I have this long time friend, living in another city. We usually kept in touch when, from time to time, he came to the city I live, or when I went to the city where he lives.
It went all smoothly until the meetings were short visits, but, since recently I re-started living alone in my house, things have turned differently. He asked me if he could be my guest when he comes to my city, and I initially accepted, as I thought that it was no big deal for me: I have vacant rooms and nobody else in the house.
Things proven to be different:
- despite I asked him if he had any preferences for breakfast and being answered "nothing special", every morning he asked for a cappuccino (I never had a coffee machine for making cappuccino).
- when it's time for his favorite soap opera or TV show, he monopolizes the TV, not even asking if I have something else to watch
- when I offered him a copy of the keys so that he was free to go out and enter the house whenever he pleased, he refused stating "I won't be back too late"
This goes on for all his stay, which is around a week. All in all, I feel treated like hotel staff, without even being paid as such, and I have lost all pleasure in hosting him.
Therefore I would like to decline his requests to stay at my place, while still enjoy spending some time to see each other. So far I have attempted to indirectly decline them, i.e. "that week I cannot, my sons are coming to visit", to which he simply objected "oh, it's no big deal for me" or "oh, well, I can reschedule to another week".
How can I politely decline his future requests?