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Simple yet maybe awkward workplace situation [closed]
This may look like a straightforward situation, but I would still like to ask for your advice.
Last year a girl and I worked as teaching assistants for a course in our college. Outside the work, I ...
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How to amicably discuss how rent will be increasing to newly inherited tenants?
I already have a property where I inherited tenants, and increased rent. Although, it was only by $50 after six months. I also gave them a list of improvements to be done.
I'm looking at acquiring a ...
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Dating an accused of rape as a rape survivor [closed]
So I have been seeing this guy for a few weeks now, and I knew he was once arrested for a few months but didn't know why,now I recently found out he was accused of rape. Fine he didn't deny that when ...
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Why is my kalanchoe not flowering? Is it healthy? [closed]
I got this kalanchoe plant in October 2021 when I moved to Cardiff, UK. It was flowing back then. It had lots of flowers. But after the flowering season, i removed the dried wilted flowers, and since ...
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How do I tell somebody they've been a sucker? [closed]
Apologies for the gratuitous title. I have many friends who have been lied to for years by people they trust. Not only do they believe those lies, but they repeat them to anybody willing to listen. ...
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How can I let a classmate know I can't help them on an assignment anymore?
I'm enrolled in a university course. For some time, I've been helping another student with a major project for our class, which counts for a quarter of our grade. It is an individual project where ...
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How do I find out if this girl has a crush on me, without asking her directly?
I am working in an IT company as project manager. I have met this girl who is a software engineer in a different team. We have known each other for one year now.
She likes to talk to me. She calls me ...
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How do I tell my online girlfriend that I'm actually a girl? [closed]
I met this girl on online a few weeks ago and we started dating two days after. She assumes that I'm a guy and I was going to tell her that I'm actually a girl, but then I felt bad because what I ...
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How to defend opinion against victim card
This frequently happens that when I present the opinion that considers morality as an emergent and highly subjective experience and that at the core of rule of law lies the authority and willingness ...
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My classmate is sharing pictures of my mom without her knowledge. How can I make him stop?
A few days back my classmate shared a picture of my mom (her facebook profile picture) on a subreddit for cum tributes, and sent a screenshot to me.
After much threatening and requesting I was able to ...
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How can I get my mother to give me a copy of her will?
When my father died my sisters went to his home and met with his attorney without me.
I did not see his will. My dad was wealthy,
I received $2000 from my dad's bank, and I don't know what my sisters ...
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Why is it that non-programmers (like my family) can't understand me? [closed]
I am 14 years old, I am from a not very developed country, which is far from such concepts as programming.
I really like programming, so I started doing it 3 years ago. During this time I gained ...
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How to politely ask roommate not to spend too much time in bathroom?
I have lived with roommates for a while and have almost never had exclusive use of any bathroom where I have lived. I currently share the bathroom with a student from India. He mainly studies at home. ...
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How to reassure my partner that I really do love them, despite being unable to show socially acceptable displays of affection in public?
I have social anxiety disorder (which my partner is aware of). I feel more comfortable being lovey dovey with my partner in private (such as holding hands, kissing hugging) than in public, despite ...
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How to signal to partner that I'm unresponsive because I'm focussing on something?
I have social anxiety disorder. I also often zone out for unrelated reasons (say, when I'm really focused on something technical).
My partner mistakes my zoning out for me not being okay, so they ask ...
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How do I deal with an office colleague whom I cannot avoid and he just won't stop talking about his favorite topic?
I like a little social interaction with my colleagues. I've spoken 1-1 for quite a while in order to get to know my colleagues at my new desk job.
There is a particular colleague who is obsessed with ...
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How to handle a person joining a conversation by asking a question you just answered?
I ran into this issue multiple times and I don't know how to act. For context: communicating in groups does not come naturally to me, so I often rely on skills I learned over time and not everyone may ...
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How do I kick one person out of a friend group, without alienating those who support them?
I have a group of friends I like to hang out with on discord nearly every evening. We have known each other for over a decade now and even if someone moved away, they'll still be online regularly.
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How do I mend a friendship that divided us apart for a couple months?
I've been friends with a girl for a few years now. We used to be very close friends. However, after she told me last November how she got diagnosed with clinical depression, she has been creating bad ...
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Is it appropriate for foreigners to thank US veterans for their service?
I am a foreigner living in the USA. I sometimes come across veterans and I know that in the local culture it is custom to respectfully acknowledge their service. Nothing too fancy:
Person A: "... ...
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How and when should I bring up to dates that I am a gun owner?
I am a licensed, responsible gun owner. I own one handgun that I use to shoot at the range. I keep it locked in a safe as required by law, and (although I am allowed to) I do not keep live ammunition ...
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When you're ask culture, how can you tell the difference between polite guess culture comments and malicious backhanded comments?
I'm ask-culture, and I suspect (though I'm not 100% sure) a colleague is guess-culture. I, probably like everyone, have various insecurities about my job skills. There are things I feel I'm very ...
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Do emojis help autists recognize feelings?
Lately read an article about emojis and how inferior they are supposed to be in comparison to facial expression and tone of voice. (The article is in German, probably paywalled, and not really ...
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How can we convince grandmother to use the dishwasher?
Grandmother needs to start using the dishwasher, she evidently can no longer wash dishes by hand.
I visited my grandmother today, she served me some fried salmon and a bowl of ice cream. Afterwards, I ...
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How to interpret and respond to people who belittle themselves?
Background: I am totally blind. I am using a screen reading software to use the computer. I am a programmer.
Whenever I meet new people (especially in the IT industry), the following happens in many ...
