Most of the multiplayer-games I play with friends end with them telling me how I am unbearable and ruin the game for them. I like playing these games and I like playing quite competitively, although I enjoy a good challange far more than a fast victory.
Most of my friends however do not share my attitude at all. When we play video games together they only agree to play co-op vs AI (which is just boring in most games). I am known for my 'militant' play-style in Civilization games, which I learned playing vs AI, yet none of them even tries to build any defences, instead they'll quit once I attack them, even if taking military action is the only way to prevent them to achieve a slow but steady victory over the next couple hours.
I can't get them to try facing me in any Real Time Strategy Game, even if I set up a prize pool.
In less aggressive games like 'the Guild', I've even been called an anti-social asshole, just because I wanted to choose the same profession as one of my friends (and thus risk creating a 'conflict' on the market).
I'd love to have a good challenge, but playing with these guys is like playing ludo without the abillitiy to kick anyones pieces from the board.
Do you have any ideas how to introduce these hardcore softies to a more competitive gameplay?