Background: Me and my school days friend [we did our school till graduation together, we are the best study buddies, project buddies] are very good friends and make it a point we meet each other at least once a year like go to some resort for couple of days, hiking, conference.. etc. our spouse/family know us well.
Problem: I insist on keep our money spent on the time together kept separate not owing each other as we are earning ourself and responsible adults. But this friend always some or the other way cross this line. For instance, This year we had planned conference + hiking. Friend had booked the hotel for both of us without informing me. In-spite of me telling not do that several times. I said, will pay you back but friend insisted on not necessary, you can take care of restaurant charges.. etc.
I do not like such things. This friend is not taking money booked for the hotel [which is quite expensive] and the money spent in the restaurant did not even covered quarter of what the hotel cost. How do I fix this, would it work:
- I buy gift and post it to this friend's home.
- Next time me-booking hotel, I do not want to wait till next year. So should I post money ?
Any help way to make this friend understand ?