When making last minute plans with my SO or friend(s) we can't choose on what to do. We all have our own preferences and discuss the advantages and disadvantages.
I am a bit hard of natures and sometimes it seems like I do not want to do the one thing while this is not the case.
For example: I was talking to my SO about whether I was going to her house or whether she was coming to me. It is a two-hour journey and she had to be near me the next day. It seemed better to meet at my place to save unnecessary back and forth travel, but she wanted to meet at her place because it has been a while I was there. After having mentioned the disadvantages to go to her (I had to work the next day and therefore travel for 2 hours), we decided to go to me.
A bit later I thought to myself, Let's go to her place. She really wanted to meet there and I do not care very much as long as I am with her. She did not like this because I had suddenly changed my mind and talked about all the disadvantages, she thought I absolutely did not want it and that I only did it for her.
Long story short, she had become angry with me.
This has happened more than I like and I want to avoid this in the future. So, how can I make it clear that I do not mind doing the other thing after a discussion?