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How to politely ask a band member to stop being late/ditching last minute?

So I am in a band consisting of 5 people, 2 guitarists, drummer, bassist and a vocalist (might be worth mentioning both guitarists are brothers and only tend to see each other at practice). Due to the ...
9
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2answers
583 views

Friendly Cuddling, in a non-romantic way

Might be a weird questions, but I'm really confused. A good female friend of mine (I'm male) recently suggested we should cuddle, after we talked about how both of us feel rather lonely at the moment. ...
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0answers
108 views

Developer job responsibilities [on hold]

I am a new developer to the Enterprise world(not anymore now, I've worked with it for about 3 years). There were two people in my spot before I was promoted, one person became my supervisor ...
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0answers
128 views

How do you ask your sister to stop sucking her thumb all the time? [on hold]

Suppose you’re 19 years old, and your sister is 14 years old who keeps sucking her thumb while sleeping and it really bothers you. And you find it disgusting and you become incapable of sleeping next ...
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3answers
640 views

How to handle emotional expectation about an animals death, I do not fulfill?

I just experienced a difficult situation and I did not know how to react. My SO and me have a pet hamster that showed some worrying behavior and might have to be put down. She is very attached to him ...
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5answers
507 views

How can I make peace with my younger brother

Personally, I am a 21-year-old male, and my family consists of my mum, dad and a younger brother aged 17. To provide an overall context of my family before I talk about the problem. Analysis of ...
2
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1answer
209 views

How should I converse with a stranger [on hold]

I am a male freshman in university, and don't have many friends as my modules are mostly taught in a flipped classroom fashion. There is a module I'm taking right now and since I have been ...
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0answers
101 views

Is it normal for some toddlers to be scared of strangers? [migrated]

I do not have children and most of my friends do not have children, so I do not really have anyone that I can ask about this. I am new to the childcare industry and some of the toddlers seem scared ...
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0answers
96 views

What reaction does it cause to tell a person you have known for a short time that you have a mental disorder? [on hold]

My disorder is mild and I can behave normally in everyday situations. But if the relationship is going to be prolonged, I use to say it very quickly because it is a way of defending against social ...
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2answers
511 views

How not to get dismissed in a negotiations

My example will be salary negotiations specific but I'd like to know how not to let other person dismiss you easily from negotiations. In a few days I'm planning to renegotiate my salary with boss of ...
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3answers
563 views

Dealing with people ignoring me, or talking over me

I have a group of friends, and we have been together for a while now where we meet once or twice a week, to play games together - D&D, board games, etc. It's a social event. However, especially ...
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2answers
509 views

How to avoid shaking hands?

I recently developed dyshidrosis, which makes my palms look disgusting. So I don't want to show my hands to anybody to see. People often do not looking at the hands when shaking, and this eczema ...
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0answers
319 views

Trying to start a romantic relationship, concerned another girl will disapprove [on hold]

My question is about wanting to start a relationship with "Jane" (not her real name) whom I know from my old university. She started at our current university before me, she had time to make new ...
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2answers
417 views

How to deal with people who think staying a virgin until marriage is wrong or odd [on hold]

I know that people have their own points of views according to different religions, cultures etc. and so on, but how can I deal with people who outwardly come to you and find it wrong or a problem or ...
29
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5answers
13k views

How to approach a friend about his girlfriend asking to sleep with me?

Context My girlfriend (let's call her Claire) shares a flat with a couple (let's call them Bob and Alice). Bob is a close friend of mine, and I get along pretty well with Alice. The three of them ...
5
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2answers
484 views

Making my friends take my requests seriously

I'm having trouble with a few friends (I see on a regular basis) to take me, and what I say seriously. They sometimes straight up just ignore me. Also, it's not like I'm telling them to do stuff they ...
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4answers
1k views

Handling the question “what did you do for the weekend?”

Another week, another Monday and another same old unpleasant question (at least for me) - What did you do for the weekend? A couple years ago I moved to another country in western Europe from South-...
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8answers
10k views

How do you tell a Facebook friend that they might be on the autism spectrum?

