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For some initial clarification, I hope this doesn't sound like a rant, because I'm trying to pitch this question as objectively, and as clearly as I possibly can, whilst hoping that I'm not sounding negative, or angry. However I do apologise if this is the impression that my wording gives you all.

TL;DR: I was wondering if there was a way that you could open a bank account, or even start earning my own money without ID, initial starting money, or any kind of support to escape a somewhat impossible living situation. Since I am UK citizen, I just do not have access to the documentation to prove it

I've been a long time lurker/guest of this site, but never asked a question, simply because I thought someone else with my problem would crop up eventually, but I understand, that was just me being slightly ridiculous in my assumptions, so now I'm just opening up and asking (I do apologise in advance if it's in the wrong category, but I figured seasoned life hackers would be able to provide a more broad range of potential solutions, given the irregular nature of my problem).

The basic run down of this problem is that I live in a extremely class based household, not royalty, or rich beyond reason like some lavish television show setting, just painfully judgemental, and as a result of my supposedly incorrect life choices stemming from my teenage years (e.g. diet, sexual preference, religious choices and everything else you could assume would make your own child an objective disappointment if you lived in a less than progressive environment) I have had most of my options for the future substantially limited over the past few years.

Essentially, since school, I haven't been able to get any work, as every time since I was sixteen that I inquired about getting a bank account in order to try and at least work for a living, or even just to save money, the idea was laughed off by my family, or was turned around to make me feel as though I was being ungrateful for "having a roof over my head", or "getting given anything I could ever want" and other such responses. I wasn't longing for material junk, I seldom ask for anything really, I'm not a “stuff driven” person. I just kind of wanted to have some more, what I considered to be, basic rights, like an ordinary person, but regardless I never got much more than verbally shot down, one way or another.

I've tried asking other people who are much older than me, but again, I always get laughed at, as if the problem isn't a problem at all, and I should just have all the answers right away(more recently I've been called a typical millennial for it). And when ever I've brought this up to anyone else on other sites, a regular response I get is "try asking someone younger who may find the problem more relatable", this option doesn't work either however, as I don't know anybody else (outside of my family) that is around my age, and I don't actually have any friends, (a fact that is not meant to sound depressing) as I simply live in a rather isolated place, and spend most of my time working in the house, so I don't speak to people often, most times that I do is when I'm allowed to assist with shopping.

In the past, a long time ago, I have tried simply running away on a few occasions, but without anywhere to go, or a means to even earn a living, all that winds up happening is I end up homeless for a while, and then I subsequently get found and brought back to square one. I typically assume repeating this task over and over will likely take it's toll on me eventually, and could even make me ill, and incapable of working if done to often, thus making my end objective pointless. And any time I've tried to make attempts to wander off on days out to enquire about opening a bank account, most of the staff tell me (in the short time that I have) that I am unequipped to open an account, for lack of proof in both my address, ID, national insurance number, and numerous other problems that I cannot resolve as I don't have access to any of my personal documentation.

So I was simply asking, though it may sound like something of a broad question, what are my options in this instance, and how do I achieve the first step towards freedom through these difficult circumstances?

Closing Note: I know my living conditions perhaps do not sound bad, but I am withholding a great deal of information to avoid making this question a novel in length, and to ensure that I am not painting my family out to be bad people, as they probably assume they have my best interests in mind with their actions. But in regards to my own problem, I would rather get it resolved sooner rather than later, as opposed to locking horns with anyone on the matter any further. So any advice on the matter would be appreciated.

closed as off-topic by sphennings, Em C, Clay07g, Jon.G, user15922 Jun 4 '18 at 15:59

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    Part of this question might be on topic at Personal Finance & Money, namely how to get a bank account with the ID you have / what ID do you need for it. – Em C Jun 4 '18 at 14:46
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    @Erik this is what makes it a difficult issue, I don't hate them by any means, and don't want to cause them any problems, but our relationship is already strained to the point that I don't particularly want to live in the same house as them any more. So I'd rather not make this a legal issue if I can avoid it. – user18476 Jun 4 '18 at 15:03
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    In regards to @sphennings comment would you be able to edit your question to focus on IPS issues? e.g. do you want help approaching your parents about this? We aren't a "lifehacks" site unfortunately so the administrative details aren't really on topic here. – Em C Jun 4 '18 at 15:04
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    Tara, have a look on the HMRC website and you should find a form and phone numbers that will assist you in applying for a new notification of your NI No. Your local register office will help with a copy of your birth certificate if needed. womensaid.scot will find you help if you need it. – Spagirl Jun 4 '18 at 17:26
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    In addition to my previous comment, ' the Scottish Women’s Rights Centre Helpline is provided by, or with supervision from, a qualified solicitor. Helpline | 08088 010 789 [They] run a helpline every Tuesday from 6pm-9pm, Wednesday afternoon from 1.30pm until 4.30pm, and Friday from 10am-1pm available to any woman in Scotland looking for legal information or advice. ' – Spagirl Jun 5 '18 at 9:08