I'm a 22 years old student, living in a little village, about 8000 inhabitant, in Germany. I'm not that old, but very independent. I have my own apartment, and just try to live my life.
In my village, everyone knows everybody and will identify you with your family name.
And here is my problem : anywhere I go, I get identified by my family name. The thing is, my family isn't known for good things.
Some backround: My mom is jobless, lives just like “I don't care about money”, and got kicked out of her old apartment. Now, she lives with my older brother in a little apartment, just two floors upstairs and cause problems with the landlord. And often with other persons.
Every time there is something new, everybody just ask me “oh what's up there?” or “can you help?” Just a few days ago, I tried to insure my new car and the first question was like “oh, can you ask your mother why she doesn't want to pay her insurance?”
But I don't want to get into this crap. I want to live my own life but, at the moment, it's obviously not possible. Also, they can't manage the bit of money they have and always ask me to help out.
Actually, moving away isn't an option, because all my friends live there as well.
How Can I get rid of this? I think I want both, get out of your family's reputation in that village and get more distance to your family members upstairs