I'm currently a 19 years old Spaniard male senior student, and a month ago I was asked for help by a male student in another course about a subject I'm good at. While helping him I discovered we have the same interests. We live in different towns and it's not possible to meet in person, so we sometimes chat via text.
However, I'm usually the one that starts the conversation, and I would like to ask him if he's interested in getting to know me (or simply tell him I'm interested) and whether we could establish a texting routine this summer so we can try to be friends. We rarely see each other at school, and we're not in the same class so technically we aren't schoolmates. How can I ask for a texting routine? (e.g. every Tuesday and Thursday). I would like to avoid making things awkward between us.
As meeting in person seems viable, I'll list the reasons why I would rather text with him:
- Distance. Yes, we go to the same school, but it's not mandatory like Secondary education. It's hard to explain because our education system is different. Anyway, there's a distance of 62 Km (38.53 miles) between out towns, and the only ways to go to his town would be: by car (which is impossible since I don't own a driver's license) or by train (which is affordable, but the train station is far from his town).
- It's too early. As I said, we met each other a month ago, and because I helped him with a subject. Maybe I'm wrong, but I feel a month is just not enough time to start meeting someone in person.
- He has a life. I really would like to meet in person, but sadly he may not because summer vacation has just started and he will want to meet his friends, date with his girlfriend, apply for a job... I don't want to be a nuisance. So that means for example that he maybe won't want to go to my town. I wouldn't mind to go to his town, though. But still, I'm afraid of being a pain. Perhaps I'm wrong and he would like to introduce me to his friends, but this leads to the following reason:
- Bashfulness. I'll be honest, I'm too shy to start and keep a conversation in real life. And that's why I would like to establish a friendship by means of texting. Unfortunately, I lack self-confidence. What if I make a bad impression? I know this is a cowardly behavior, but I don't want to ruin the opportunity of having someone to chat with.