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How should I handle more risk averse friends? [closed]

I’m the type to go backpacking in the mountains for vacation over renting a room on a beach. Fairly often I come back with stories and injuries ranging from mild to occasionally nearly fatal. I set ...
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How can I ask my uncle to pay for my ADHD medication? [closed]

Like most people with ADHD, I suffer from constantly changing jobs and financial problems. I'm trying to get a prescription for ADHD medication. so I can have a stable career. There are a couple of ...
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How to effectively speak and act in a casual gathering with friends (both boys & girls) and not anxiety get in the middle of it? [closed]

This Friday, me and my friends, with our moms, decided to hang out after a very long time; like a really very long time (almost 7 months, due to the lockdown). We met at a restaurant. In the beginning,...
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How do I get my jewelry back that someone took from me and gave to someone else [closed]

A friend of mines took his mother's jewelry and gave it to a new girlfriend without his mother knowing anything about it until later. My friend asked for the jewelry back, but she refused. Since he ...
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How to argue motivation for feelings while still validating the feelings itself

I've been having a lot of arguments with my partner lately. The details do not matter, but the gist is that she doesn't feel special. She states that she feels this way because of something that I did/...
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How to tell a doctor or nurse to speak to me in technical details without being rude

I have regular appointments with nurses and doctors due to a long term but not serious health condition. It's often a new doctor or nurse I see each time so I have to try to judge how best to ...
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How to tell your family you dislike the way your sibling acts? [closed]

Ok, so I have gotten upset with my siblings before, but it never became really toxic until this year, it's at the point where our parents ask us, "Do you guys hate each other?", of course, ...
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How do I handle the “one-upper” personality? [closed]

Sometimes they are called a "one-upper" or maybe a plus one. For example, if you say you did something that you are proud of they have done that, as well. It could be anything, but they ...
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How to reassure Significant Other that I am not trying flirt with other women - are there any reasonable solutions?

I have a good working relationship with my Significant Other, but today she and I decided we would talk to each other about what we feel should be improved on an individual basis in order to progress ...
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How can I talk to my friend in order to make sure he won't stay more than two weeks?

I recently bought a 3 bedroom house as a single male and as a result I have more than enough space for myself. My close friend has contacted me saying that his landlord wants to evict him and if he ...
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How to decline after-work meeting requests from my manager, after setting a precedent of accepting them if pushed long enough to do so?

I am working for a client, fulltime, on another company's behalf. I have a manager on the company side that's fond of organizing 'extra-curricular' activities: Meetings organized outside of work hours ...
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Ethics of unexpected charity request [closed]

The story Couple of times I've got a call from representatives of some local charity organizations. First time they were raising money for operation for some kid. When I asked where did they get my ...
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Moving away from Christian faith: how to retain relationships?

I grew up in a pretty religious (evangelical) family. Naturally, I believed what I was taught: the actual religious stuff like love your neighbors and enemies, be humble and kind, and so on. But also ...
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How to apologize after unwanted sarcastic comment while giving feedback?

A colleague of mine sent her thesis to me to give comments on it. I really liked the work. So I replied saying it was an interesting study and nice attempt. Wished her all the best. I later realised ...
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How to ask subject of call to recruiter?

I finished an interview process with a company, and today I received an email from my recruiter regarding a quick call. However, I was not aware of this stage and don't know what is the focus/subject ...
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How do I ask people out in an online group?

For the past few months, I've been participating in a group on MeetUp.com. This particular group holds a weekly social event on Zoom and plays online games together every few days. (The issues below, ...
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How to stop coworker from tuning me out

Issue One of my coworkers has a habit of "tuning me out" while I am talking. This involves completely ignoring me and working on something else. In Person This has happened before the ...
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How to ask someone to respect others' beliefs or please leave the forum

For context, I personally am religious and am a practicing Christian and I love learning about other belief systems. Because of this, I joined a forum on Disqus focused on open discussion of religion ...
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How to turn down gift request with minimal damage to relationship [closed]

There is a guy I like and we've been going out for 3 or 4 months now. Within the first two weeks, I decided to give him a (kind of expensive) gift spontaneously. I love giving gifts to people I like, ...
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How do I convey to a family member that the deadline for moving out is non-negotiable when they responded emotionally to a previous attempt?

Summary Over Christmas my spouse and I took in a family member who needed somewhere to stay temporarily. They contacted us because we were (and still are) the only family who had a spare room and, ...
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How to talk about my life without showing off?

As the title says, how to talk about myself without showing off? when I was 21 years old and I was still studying, I was hired by an IT corporation and I had a good income. Now I'm 24 and my income is ...
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How to ask an otherwise helpful person who often reacts rudely to my questions to stop?

A while ago I joined a Discord server for a team (2 vs 2) chess game called bughouse, owned by a guy who I'll call Jake for the sake of anonymity. As I got more interested in the game, he and others ...
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How many “bise” (kisses) should I give?

Context Let's assume we are in a COVID-free environment. In France, depending on where you are, we give different amounts of "bises" (kisses on the cheek) in greeting. For example, we give ...
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How can I support someone I don't really know through a divorce?

A person I know online from a writing site recently had her parents get divorced. I first messaged her about a month or two ago, probably mid December before Christmas. As far as I can tell, which isn'...
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How can I change the relationship better with my mom, if she feels happy that I fail?

I had some arguments with my mom before, such as, when she invested in stocks, she just guessed and listened to the radio, or watched TV. And then I asked her, if she knew what P/E ratio was, so that ...
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Handling an ex-girlfriends jabs in her responses to me?