TL;DR How do I tell this Facebook friend that they might be on the autism spectrum without being too intrusive? Background I have this Facebook friend that I care deeply about and with whom I ...
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3answers
440 views

How to ask my grandmother to be nicer with my grandfather?

My grandfather (85 years old) is affected by Alzheimer disease, and although it is still a mild form, it is now visible in the conversation as he often struggles to remember a name or loses his train ...
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1answer
245 views

Apologize to someone because you overbid them? [on hold]

Let's say there is an online auction which has an "autobuy option", i.e. if you bid the amount of "X", the auction automatically ends and you get the item, even if there was still time left for the ...
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6answers
6k views

How to make girlfriend feel better about health and body

For context, my girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year now, and we're really close, especially when it comes to talking things over. We would both describe ourselves as nerds, and would ...
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0answers
175 views

Is omission of a singular letter in an email handle professional? [closed]

Let's say that JohnPadel@site.com is taken. Would JohnPadl@site.com be acceptable as an e-mail handle professionally?
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1answer
223 views

How do I approach a co-worker about talking too much and being distracting?

Background I work as a counselor in a drug and alcohol treatment facility. It is a high-stress, demanding job and requires extensive charting tasks to be completed by specific deadlines. All ...
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3answers
850 views

How do I end a 30 year friendship with an alcoholic?

My close friend of 30 years (my best friend) is an alcoholic, and her alcoholism has progressed to the point where it's taken away her ability to be a friend to me. She has always been a heavy ...
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2answers
505 views

How to gently and compassionately stop a stranger talking to you about their problems?

I recently dropped my wallet while shopping, reached out among local lost-and-found groups on Facebook, made contact with someone who found it and made arrangements with them to meet up so they can ...
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4answers
531 views

How can I tactfully ask this girl if she is ready for a new relationship?

There is this girl that I really like. Recently we have been hanging out together with some of my friends. She said she liked it and wanted to come the next time too. She also wants to come to other ...
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4answers
6k views

How can I tell my husband I need time for myself without work?

I studied Computer Science and now work full-time as a developer. When I come home from work, I want to spend some time with my husband and the kid until bed time, and then play video games or crochet ...
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1answer
478 views

How to politely tell a person that “I'm too busy” is not an acceptable excuse? [closed]

This is another way to ask: How to tell a person they aren't prioritizing what should be important? and is a follow up to: How to determine if someone is busy or just doesn't want to spend time ...
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13answers
20k views

How to reduce the awkwardness on the way to the bedroom?

I am a man in my mid-40's and met some time ago an old friend (woman, mid-40's as well) when travelling (to her city). I traveled there again a few times (every few months) and it is obvious that a (...
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0answers
126 views

What should I do about a vintage clothing store selling products that fall apart quickly? [closed]

I'm a newbie to shopping in vintage stores. I recently bought a couple nice ties from a local curated vintage retailer (definitely not a thrift store) for about $15 a pop. Looked nice, wore them a ...
65
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10answers
21k views

How do I tell students at a school I volunteer at to stop flirting with me?

Occasionally, I head out to volunteer to teach robotics programming at an all-girls school in my area. For context, I'm male and age 20, and the students are adolescent females in 7th and 8th grade (...
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2answers
5k views

How do I prevent the gym instructor from talking to me?

In the gym I go to, we don't have personal trainers but gym instructors - they just stay there and guide pretty much everyone if they have doubts or they see someone exercising incorrectly. From what ...
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0answers
384 views

How to apologize to a friend when you know you did something wrong but can't confess it? [closed]

So I am in a situation where I know I am wrong and I need my friend back while I am loosing her. I want to apologize for my bad behaviour with her but at the same time I don't want to confess that I ...
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7answers
7k views

How can I initiate a talk of money with my friend about his business idea?

