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Complimenting a complete stranger on public transportation

The other day, I was in the subway when I saw a bag with a very funny joke on it. The joke made me smile, so I wanted to compliment the person wearing it (my thought was that they brightened my day ...
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1answer
191 views

How can I be assertive without being labeled as difficult?

A quick clarification: I've included the examples to illustrate situations in which I am having trouble being assertive. I am not looking for solutions to these two specific situations. I am more ...
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1answer
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How do I request a different hairdresser?

When I get my hair cut I always go to the same chain location, because it's on my way home from work and convenient. I don't have a particular stylist, so I don't make an appointment and just walk in ...
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2answers
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How to properly criticize a poor (scientific) work?

My question: Are there ways to point out errors of somebody's scientific work without sounding harsh or as if I am discrediting that person? A lot can be found about criticizing well and proper ...
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Survival without Linkedin profile in software industry [on hold]

Internet is full of advantages of having a linkedin profile. I, despite being a software engineer, don't feel comfortable (and feel anxious a lot - extremely panic feeling) broadcasting myself and my ...
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0answers
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Parents fighting a lot recently, and aren't 'dealing' with the problem causing it to blow up next time - How do I get them to work it out?

My parents are the two best people I know. They both love each other, and wouldn't dream about even considering getting a divorce. But sometimes they lose sight of that. Recently, they've been getting ...
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1answer
367 views

Worried about girlfriend lifestyle changes

My girlfriend has been experimenting with different lifestyle changes lately, which I think is not only amazing, but an important element in growth. I would like to support her through all these ...
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2answers
181 views

Replacing broken item when price has changed [on hold]

My 12-year-old cousin knocked over and broke a somewhat expensive TV at my place. After we cleaned up the mess, his parents offered to replace the TV. I told them the figure I remembered paying for it,...
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0answers
395 views

I want to bring up birth control to my girlfriend without causing a fight

We've been together for a few months and only use condoms for protection. Recently there have been a few isolated signs of her being pregnant. I think I'm most likely just paranoid and that the ...
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1answer
274 views

How to argue for a point of view without appearing like I am sharing that view?

A little Background first: Due to events in my past I am very self aware and practiced a lot, trying to understand motivations of others without letting my personal views/motivation induce bias into ...
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1answer
236 views

How to ask Professor about email that was sent?

The following conversation happened between my Professor and I over email. Prof: Hello, are you graduating this year? Me: Hello, no Sir, I am graduating next year. Prof: Okay. I am ...
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0answers
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Am I in a toxic relationship? [on hold]

Me and my gf have been dating for 6 months now. I'm 28 and she's 23. The first 4 months were great but things have taken a turn since. Basically, she has severe anger issues and they've become more ...
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2answers
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Former housemates have left things at my house. How do I get them to take their things?

My wife and I often host various friends of ours who need a short term place to stay (e.g. a 1-2 week gap between leases). Often, when the friend moved out, they've said something like "I can't fit ...
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2answers
283 views

How to dodge a question you don't want to answer smoothly, without coming across as dismissive or abrupt?

Recently, I was in a conversation with family members, siblings, in laws, etc. We are all Americans, and all of the same generation. Someone asked, "What would you do if so-and-so (a family member) ...
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2answers
352 views

How to tell brother that not returning money when he has it is not cool

I lent my brother over 700€ more than a year ago because he needed it more than me (I needed it to because I was going to get married), he told me he was going to return them as soon as possible, a ...
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3answers
847 views

How do I introduce my new name to my friends?

I am Max and I am a 19 year old college student from Spain. I had a very troubled childhood laced with mental illness and bullying. I have since moved on but I feel like my birth name (not included ...
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3answers
492 views

Sit opposite or along-side on a 4-seater table on a date? [on hold]

Sometimes I'll be seated at a 4 person table when I visit a restaurant with one other person. When on a first romantic date with someone, what is the etiquette as to whether I should sit beside them ...
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2answers
374 views

How to communicate with sensitive roommates accusing me of passive-aggression?

