wherein they place something (like a handbag or a water bottle) on a vacant seat next to them, and claim ...
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How to turn down all future invitations without sounding rude?

Situation: I am invited to various functions by someone I see regularly (peers, coworkers, friends of friends). When I reject their invitations they will continue to invite me to things even if I ...
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How to politely tell my girlfriend to move out? (we hadn't actually agreed to live together)

I know the title sounds worse than it is, she's not that creepy to just move in with me out of the blue. But the thing is, I live very close to where she works, so when the occasion came for me to go ...
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How to carry a conversation with a stranger?

I'm in my early 30s in the US and have been suffering loneliness for a long time and try to attend more social events, but I found myself having difficulty carrying conversations with strangers ...
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How to handle someone who repeatedly returns to previously-discussed points in conversations?

I was recently asked (by a family member) about an personal event I was planning. During the conversation, the person I was talking to kept pressing me for details on every conceivable aspect of the ...
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Parents are forcing me to attend coaching despite it is affecting my mental health

Context: I am a 17 year old boy, currently in grade 10. I also go to extra coaching classes after school for Mathematics. Here's the problem: I don't feel good in the coaching centre that I go to. ...
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How to decline a request to say "God rest her soul" when mentioning my grandmother to my religious dad?

My dad is a Christian. I asked him a question about his dead mother, and after replying, he asked me: I loved my mother very much. She was a good person. Please, whenever you remember your ...
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How does a single person influence the team towards consensus and a positive change in team culture?

Background I am a software developer in a small team of half a dozen people. I am the member that has joined most recently (around 18 months) but am somewhat older than most of my colleagues. We work ...
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How do I lovingly end conversations without being rude?

I get overwhelmed with social interaction very quickly and can only handle so much at a certain time. Is there a socially appropriate way to initiate a conversation with a time limit? When I'm ...
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How to help a 6yo girl overcome her "breast obsession"?

My daughter is 6 years old and from the day she mastered the correct pronunciation of the "br"-sound as in - you may have guessed it - the word "breast" she seems to be obsessed ...
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How can I support someone who is repeatedly being untruthful?

Someone I am close to is repeatedly being untruthful towards me, in the sense that they are "making up" events, usually for the sake of empathy. The first instance where I noticed they were ...
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My parents are going to disinherit me. Is there any good strategy to try to change their mind?

My parents have recently told me they are going to leave their entire estate to my brother. So, he is getting a two-bedroom apartment in the capital and whatever will be left of my parents' savings, ...
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How can I explain my point to my father in an effective way without burning bridges?

The issue My father has lately made a few sexist (and other -ist) "jokes", in the form of what I came to learn are called "disparagement jokes". This has made me, and my wife, a ...
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How do I ask my friend to stop doing inappropriate things to me?

I have a friend, A, in my group that is very annoying (physically). They act the same with other friends in our group, but they are okay with that. I seem to be the only one with an issue. Problem is, ...
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