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How to communicate to my girlfriend that I'd like us to spend more time talking to each other?

I've recently (in the past two weeks) entered a relationship with a girl I've been dating for about two months. We, so far, seem to be pretty compatible with each other and I'm happy. A little ...
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Me and my close friend often have phases when we do not talk to each other

This is very repetitive. We are very close friends, probably the only close friends of each other. But still, this happens again and again. For example, last time I was traveling, my close friend did ...
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How do I respond when my partner shares a topic I can remotely relate?

I[19M] have just met my girlfriend[18F] for about two weeks. We quickly declared a relationship and it's the first time for both of us to have a romantic relationship. She is into hobbies which I am ...
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A friend always talks in dry-professional language even though being very close to me for years

It is strange that one of my close friends, who I know for years and have spent a lot of time in recreational activities, talks to me in very dry-professional language. It is a very minor thing, but ...
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How do I talk about money with my partner when they get uncomfortable about the topic?

The Background My partner and I have been together for a significant amount of time, 8 years soon, and are planning to get married (within a few years due to busy schedules and graduate school). I ...
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What does it mean when my guy friend sends weird texts and how can I get him to be serious? [closed]

I am a 18 year old male who has another male friend. In person he acts like a normal guy and speaks is a little on the quiet side but he sends texts that are a little weird and remind me of how of 12 ...
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Ignore all but the boss in an unobjective dispute - (how) can this strategy work? [closed]

In a few days I have to go to a meeting with a very angry partner company. The company is rightly upset, but the extent of the allegations is unfounded. My goal: My goal is to show that we have worked ...
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How to politely say we won't be inviting family friends to our wedding?

My Fiancee and I are getting married next year, and we're currently in the process of sending out the save the dates. I was chatting to my parents about this, who then asked if I would be inviting ...
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How to pay back a friend who refuses to take money?

Due to some uncertainties in my housing situation my friend let me couch surf at his apartment for two months. I've found an apartment now and will be moving out soon. I keep insisting to let me pay ...
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How to get a friend to stop acting like a therapist?

I suffer from Bipolar Disorder. I suffered from a depressive episode last year. A friend of mine feels I'm too negative. He constantly prods me in social situations -- "What's going good Bob?&...
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How can I avoid misunderstanding in this case? [closed]

I was dropping off a gift for my friend yesterday. When we talked about where I could meet her, she suggested a place where it's easier for me to find, but I actually know the entrance of the building ...
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In group discussions, how should I deal with a person who frequently participates in the discussion with incoherent comments?

Context: I'm a student who is in a philosophical discussion group which meets weekly and discusses readings and thoughts about a particular topic. It's hosted by an organization so I don't have ...
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How to better react/respond to a friend who rejects your advice but skill keeps asking for your help?

I find that it’s particularly hard for me to help someone when they want my help but I disagree on what’s helpful? Especially when I’m seen as an expert. Instance: Friend for years messages me, By ...
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How to say no to my brother while avoiding him thinking I no longer support him?

Background: My brother has a manipulative wife, which has essentially turned him against our mother. I want to keep the story short and won't go into too much detail. Essentially, his wife has ...
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How to reach out to an estranged coworker without coming across as nosy?

I have worked with Alice for five years, and we had a pretty standard work relationship, not really friends, but appreciated each other. We did not talk since I left the company two years ago. I had ...
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How to explain to friends/family the status of a relationship when you're more than best friends with someone but not yet in an official relationship?

I have been looking for some terms or definitions of the following stage when two people are more than best friends but not in an official relationship. I'll delve into the grayness of "official&...
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How do I tactfully ask an ex-supervisor to approve a reference letter that I have drafted without changing anything in the main body?

I am currently in the process of my immigration application, and I need employment reference letters from all my previous employers. I worked at a job for 20 months. It's been 5 years since I left. I ...
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How to show you're fine with being friendly, but don't want a relationship, when the other person might want a relationship?

During college there's a chance when I'm in conversation with people that they may be interested in me as a potential romantic partner. I'm currently in a committed relationship and many of these ...
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My boyfriend blocked me, I would like to make up with him

Background: I have been dating my boyfriend for almost four years. We are a long distance couple. Basically my boyfriend blocked me on all social media because I have overreacted on him. That was two ...
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How to ask 'why?' without implying I'm asking them to justify themselves?

So, as part of my job, I sometimes get requirements from users without any context. This context can be useful for reasons above and beyond justifying the requirement itself. These come from fellow ...
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How do you tactfully suggest that someone would benefit from making their accent more clear?

I was recently trying to help someone to identify skills that would help them to find a job. This individual is very technically capable so is seeking a technical role. They learned English as a ...
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How to better handle my friends passive aggressive comments, preferably so there'll be less/none at all?

I'm a millennial and a lot (too many) of my friends were those who were of the opinion that, immediately following the 2016 election, the best way to demonstrate how much they value love, tolerance, ...
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Does Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People" actually help us find people more interesting?

I'd bought Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People at a used book store years ago and later read it. The message I took away from it was that if we lead people to believe that we find ...
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What is the maximum interaction where saying goodbye is unnecessary in the US?

Often when you meet people on the street you may opt to say "Hi" and then be on your way. To my understanding this is not considered a rude behavior. It is also common to greet someone have ...
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How to start the interaction in one online meeting in a friendly manner?

