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How do I politely decline an invitation to a Halloween party during the pandemic?

A friend of mine invited me to one and said it would be outdoors with temperature checks, but I think it's a needless risk anyway. I'm not familiar with the usefulness of temperature checks, and I ...
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Being comfortable with disappointing or angering people [closed]

So I think a personal fault of mine is I tend to get on edge about what people think of me, and I often bend over backwards to do what is asked of me from others rather than risk disappointing or ...
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When should I be truthful and when not? [closed]

Over the years, I have observed that telling truth is not considered a virtue. I.e. everyone feels comfortable with a truthful person. Yet, they don't actually value him. Rather, he is considered for ...
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My closest friend gets (in my opinion) irrationally angry over small things, how do I deal with this? [closed]

For some background information, we're both mentally ill in similar ways and we've built a strong connection based on helping one another. I love her, and she claims to love me. But the last few weeks ...
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Neighbor stealing political yard signs [closed]

I'm a conservative living in a very liberal neighborhood. Over the last few months, I have had 18 Trump signs stolen from my front yard, one at a time. Regardless of your political leanings, I'm ...
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How do I politely turn down requests to show wedding photos?

I got married recently and have changed my name at work. People have noticed and are now asking for wedding photos. How do I tell them politely that no, I'm not going to show them? Lying and saying I ...
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How to handle best friend in love of my new girlfriend? [closed]

I met a girl some months ago. We instantly clicked and started flirting. But my best friend also got a crush on her. She rejected (very clearly, but gently) his advances and a few months later, me and ...
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Best method to handle an over angry Girlfriend [closed]

I have read a few posts and tried to get a few ideas on what to do, but I am still at a standstill. My girlfriend of many years now gets mad at the smallest things possible. At the start of the ...
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How can I help a hoarder friend while I worry about the health of her cats I need to feed?

One of my best friends, "Anne", has mental health problems for a long time. She's very closed off, just like me, and never responded much to my offers of help. I still tried to help her any ...
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How to deal with close relatives not taking COVID-19 seriously?

Context I live in an Eastern European country within the EU where COVID-19 has created relatively few victims due to the lock-down being put in place quite quickly in the spring. However, as the ...
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How to find balance between sounding defensive and staying silent during an argument?

My girlfriend says I never accept mistakes, don't say sorry, always try to reason why I did something, get defensive, say same thing again and again to support myself during the argument after I mess ...
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Best way to respond to continue possible friendship

I am taking an online course. Two days ago, the instructor organized a meeting of all the students. I liked one of them – he is senior to me, and seems like a nice sort of person, friendly-like – and ...
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How do I regain respect and professionalism in the face of petty criticism, while learning from said criticism?

Background I am a high energy person and do tend to snap easily when I have a perfect storm of tiredness, constant work pressure, lack of human interaction due to COVID, and simultaneously spending a ...
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Dealing with Extremely Chatty Housemates

I am a graduate student at the moment and sharing a house with undergraduate students. What I've noticed is that a lot of undergraduate students who are studying let's say relatively soft subjects ...
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How do I tell my PhD supervisor I want to drop out?

I am going to start my PhD degree this week and I realised that, for personal and professional reasons, I don't want to do it. Personal reasons: I live in a foreign country and I don't like living ...
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What if I could prevent a conversation from turning into pure guesswork?

I've had some serious stuff to handle over the last month or so. And it sadly wasn't the stuff you could keep easily quiet. To make things worse, the main actor that created this mess has apparently a ...
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Reassuring my wife being jealous of my close female friend

In short, I've made a mistake of being overly friendly and supportive to another person and can't deal with the massive backfire due to me being untrustworthy. More details below. I met my girlfriend, ...
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personal attack because of a political comment

We're 5 couples that known each other for many years and we decided to have a breakfast in a nice park. During the breakfast we spoke about the US election on a very intellectual level and one of the ...
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Roommate nagging about cooking at night!

I am a student living in a shared big house in Canada with 4 other roommates working already. I am busy doing research during the day, usually from 7:00 AM to 7:00 PM. I have to cook at night. Apart ...
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Is another person's private object within your own personal boundary?

My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 months. Early one morning, after a conversation we'd had the previous night, she calls me to ask me if I own a very private object. Not wanting to lie, I ...
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How long should I wait to ask someone in my network to refer me to someone else again? [closed]

I am actively searching for jobs right now and am reaching out to my network to find people to refer me to jobs. I understand that whenever someone in my network refers me or introduces me to someone ...
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How to get my parents to take my Mother's cancer diagnosis seriously?

I'm a 35y/o male in Canada. My parents are in their mid-late 60s and live in the UK. I have two older brothers also in the UK. My mother has been diagnosed with cancer, though the full diagnosis is ...
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Dealing with a new clique

My research group has a new member who is more outgoing than anyone else and draws a lot of attention to himself. He likes socializing a lot more frequently than I prefer to and has a more-the-...
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How to avoid awkwardness with an ex-acquaintance

Background: I have this acquaintance I have known for quite some time (approx. 2 years) over that time and he has grown to hate me. I have personally reached out to him to know what's wrong and he ...
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Boss tells me to face him when talking [closed]

So I was talking to my boss in the hallway today. During part of the conversation I turned to face somewhere to the left side of him for ~ 20 seconds, I think I got restless/bored from standing still....
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What to do if my name means something inappropriate in another person's language?

