A group of friends did something to me that was, to say the least, inconsiderate: We had an appointment in a certain place, let's call it A.
I live in another city (this is a rather new situation, been here for one month and a half), so I told them I was going to get there at a certain hour. They were going to meet earlier. Then, when they were together, they decided to go to another place, let's call it B. They told me this through text message even when I had told them I was not going to be reading them because I would be driving (in fact I was driving to A). They were also aware that I was not reading it because the app allows you to see it.
Not only that, but place B was much closer to the original city I was at, so I passed by oblivious to the fact they were there, went almost to A, and then saw the message. I refused to go back to B and went home, showing one of them, at least, discomfort.
Now this friend, which is also the one who had organised the original plan with me, sent me two messages in a humorous tone trying to downplay it. Then asked me whether I was "angry". I then answered "I am not angry", trying to imply I was rather disappointed instead of angry, but then he interpreted it as if my anger had then disappeared after two days and everything was okay again.
Now I can understand what happened could have happened to anyone, they were simply inconsiderate to my situation. But this pissed me off.
What is the best way to deal with this situation? Expressing them what I felt, also considering the fact that I had declined another plan to go with them, and the fact that I am passing through a hard personal moment.
Also please do note that what, in fact, makes me angry, is my friend asking me repeteadly "Are you angry?", "Are you still angry?" as if this was my own problem I he had nothing to do with it. Even if this is my best friend from the six, I would like to tell all of them that they are, at least, responsible for not warning me, as they had all read my message. One of them even told me on the phone, Why don't you read the messages?
Since I cannot post comments, I answer here:
Have any of them apologised for the incident? Was the decision to move to Location B on a whim, or was there something more urgent that kept them from going to A
None of them have apologised, one of them has completely ignored the matter, simply talking to me as always. The other one is the one I mention above, and I have not seen the other ones.