I've attempted suicide about half a year ago. I was very unstable and very stupid, but at least I survived. I'm currently stable, both mentally and physically (and have the necessary professional support).
As most people don't have to and don't want to know that I attempted suicide, I simply tell them a lie fairly close to the truth: I simply give a reason such that the 'incident' can be considered an 'accident' (My injuries are still visible, so I have to say something at least). Most of the time, this works well, people don't really pry when they hear a satisfactory explanation.
However, there are people who I think should know the truth. In particular, I think a group of old friends should know. We haven't seen each-other (except a few) for quite some time, so I've been unable to get a conversation with most of them so far. I really need to do this face to face in the same room, this is not something I can do over the internet or phone.
Recently, we've made plans for a 'reunion' of some sorts, where we simply want to go out in town and have diner and some drinks to catch up.
This provides an opportunity for me to tell them (as we're all together again), but I prefer to get everyone somewhere private and comfortable (A restaurant/bar isn't private enough, a back-alley isn't comfortable enough), as this topic is both very private, and, from what I've seen in others, quite shocking.
Luckily, one of the friends (hereafter friend X) who does know the truth lives nearby town. So, I could try to arrange with X to get everyone at X's place and then I can tell them. I'm confident that, if everyone is in a private room, I can tell them in the way I'd like to.
The problem is, I really don't want any questions before meeting there. So I'd prefer to get them there by subtle means. I currently see two options:
I could get everyone to gather at X's place before we go to town, and tell them before we go out. The advantage is that I can be subtle, but the disadvantage is that I could very well ruin the mood for the rest of the evening. I'm perfectly fine with leaving it there and just catching up with friends afterwards, but I'm not sure whether my friends will feel the same way.
I could try to gather people after X's we go to town. Problem is that I can't say something like "Let's have an afterparty at X's", as I'm pretty sure at least some of my friends would decline the offer. So I cannot be subtle in that case, I'll have to essentially force them to X's place and give awkward silence on the way there. This has the additional risk that people really have to leave and that I still can't tell everyone.
To recap, I want to achieve a private meeting with my friends, but I want to avoid explaining why before we arrive and avoid ruining the rest of the evening. I understand that achieving all of these goals may be impossible, but I'd appreciate someone else's perspective on this.