A few months ago I moved into a shared house. I really like it here, but as per previous questions there's been some conflicts regarding the rules and expectations of other roommates. I worked really ...
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4answers
550 views

What is the proper etiquette for sharing menu items at a restaurant?

When I dine at a nice restaurant (not fast food), I frequently "collaborate" with another in my party so that between the two of us we can order two different items from the menu and then we each the ...
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1answer
227 views

How to proactively include myself in extrinsic ethnic family?

Background I come from a mixed heritage; half is white and the other half is Latin-American (I’ll refer to now as ‘ethnic’). I’ve grown up mainly around my white side of the family and only on rare ...
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5answers
525 views

How to discuss future with disengaged and possibly depressed partner?

This is my first question on the Interpersonal Skills StackExchange. I have browsed through a number of earlier questions regarding identifying and approaching depression but I have not quite found ...
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3answers
405 views

Knowing when you should send message instead of asking in person

In my day to day life, when I have a question, I like to ask the person who has the answer in person (instead of sending a slack message). One of the reasons for that is that, most of the time, I can'...
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0answers
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What techniques could a shy person use to have a better outcome when asking questions on this SE? [migrated]

For someone who is shy, interpersonal skills are always a big challenge. It's especially daunting, because there's always an intrapersonal aspect to it, which is generally much harder to overcome than ...
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2answers
616 views

Asking people to meet outside of work/gym/etc

Lately I feel like all the people I meet only get and stay acquaintances to mine. I don't have a huge friend group and would enjoy forming new friendships, going out more with people, etc. If often ...
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1answer
580 views

How do I prevent an absent minded friend from inviting himself to stay with me every year?

I have a friend who is very intelligent but terribly absent minded who sends the odd gift out every couple of months and then announces every year that he will be coming over from the United Kingdom (...
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1answer
854 views

How to politely ask someone to stop air-conducting

I regularly host chess evenings, where I and a couple of contemporaries gather to play chess. We listen to (mostly baroque) classical music. Recently, one of the group has started 'conducting' along ...
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1answer
362 views

How do you maintain relations after you've received help from an acquaintance?

I'm not talking about workplaces. I'm talking about friends outside the workplace. Maybe you have a friend and got introduced to his friend (X) sometime. Then after a couple of years you needed help ...
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3answers
617 views

How to tell people to stop aggrandizing my allergies?

Background I’m a special li’l’ person in that I’m allergic to a lot of foods. This includes... All types of nuts Milk, eggs, cheese; all dairy products Avocado... especially on toast :( Gluten Only ...
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3answers
1k views

How do I tell a colleague that I won’t have an intimate relationship with her?

How do I tell a colleague that I won’t have an intimate relationship with her without hurting our work relation? Background We have been working together for a few years; she was single and I was not....
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6answers
725 views

How do I deal with the problem of people who aren't listening to what I'm actually saying?

The problem I've spent many years gauging my interactions with other people, and a commonly reoccurring theme is the other person already has presumed what I'm saying or going to say, or has drawn up ...
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5answers
1k views

Responding to a man about the fact that they had been kissed by force

Some time ago (four years ago), I was eating in the cafeteria with a friend (let's call him Arthur) and a group of friends (4 people). Arthur wasn't a part of our regular friends group (even though ...
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1answer
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How do I improve my presentation skills in the seminar? [closed]

I am an engineering student and I have to prepare seminars frequently. Seminars count for the marks scored and credit. I'm given a topic, I prepare it thoroughly and make a good content slide. All my ...
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2answers
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How do I tell a friend that's trying to start another long distance relationship that it isn't a very good idea without hurting our friendship?

Context My friend (f) is trying to start another long distance relationship with a second person in our extended group of friends (I am neither of these people). The first relationship (w/ Person 1) ...
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1answer
464 views

How do I talk to my girlfriend about pitching in financially when we go out? [closed]

We have been together for 6 months. We are far away. We meet on the weekends. I have been to paying, but now I think it's time to share. We also talk about living together. How can I discuss this ...
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1answer
486 views

I have to sack a temporary worker. How to communicate it?