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Confront supposed harassment/abuse on a bus stop
Scenario: You walk by a bus station and notice a, supposedly, couple that behaves suspicious.
The woman seems to be afraid of the man (stares to the ground, submissive posture, he holds her arm ...
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How can I confront someone about things said behind my back without betraying a confidence?
I am a volunteer in an organisation, and running a very successful part of it with a great team under me.
Another part of the organisation is really struggling and the person who is my equivalent in ...
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How can I ask my neighbours to refrain from using EV spaces?
My wife and I own a little electric vehicle, EV, and live in an area with many public EV charging points. Most of the time, our EV is fantastic; we plug it in when we get home, and then in the morning ...
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How to complain to co-worker about their behavior using non-violent communication?
I work in a shelter and the other day my coworker and a client got into a protracted, heated exchange. The client suffers from some paranoia and delusions (mild) so cannot really be counted on to ...
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Is there a way in the European culture to consistently refuse to do small but annoying favors to coworkers and friends without alienating them?
I have recently relocated from my home country, Japan, to Europe to work here for a while in an international team, and I am experiencing a big cultural problem about interacting with Europeans. The ...
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How could I apologize to my girlfriend's mom?
My girlfriend's mom is upset with me over girlfriend's decision on a car.
Her position
A car that's around 5 or 6 years old with more than 80k miles will just break down (~80k is high milage)
Such a ...
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How to invite someone over but not for too long
On behalf of a friend, sometimes she wants to invite people over but many members of her extended family don’t know when to leave, even when given big clues (not as harsh as ‘close the door when you ...
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How can two people with opposing & unwavering opinions again gather as a family without tension?
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Noah & Emma are family as a result of their children marrying.
Noah - Grandfather set in his ways and beliefs. Has strong influence over who can attend family gatherings.
Emma - ...
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How to avoid someone in a group
Me and B, my best friend, 2 boys, were the core of a group of friends.
C, a girl, became a core member by coming to almost every gathering we had. I started having feelings for her but long story ...
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Family of migraine patient - how to help kids understand violent outbursts of migraine patient (mother) in response to noise
I had assumed that my wife was a bad person due to the way she behaved when my daughter cried for any reason. She would get angry and even at times hit my daughter when she cried instead of consoling ...
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How do I explain moving out due to medical reasons to my roommate?
I need advice for a very specific situation, which I have described below.
Context: I am a college student, and I live on-campus. Due to a bit of a space crunch on campus this year, the rules require ...
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How to avoid division without being divisive yourself?
I’m in a situation where I believe cohesiveness would be both sensible and desirable, in a “house divided against itself cannot stand” sense. The other parties, however, don’t see this. This is partly ...
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What is the proper title for addressing a godparent?
A friend asked me to be a godparent for his first child. Due to Covid, I really haven't seen my godson since his first birthday so he really doesn't know me. I am sending a birthday gift with a card....
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Inviting a colleague to hang out without giving the impression I'm interested in something more than friendship
I have one collaborator from another country for whom I have great admiration. In fact I'm learning a lot with her and I think she is amazing both professionally and as a person, and I would like to ...
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How to express a strong need for change both non-confrontative and sufficiently powerful?
I have a family member, let's call him Nathan, who is extremely good at deflecting criticism, blaming everyone else or roping in unrelated stuff to muddy a discussion about something uncomfortable to ...
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How to tell landlord that their rent increase is above the legal limit and remain on good terms?
Where I live the price of rent is very high. The government has many rules governing rent. In my experience, it is common for people not to follow all the laws (either out of ignorance or ...
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How to exit toxic relationships without hurting friends
I've often noticed myself not being able to say no to things and I end up in toxic friendships where I get manipulated, and I'm too afraid to leave them because I don't want to hurt people.
All the ...
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How to tell someone a friendship has run its course?
This person (male) and I (male) went to high school together over 10 years ago, during that time we spent a lot of time together, the typical bro-relationship.
Since then a lot has changed, I went to ...
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How to shake hands with someone having a prosthetic right arm/hand?
Airbus did a few years ago a few videos about inclusion of disabled people, including this one: https://youtu.be/RJuE_Ywl64o
It features a disabled woman with a prosthetic right arm (or hand, it is ...
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How to tell coworker to learn and do it themselves?
I started using Docusign about 4 months ago. I have a coworker who needed to learn how to use Docusign as well and we attempted to connect so that I can show her how to use it.
First attempt was not ...
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How to apologize to somebody when one or both of you don’t remember what needs apologizing for?
My wife and I have been married for a long time and are in a loving relationship.
Unfortunately I have memory issues (ADHD, dyspraxia and similar co-morbid conditions) as does she from both similar ...
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How to handle seemingly friendly questions from stranger in social situation that ask you where you work etc?
Background : you are at a bar or some similar social place, where people gather and meet, and someone has struck up a friendly conversation with you, talking about the game playing on TV, etc, and ...
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How to contact a girl classmate, being a boy, whose number I got from her school friend? [closed]
I am a 15-year-old schoolboy. This year a new girl took admission in my class.
More than often, in the beginning, I saw her staring at me. Sometimes even I gave a look to her. This happened for many ...
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As a customer, how to deal with an unresponsive company representative without poisoning the relationship?
I am currently in the process of building a house, which is quite a stressful experience.
The site administrator (my immediate contact person) was recently replaced. The previous administrator was a ...
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How do I nudge my coworker to reframe his mindset from 'me' to 'we'
I just joined a new company. My immediate coworker, who's also been assigned at my line manager, takes a lot of pride in the work he's done. Even when it came to my onboarding and in general, I notice ...
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