I'm Israeli. I travel to the UK about twice a year. I generally try to be polite and pleasant around people, so very often a smiling waitress in a café or an assistant in a shop would ask me where I'm from. It's a safe question, right? Like the weather.
And then I say I'm from Israel. And the smiles drop. And the pleasant service with them. I've had checks handed to me before I asked for them and when I was still considering to order something else. I've had assistants in clothes stores suddenly becoming busy with another customer, or changing with another assistant.
How should I respond to such situations? I mean, refusing someone service because of who they are is the very epitome of racism.
My desired outcome would be waiters, assistants etc. not doing that. Do I confront them, ask something like "Have I done something that upsets you? Why wouldn't you help me any more?" Do I just give up, grin and bear it, the way my ancestors did for generations? Do I have other options available to me?
The one thing I'm not prepared to do is say I'm from somewhere else. I'm proud of where I come from, I will not hide it like I'm ashamed.