Two classmates often phone me, asking if I want to hang out. The times I have done so, I did not enjoy myself at all. We don't seem to share any hobbies/interests.
What I have already tried (didn't work in the long run):
- telling them that I am being somewhere else, and can't come (and it's true when I do)
- telling them that I'm too tired (does not have to be very tired at all)
- saying that I'll call later (which I usualy don't do)
I think if I continue using the beforementioned approaches, then eventually they will stop asking. But those are all indirect approaches and - even if they stop - I fear they will think of me badly. I also think it is dishonest of me using these white lies to get excused of hanging out with them.
Question: How can I ask them to stop asking me to hang out?
- I do not want to burn any bridges, since I will still see them regularly in class.
- If it is possible without burning bridges, I would like to explain it honestly (I just don't like hanging out with them) and not rely on lies.
- I want to keep it as polite as possible
- They accept that I don't want to hang out with them, but are not mad at me.
The obvious approach is just telling them "Sorry but I don't like hanging out with you", but I fear that they will be mad at me or think that I don't like (or even hate) them - which could have negative repercussions, seeing that there already is some bullying going on in my class.
To be clear: I think they are nice people but I just don't like hanging out with them.
- Country: Sweden
- Age: 12-13
- The mentioned classmates are not involved in current mobbing.