Background Last month, I broke up with my gf, 36, who I was with for over a year, for the second time. During the pandemic, I had broken up with her briefly but later got back together after we both ...
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How to get a young Egyptian woman to talk about herself

About half a year ago a young Egyptian woman contacted me via Facebook, because she was looking for a native German speaker who also has some decent English skills. Of course at first I suspected some ...
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How can I ask my landlord for compensation over his mistake? [closed]

I am renting a room in a shared apartment with three other people, one of which is the landlord. Recently, one person moved out and today I realized that the landlord has thrown away all of the food I ...
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How to be there for our persons during Pandemic times?

2020 was a bad year for (face to face) human interaction, and 2021 is going down the same route (at least in my country, and in many others for sure). For almost a year now, I have barely seen my ...
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How can I prevent my girlfriend from promising things out of obligation?

I've been in a loving relationship for over a year, but especially with coronavirus, my girlfriend is somewhat convinced that she is not meeting my needs since I feel lonely quite a bit. (It's not ...
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How to defuse meaningless arguments?

This is about my mothers husband (let's call him Bob for now). I visit them from time to time, and they are mostly pleasant to be around. However, Bob has the tendency to blurt out completely false ...
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How to have honest talk about current job with ex-colleagues?

When I switch jobs I have colleagues that we get along and keep in touch. When we meet I'm find myself in a situation where I have to explain about my current employer and the job I do and to give ...
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How can I interact smoothly with a manipulative person?

I have a colleague (from now on called C) that I voluntarily work with (in a non-corporate environment) because we could get some work done that could be generally beneficial, including to both of us (...
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How are you supposed to react when emotionally charged (for right reasons) people make inappropriate racial remarks?

To describe further let's take an example. Consider a person V, victim of an event or witnessed injustice. It seemed quite obvious that a person X who belongs to a group G is responsible for said ...
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Asking teacher to fix course software in group chat to speed up resolution

My child is currently taking online lessons due to Corona lock-down. The teacher takes about 40 minutes to explain today's lesson and then the children (7, 8 year) do exercises online and offline with ...
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How to effectively counteract a rhetorical technique where a position around a complex issue is summarized in one word?

I've recently listened to an interesting Dutch podcast. The podcast talked about framing, and specifically about how people sometimes frame things by using a tactic that uses single words or images to ...
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Talking to a friend that isn't very reasonable about people having different opinions

Me, personally speak my mind. For example, if someone asks for my opinion about a shoe and if I think it is ugly I just say it. I'm not rude or don't want to be mean. It is ugly in my opinion but it ...
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How to express to a friend that someone outed their HIV status to me and that they should be aware who they share it with? [duplicate]

One of my gay friends told me that another friend of ours is HIV+ and that I should therefore avoid him. I told him is HIV status doesn't matter to me and that he should never have to tell me. And ...
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How to express that you are here to listen without missleading them about your feelings?

In a social network group (Twitter), there is a boy who shows signs of loneliness and needs for a partner but with immaturity. This group is made of know unknown people and I know him less. And his ...
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How to respond to a baseless accusation/claim without owning the burden of proof?

An honest response to an accusation should be constructive. One way to achieve that is to express empathy, question,break down broad terms(if any) into specific instances and address each of them. But ...
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I forgot to wish my Dad a happy new year

Question I forgot to wish my father happy new year. Later in the afternoon, when I texted him to wish him a Happy New Year, he is refusing my messages. It seems he is angry and disappointed at me. How ...
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How can I deal with my wife always changing her mind about things we already planned?

I like making plans whether they're short term or long term (> 6 months). Always have. My wife, however, tends to "forget" about plans we had already discussed and gets upset when I try ...
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How to debate with someone who uses other people's arguments as their own?

I sometimes end in face-to-face conversations/debates with my (adult) brother over a variety of topics that he usually brings up himself. They're often the kind of topics I don't pay much attention to ...
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My partner tells me how I feel [closed]

My partner has the habit of telling me how I feel about what happened. When I disagree, she tends to argues the point. Note: In my personal growth, I'm doing my best to avoid bringing unnecessary ...
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My roommate cooks so much I don't get a turn with the kitchen

I live with two people. We share a kitchen and living room. One of the roommates cooks a lot! I know you need to share things when living with other people, but she's in it so often it's regular for ...
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How to approach asking a longtime friend out?

Some context is due. We've known each other for more or less 9 years now, from our late teens and now nearing our late twenties. We both lead rather busy lives, so especially throughout the past few ...
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How can I help my autistic son with unrealistic life ambitions

My son is in his early 20’s and is on the autistic spectrum. He has seen his older sibling and cousins go to university, learn how to drive and move out of home to live with their partners. He now ...
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How to be less awkward at a funeral?

My aunt (my mother's only sister) died a few days ago. I was like "uh". Not that I don't care. I loved her. My problem is that I can't feel. I was sad but felt no sadness, like I was ...
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How to ask girlfriend to set healthy boundaries with her dog?

My girlfriend of eight months has a seven-year-old chihuahua mix that is extremely jealous, if not needy. When I first started dating gf, whenever we needed some cuddle time, she would have the dog ...
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How do I ask my family to stop buying me Star Wars themed presents?

When I was a child I was really into Star Wars, as many children are. Now as a grown man, with my own interests and hobbies, a fully developed brain, and two decades of bad Star Wars movies I have ...

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