This is kind of a follow up to How to decline additional help when friend won't take no for an answer My friend has a business idea that he wants me to build an app for. I'm still deciding my ...
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4answers
3k views

How to communicate with a coworker who repeats meaningless context? [closed]

Background I work in a technical role in an international environment, and have (and prefer) a very direct communication style. If you want my help, the best way to get it is to simply state your ...
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5answers
835 views

When should one do “la bise” in France?

As a French woman with ASD, I often find myself struggling to know if I should do "la bise" (cheek-kiss) in greeting. In general, I don't like to do "la bise" for various reasons--one of them being ...
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0answers
138 views

Would it be appropriate to tell my neighbor's kids to quiet down when their parents are not at home? [closed]

For the past ten years, I have been living next door to a family with four kids and both of the parents work. They usually get home from work around 6:00pm on the weekdays. Their four kids are latch-...
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1answer
507 views

Have I lost my best friend because I told him I liked him? [closed]

So I met a guy at work a nine months back, and over time we became really good friends. Initially, he had a huge wall up, and wouldn't open up at all, but over time, as he began to trust me, he let it ...
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12answers
12k views

How should I ask people to stop over explaining things?

Most people that I interact with on a daily/regular basis seem to need to over explain and qualify every statement. An example would be: I'm heading out shortly and your car is blocking the drive. ...
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2answers
1k views

I have suggested my friend's toddler has down syndrome. How can I explain myself or apologies to her?

Background We were at a party for a mutual friend and as we were standing in a circle, talking to each other, she started talking about her kids' field trip. I was semi listening, semi listening to ...
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4answers
936 views

How to ask someone you see regularly out on a date, without making it awkward?

Here's the situation: There's this girl, let's call her Jane, that I've known for slightly over a year. We met pretty randomly when we were both looking for a dance partner for ballroom dancing, and ...
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1answer
342 views

Should I tell my partner my honest opinion about her career choice? [closed]

My partner and I are working in close but distinct academic fields as researchers. It turns out that my career is reasonably successful, without being stellar, but her situation is more complicated. ...
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0answers
662 views

How can I ask my teacher to give me second chance to complete the project? [closed]

Background Our English subject teacher in high school instructed us to create a project name as 'Produce'. In my project, we are two members. In this project, one of us is suppose to act as a seller ...
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1answer
231 views

Replying to people in social media without sounding insulting [closed]

Background I am watching professional wrestling. In the show I am watching, the commentary team is doing a good job, but lacking in one very important area. This particular area is not something that ...
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3answers
574 views

How can I ask an acquaintance to make no offers on an apartment we are both interested in?

TL;DR An acquaintance of mine wants to buy the same apartment as me, and neither of us is willing to back down. Background In short, we discovered before going to the showing that were both very ...
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2answers
723 views

How do I defuse a shouting fight about a bad test?

I have Chinese parents and the stereotype is 100% true in this case... I’ve recently gotten a bad score on a test, however I’m in double accelerated math. However, apparently that’s the standard for ...
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3answers
6k views

Etiquette regarding borrowing of power tools

Based on television shows, it seems borrowing tools from neighbors is a potential minefield. I need to power wash my front and back porches and the siding of my house. My neighbor has a power washer ...
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3answers
624 views

How do I greet someone when bowing is a common greeting among the people without being disrespectful?

Muslims are only allowed to bow and prostrate to God because we consider such things acts of worship, and Islam is a very monotheistic religion. This is a problem in Japan, where bowing is considered ...
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10answers
25k views

How to tell a close friend they've been cheated on when the cheater is my good friend

Note: one of my best friends is in this situation with her friends, so I'm asking this question for her (from her perspective). I have two close friends, Bobby and Sarah, that I met together almost 3 ...
29
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6answers
16k views

How to communicate to my aunt that she made an honest mistake when buying food for a family meal?

TL;DR My aunt bought some houmous thinking it was vegan when it wasn't. How do I tell her she made a mistake without upsetting her? Background The other day, I was at a family dinner. My aunt didn'...

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