I contracted a temporary worker for two weeks, to cover vacations of another person. There is no contract, only a word agreement. His work is to cover a turn during the night, checking some systems ...
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3answers
644 views

How to tactfully request girlfriend's family to give us more space?

I have been dating my girlfriend for about 1 year now. I love her for her caring nature, intelligence, and sense of humor. However, since I met her parents about some months ago, they have much more ...
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1answer
642 views

How to stop friends giving me burnout at social events?

I care about my friends, and I believe its mutual, but I've noticed a trend over the past couple of years. Nowadays we generally tend to visit eachother's homes rather than go out to bars/restaurants....
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2answers
395 views

How to tell a patient I don’t want to discuss a personal detail?

I work an introductory job as a technician in a busy hospital. I manage equipment, conduct various tests on patients, and record information I obtain. Because I’m directly working with the patients, ...
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1answer
231 views

Is it appropriate to remove a privelege from my younger brother for bad behavior? [closed]

I own a game that my younger brother who is 10 enjoys playing. Because he enjoys complaining about things I've been allowing him to use some functions on his own time to play it. But this morning he ...
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2answers
161 views

How can I ensure I maintain a good working relationship competing with my colleagues for a promotion?

I've worked at my current job for just about 2 years. Due to the type of job it is, the turnover rate is high, so I am one of the most experienced employees there. We're likely to have one or two ...
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3answers
2k views

Asking my friend out even though I have a girlfriend

I am a 20 years old male from Canada. I have been with my girlfriend (also 20 years old) for about three months. When we started being in a relationship, we agreed that it was an exclusive one ...
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3answers
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My girlfriend keeps me out of her Facebook profile - how to understand why?

We have been together for 6 months. I met her family and she met mine. After about one month of dating she showed me some pictures on Facebook. After a while I thought I could add her on fb, and I did....
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How to politely kick out someone who tries to take over your work?

I wrote three articles with several colleagues. Now in two of them I was included as second author. I am fine with that as the idea was not mine. The results of my research were used though. But my ...
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3answers
787 views

Telling my boss that I have tiredness issues

I'm a junior IT engineer who was recently hired by a company. I'm from France and my probation isn't over yet (two to four months left to go). I'm also on the autism spectrum (the people at my work ...
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2answers
560 views

How to ask primary roommate not to share key to my room with other people?

I live in a shared house and one of the roommates has the lease to the place. With is permission, I put a lock on my bedroom door. He then insisted I give him a key. I had hid a key for him to use, ...
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How to improve relationship with a co-worker who does not speak to me?

A little history: I was hired onto this team a few years ago. The subteam I'm on has several people: the project lead (Jim), the co-worker I'm asking about (let's call her Mary), and others including ...
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2answers
465 views

Thanks to friend's deal I saved some money, I would like to thank him [closed]

I have a friend who does financial advices and arranges certain deals. Thanks to him I was able to make a deal on which I saved a good amount of money. Since we're not that good friends, we usually ...
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1answer
1k views

How do I apologize to my girlfriend after she said her heart is broken?

My girlfriend and I are in our 25's. We live in the same city in Indonesia. Recently, our relationship hit a problem. Last night, we were chatting about our goals. I would really like her to be my ...
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1answer
301 views

How to get money owed to me by my brother [closed]

My brother is self-employed, but only makes around $20K/year. That isn't enough to pay his $24K/year health insurance, much less take care of a 4-person family. He has survived by keeping all our co-...
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2answers
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Approach friends about getting un-invited last minute with terrible communication and rude behavior?

Last weekend, me and 4 friends (let's call them Alice, Bob, Cody and Danny) wanted to go to another friends place (which I don't know) to have some drinks. The friend, at which the gathering was, also ...

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