One of my closest girl friends that I dated for a while - and then remained close friends with even after we decided to just be friends - got married over the past two years and also just had a baby. I was invited to neither the wedding nor the baby shower. On my birthdays, she still sends me a nice Facebook chat message, and it's always nice to hear from her. We never had a falling out of any kind.
In fact, after we stopped dating, we always met up in the cute coffee houses and tea rooms that we used to go to -- but this time, we'd share gossip about the new people we were dating. It was always a really fun time with her, and we were really supportive of each other. I usually initiated these meetups, more so than her - but she'd always choose the places that we'd go to, e.g. "let's go back to tea room X!", which I'd always happily agree to, and the meetings were always really fun, since we'd have so much to catch up on.
The few years that we remained friends, she was great about meeting up during the holidays, our birthdays, start of summer, fall seasons, etc. We always had reasons to meet up -- and sharing gossip about our new dating lives was pretty entertaining for both of us, I'd say. However, the contact stopped pretty much completely, once she got married, except for the birthday messages she'd leave me through Facebook messenger.
I still saw her after her being engaged, but closer towards her wedding (which I had no knowledge of), we stopped meeting, and I found out about the wedding and her new child through her Facebook status updates. I congratulated her by emails only, not in person; realizing that I hadn't gotten invited to either event, I then stopped inviting her out altogether.
We haven't met up in over two years now.
My question is:
Now that she's married and has started a family with her husband, how can I reach out to her to see whether we could catch up over coffee or dinner?