Currently I am in a group activity (pen&paper online) we started 2 years ago and which is held weekly. I consider everyone of this group as my friend.
But I have had arguments with the leader of this group (game master). These issues seem illogical to me and the arguments tended to be with prejudice. I realized I did not have any fun at all and it was more like a weekly duty. I started speaking with the other group members and about half of them were not happy too. One enlightened me and told me our leader is a emotional person which I didn't realize. That gave me more insight and helped dealing with conflicts. I tried to talk about the points that bothered me, tried to figure out the right moment. But I realized how careful I have to be with every word I say because it could upset our group leader. And since nothing has really improved for about 3 months it is time for me to say goodbye.
Question: I want to leave the group permanently. But I don't want to burn any bridges. How can I do that?
When I leave it is clear that it is because of our group leader. He will ask me why I want to leave. But any of my arguments would possible insult him so what do I say?
To make it even more complicated since I will not stop this group activity but just change the group. And since I will use the same platform the group leader will see I just changed the group. So I cannot say I am not interested in this activity either.
I would like to stay friends with the group leader since I appreciate him as a person. But that seems very hard for now.
I talked to him today
He was shocked that I wanted to leave. He understood there is no point for me to stay when I am not having fun.
But he wondered why I didn't speak to him before leaving. He didn't notice that I tried to speak with him on some points. But there was no ground for discussion, he was the gm and just said how it will be.
He told me that if there are not too much players in the group I am welcome to come back when I am ok with his playstyle. Some feelings were hurt like many of you already knew. But it does not look to bad.
Thanks for all the feedback.