I'm a new (game) streamer, I don't have a massive audience, and I find myself in quite a challenge.
Often when I play, some viewers will ask if they can play with me (or us if I'm already playing with friends).
The reason I do not want to play with what we call "randoms", as in, random people from the internet, is because I don't know them. I don't know if they're nice, if they're weird, of if they can be annoying.
Surprisingly often, they are just looking for friends, which is fair, and going on a small live stream is actually a smart way to do it. And I don't disagree with it. But I don't know this person, he hasn't been on my chat for long enough, I haven't talked to them more than, what, 10 minutes in my life.
I did it a couple of times, and both times I ended up regretting it. Once I played with a random from the audience and a friend, then had to leave so friend kept playing with the random. Now my friend keeps receiving invites and messages from this guy.
Another time, the dude was just particularly annoying to a point where I kinda wanted to kick him out of my game.
On one hand I'd like to keep control of my stream, my content, and the people on it. I know my friends, I don't stream with all of them because I know how they are. On the other hand, if I bring viewers on stream, it's a good way to make them love you even more, and possibly be happier, bring more viewers, and make other viewers happy "it could also be them". But doing that, I lose some control.
I have a very very small audience, I don't wanna sound like a massive jerk being "too big to play with you, peasant". I like making the audience happy, but in this case, in does not make me happy all the time. Sometimes I'm sure I'll meet great people, but it'll be ruined by the times I will meet the most idiotic person of my life.
Right now my solution is to refuse kind of abruptly, sometimes slipping a little lie like "I'd rather play alone right now", even though I wanted to play with friends and not randoms. And I end up not playing what I really wanted, making me a bit more "unhappy" with my stream and the viewer somewhat unhappy as well. I feel like everyone is losing.
I'm not asking "what should I do?", even though I kinda want to.
My question is:
How can I phrase a polite answer that basically says the following, in a respectful and understandable manner :
- I don't know you enough
- I would play with you if I did know you better
- I'm sorry I have to refuse, I really am
I don't want to include restrictive rules, I don't want people to feel left out, specially when the channel is empty more often than not.
It's very awkward.