A while back ago, my friend married. I was sent an invitation when no one was at home, so it got recalled and sent back to the sender (my friend, at a nearby town).
A little background on this friend: we are classmates back in junior high school, in a small 20 person class (other class got 40s), so all of us are pretty close.
I was unable to contact her regarding the invitation, but at least I know definitely I was invited, although I never got the written invitation. The problem is, in most wedding in Java, we are required to show an invitation, or write on the guest book - which I don't which method she will be using. If it was the latter, I can walk through without problem.
I decided not to attend, and congratulated her the day after, which she confirmed everyone was there and asked why I didn't come.
Now my question is what one should do in a situation like this? The answer does not necessarily specific to the Indonesian culture, but should consider these:
- I was definitely invited, but didn't get the written invitation.
- To attend the wedding, one should bring the invitation. However, there is a 50-50 chance it won't be needed.
Related, but not duplicate: How can I politely ask if my invitation to an event was simply forgotten?