The person I'm talking about is my own mother. She has depression and she's seeing a doctor.
It is a little rough talking about your own kind like this, but as rough as it is, it's the truth.
My mother raised me and my sisters by herself, after my dad passed away a long time ago. I think that this developed some disorder in her, and for sure, it would be a trauma for anyone having lost a deared one.
The issue with my mother is that she is always charismatic, all smiling and stuff until she creates trouble from somewhere. It is not something isolated, but a behaviour that she keeps doing.
This behaviour affects her relationships and draws everyone around her away.
- she was the reason of the breakup of many of my sisters relationships.
- She made my aunt's life a living hell.
- She will present herself friendly for a time, and then create some obnoxious situation that will break the relationship.
The problem went to a point where my sister and I decided to move away from her to stay with our sanity.
The problem with this is that she stated to me that she's unhappy, and as a son I really would like to help her.
I would really like to be close to her, but the moment I do that, she will be possessive and it is granted that I will have a lot of problems.
I don't even want to present my girlfriend for her for this exact reason.
It is like she is really happy, and then she becomes really sad. Some bipolar stuff.
How could I approach her, about seeking professional help, knowing that her reaction will be unexpected?
By unexpected, I mean that she doesn't seem to acknowledge that she draws people away, and will probably cry non-stop if I bring this subject.
PS: Not sure if important but she is married and I expend as little time with them as I can.
I just talked to family members (sisters and aunt) about this situation and they stated that she already went to psychiatrist and counselors, and since the behavior didn't changed, I'm unsure if this is something related to a medical condition or she is just playing games.