I was afraid of allowing people in my life. Actually, I was not even looking for friendships and was pretty happy without any (So many things to do, so little time). I met someone about two years ago who showed me that friendship was more than a plot device in books and movies. I really care for her and love spending time with her, talking about stuff. I'm not an introvert and like talking with people, I just didn't want them in my life. This changed with her and I'm starting to be more open with people, now.
Let's say... I'm a bit "lacking" on the IPS side (trying to take a crash course through this stackexhange and reddit, but well, I have a long way to go). I have no clue if I'm overtexting (short story sized emails that get answered) her or if I'm not caring enough (went one month without talking to her). She's very patient as she knows my... limitations, but I can't always rely on her to develop my social skills. She already allowed me to make giant steps on this way (I'm still the same, altough I feel I'm a better person). I want to be here for her, I want to be a great friend to the people I like and on the other hand I don't want to scare them away.
Is there any hints I can take to know where to put that cursor ?
And before anyone asks, no, I'm not looking for a romantic relationship + I'm asexual (and old enough to be sure of it).