Something relationship/sex -related happened to me half a year ago, and since I still haven't recovered, I have decided to seek professional help. I have very different background than people in this country, and I have never been in therapy, so I don't really know how to talk about it.
When I tried to talk about it online, people just dismissed it, saying that it is normal and I'm not allowed to be traumatized by it. Because of my religious background, this just happens to be the most traumatizing thing I can imagine. I can't just ignore it even though I know most people wouldn't feel the same way.
I don't want to go too much in detail what happened, but after, I have had this kind of thoughts, like obsessive thoughts:
- I was a prostitute.
- I was raped for many months.
- He meant to give me to his friends to use.
- I barely escaped gang rape.
- If I stayed, he would have sold me to sex slavery.
- If I talk to any man, they might rape me.
- All men have raped women.
Obviously I'm not going to say these things to the therapist, because if I did, she would lock me up in mental hospital and throw the key to the bottom of the sea. I know that what happened doesn't fit to the western dictionary definition of rape or prostitution. It's just it feels hundred times worse than rape.
It's completely unimaginable that this kind of crime would happen in my previous community, few decades ago it would probably have resulted to a death sentence. So, naturally how I feel and think are a result of that community and is very different than how people in liberal country feel.
My goal is to make the therapist understand how big issue it is, without thinking I'm delusional.