I rent a room in a large shared house. There have been some problems (see all my other questions) but last night I felt a line was crossed into disrespectful. Two weeks ago I heard music coming from someone's room at 2am so I knocked on their door. There was no reply. I sent them a text message asking if they could use headphones and there was no reply. Just yesterday this person out of the blue started yelling at me saying she felt targeted by me because I hadn't asked if it was anyone else. I said it sounded like the music had been coming from her room and she said I could've sent the whole group (we have a Messenger group chat) instead of just texting her.
I'm very confused by this. 1) how should I reply when someone's yelling at me? I would have liked to have used the kitchen but should I just go back to my room? 2) how should I treat the specific situation? It's very reasonable to ask someone to turn down music at 2am (and what confuses me even more is told me she has a job that starts at 8am). We are in very close living arrangement and things could get very ugly fast.
She said she wants a roommate meeting, which I think would be a good idea. But I'm guessing I should address the issue of her randomly yelling at me before the meeting? What words should I use?
Everyone is in their 20s and most people and international people who don't speak a common language as their first tongue (everyone speaks English but it seems that most people prefer not to, even in common areas when other's are around).
I'm very bad in these types of situations and am confused. This roommate I actually felt closest to because she speaks English the most.