My first name is relatively common and normal for a country A where I'm from. Currently I live in a different country (B) and recently started working with a lot of people from some other country C. ...
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Repel flattery used to start conversations

I get annoyed with this. People start conversations with flattery like: you have got this, you have got that you cover 360 degrees. which I know is flattery with inferior motives. I get irritated ...
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How, as in “what way”, am I expected to go about using a dating app correctly?

A bit of a weird question, I know, but I feel I need this spelled out. When a person sits down and logs onto an app like Tinder, what exactly, more or less step by step, does Tinder expect them to do? ...
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How do I chase a teacher who hasn't replied to my messages despite reading them?

I'm studying a course remotely, and sent my teacher a message on Teams about 10 days ago now, asking a question. No response, but I can see the read receipt. Hoping to prompt a reply, I asked another ...
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How do you respond (in a reasonable manner) when a less-educated friend suggests reasons for your current psychiatric disorder?

My friend suggested that a recent and ongoing flare of my autoimmune disease was causing my ongoing depression. She is a very close friend, and I love her dearly, but she is much less educated than I ...
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How do I get to the point of asking questions and getting answers?

No matter what I say or do, I am truly just always asking questions about what I do not understand to people who are capable of helping me understand what I need to know about that topic, and no one ...
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How to stop divulging information that I don't want to share?

My cousin asks me things that I don't want to share, yet I share details with her because I don't know a polite way to tell her that I don't want to share. From time to time, she asks me about my ...
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How to encourage my boyfriend to sleep in the same bed as me? [closed]

My boyfriend moved into my house with me about a year ago, and for about 9 months we were sleeping in the same bed (the master bedroom). There is a similarly-sized guest bedroom that also has a ...
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How to deal with my grandma and aunt's hurtful behavior towards my family? [closed]

I am an unmarried 22 year old girl in college. I have a mother, father and brother who is also doing his masters in college. We live in India and all stay together in a flat. I'm the youngest in my ...
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How do I make sure I don't get credited for other people's work?

At work I have a co-worker who frequently gives me credit for the accomplishments of my female colleague. I am acting primarily as a consultant on the project where as she and her team are the ones ...
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How do I encourage my literature penpal to share her opinions more?

My penpal and I have become great friends. We email about every three days, sometimes more, and in just a few months she's turned out to be one of the most positive relationships in my life. She's ...
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How to encourage girlfriend to apologize more?

My girlfriend and I have been together for a bit more than 2 years now. At this point, our relationship is stable and we feel good about each other's company. However, there's one thing that really ...
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Dealing with older people who insist on doing everything themselves, refusing help and hoarding skills/knowledge

This is something I've noticed with older people, mainly men - the desire to do e.g. household or other maintenance-type tasks themselves, without explaining how to do it, even preferring that I'm not ...
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Is it appropriate to ask someone just met have they ever been somewhere? [closed]

Is it appropriate to ask someone just met have they ever been somewhere? Is it possible to embarrass them by asking that kind of questions in America. I went to Paris last summer. Have you ever been ...
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I suspect my wife is transgender. How can I talk best talk to them, and handle the possibilty if they are? [closed]

I've been with my wife for 10 years (married 2). I am a CIS male, and have suspected my partner (female sex, but agender) may be trans for a while now. They share a lot of similarities I've heard ...
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When hosting a gathering, how to decline to answer the question “who else is coming”?

I'm having a celebration soon. I invited some guests from different friends groups. Some are asking, "Who's coming?" I actually find this question a bit annoying because it's like their ...
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How to address a Chinese co-worker?

Question similar to How to address a Korean co-worker? When interacting in direct chat messages in English with co-workers (software developers like me) from Chinese offices ; is it rude to address ...
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How to address a Korean co-worker?

My current employer is a global software company with offices in several continents. The company tries to maintain a culture of conviviality. Our main communication medium is text chat in English ; ...
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How can I ask the neighbors to control their daughter's noise level?

My neighbour has a kid who shouts and cries continuously whole day and makes strange noises like barking, howling, bleating, and others. I really admire the energy of the girl, the endurance of her ...
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How to respond to a particular aspect of Indian culture?

In my line of work, I spend lots of time meeting people from various companies. Often, especially when the companies are tech companies, my counterpart will be Indian. One useful skill in working with ...
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How do I progress a newly formed friendship into a romantic relationship?

I am 27 and don't have any experience dating. My problem is that I have been totally an introvert for the past 10 years, especially with girls, so I don't have much experience when it comes to girls. ...
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How to politely deny service in barbershop from specific barber? [duplicate]

I'm really having hard time here. There are three barbers working there and there is no reservation possible. People go inside without an appointment. One of the barbers is really skilful however the ...
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Buying an expensive item from an acquaintance — making an offer

I want to buy an item from an acquaintance---we work in the same field roughly and have hung out a few times, I might refer to them as a friend loosely. The list price at a local shop is $1,050 pre-...
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How to get my younger brother to respect my boundaries

A year ago I finished my education and moved back in with my parents. My brother is 14, 10 years younger than me. He annoys me quite a bit and I'm having difficulties dealing with him and don't know ...
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How do I stop a person I am not interested in being friends with from contacting me?

There is a middle-aged Scandinavian educated chap (similar age) neighbour who befriended me (I am male too), even though I never wanted be anything more than neighbour or associate at best, but he is ...

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