I have always had some issues to start interactions. Things usually go smoother when the other person starts talking. But there are times I need to start the interaction and I often end up doing it in ...
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How can I initiate a chat but avoid being a Q&A session?

I had a nice zoom chat with my friend yesterday; we are both college students. We haven't met each other for a while and we were both excited to share some updates of our lives. However, after the ...
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How can I strengthen my friendship with a particular person in a group?

I'm an international student working in a research group at my university. A friend of mine is also in the group and he is a native student. We have weekly zoom conversations about academic topics. He ...
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How do I thank someone that went through a traumatic experience in the place of my daughter?

I'll be really brief because I don't want to divulge too much details for safety. My teenage daughter along with a woman in her late 20s were kidnapped by an armed man in his late 30s. After driving ...
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How to follow through on not playing tennis together anymore, without damaging our friendship?

I played tennis with my friend almost daily, and as my commitment and rate of improvement increased, we reduced it to two or three times a week on average. He's improved too but since there's a skill ...
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How to tell my senior friend stop talking me about the life's experience?

I have a senior friend (colleague) who keeps talking to me about her experience even something it costs me a lot of time (one or two hours per time) unnecessarily. She may want me to be better or else ...
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Trust issues with male friend: how to make him understand I can't tell him about everything?

I have recently become close friends with a male classmate in my college. It started with simple straightforward discussions about academics. Then we have grown closer as friends and we daily exchange ...
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How to talk to my parents about living abroad

Context: I'm 30, my parents are in their mid 50s, they are divorced and they both married after. I don't live with any of them (I'm in another city) and I visit them about once a month, also for ...
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How to support people who feel something mistakenly without invalidating their feelings

A few times recently I've found myself trying to offer support to people that are unhappy because they feel something that I think is false. For example, my girlfriend sometimes says "I feel so ...
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How to repair a friendship with a friend?

I (21 Male) had a friend (20 Female) and I had some feelings towards her. I told her about it but as she was committed she denied. We remained friends, but one day I said something wrong about her ...
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Dealing with a depressed partner with personal hygiene issues

My wife and I have been living together for about three years now (we just got married under a year ago). Recently, I have been having several issues regarding my wife’s personal hygiene. I’m looking ...
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How to make my relationship partner not get gradually lazier over time, without having to scare him with the idea that I might break up with him?

My boyfriend and I (age range 26-30, I'm the older one) have been together for two months now and for the most part it was great, we have similar interests, we do things together often, and we make ...
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Does the food or drink item brought to a potluck need to be large enough to serve everyone?

Tomorrow I'll be going to a potluck that will be attended by around 20 people. I'm not good at cooking, so I'm planning on bringing something from a bakery. What is the etiquette with regards to the ...
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How do I effectively explain my parents and neighbors to understand me and support me while I try for the best?

I'm from India and to obtain a Learners License (for driving) is a nightmare if you want to follow a legal way, especially in small cities or towns. What I mean by legal way is, you need two things to ...
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How do I convince someone to not get revenge?

Summary and details of the problem I have a friend who is pretending to be the girlfriend of a rich closeted gay guy. I think I can empathize why they are doing this. She enjoys being the talk among ...
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Sibling entering the parental house without consent [closed]

When my parents are on holiday, I take care of their house, it's an arrangement that they and I have had for years now. My brother and sister know this. My parents really don't like it when people ...
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How to let people face the consequences of their own actions, and at the same time avoid a negative reaction?

My parents are both great at this: I do something stupid and they can make me realize whatever follows is simply a consequence of my own stupidity. Their approach made me take responsibility for the ...
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How to gain trust after failing to support my wife in a difficult moment

We have been married for 15 years without big issues, but lately things have started to change. I'm not good with interpersonal relationships (sometimes too cold. I'm aware that I lack empathy), while ...
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How to make amends with someone that I had a fallout with, after talking about a sensitive topic?

I have an acquaintance, John, that I have known for a number of years. John and myself are both a part of a social media group made up of a number of friends and mutual friends. Recently I had a ...
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How to give a gift that was declined on the basis of welfare of the gifting party without being rude?

I am attending the wedding of a very close family member soon (45 days). This family member and their fiancé need new phones, their current one doesn't seem to last 30 minutes of use with a full ...
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What statements or actions should be avoided while quitting or being fired from a job? [closed]

There is a large body of information specifying what types of statements should and should not be made during encounters with the police, as these interpersonal communications have the potential to ...
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How to quickly tell if someone is an asker or guesser?

I realised that most of my interpersonal conflicts arise when I (an asker) ask a guesser questions that they find uncomfortable answering. To overcome this, I am thinking that when I meet a new person,...
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How do I get my friend to stop singing along when I'm trying to listen to the music? [closed]

I have a friend who has an absolute tin ear... could not carry a tune to save her life. But she is a genius with lyrics. Because of this, she loves to sing along to things. It is almost as if she is ...
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How to decide whether or not to be persistent in pursuit of a relationship?

I am trying to create some lines through this gray area. I feel that there are times when being persistent and showing someone you are interested is attractive since to varying degrees people like ...
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Is silence an effective method for dealing with openly aggressive/confrontational individuals?

I would like to know more about whether there are methods or techniques relating to the use of silence when dealing with openly aggressive or confrontational individuals. In the past I have found ...
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How to ask for autonomy without coming across as rejecting?

I have been living with my boyfriend for 4 years now and we have an overall great relationship. I work and he's currently unemployed. I used to ask him small services and be happy when he'd take ...

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