I tried searching on and off for a couple days to find a question like this and much to my surprise, I was unable to find one. I found a couple about contacting old friends, but they make no mention of a fight. Or they mention lack of communication after a fight. In this specific case, the communication was severed at the time of the fight so there were no uncertain terms that the topic of the fight was the direct cause and there would be no further communication.
Here’s the story: Someone I interact with quite often (Alice) was having issues with her friend (Becky). They knew each other for roughly 8 months before things got rocky due to many personal reasons that won’t really matter for this question as many were discussed and resolved. However, one unresolved issue that Alice had was that Becky frequently talked to her like Alice was naïve. This problem was compounded by the fact that Alice knew she had more experience in the topic at hand. Becky wasn’t being intentionally insulting, though, so Alice discussed this issue with her and Becky said she’d stop.
Becky didn’t stop, though, so Alice was left to assume this is just how Becky is. At about the 1 year mark, they had a big fight about it because Becky had a couple months to change and hadn’t, and Alice called it quits.
A few months later, Alice was wondering if she made the right call. They were really good friends; almost like family after just that short while and Alice missed her presence. While they had their issues, Alice really appreciated Becky’s friendship as it is very difficult for Alice to make close friends. Alice has since stopped taking medication that likely contributed to her intolerance for Becky. It’s been nearly a year since they last spoke at this point and Alice is beyond the point of questioning if she wants to approach Becky again and instead planning to do so around a certain timeframe due to Alice’s personal situation.
My question is: What things should Alice consider when first addressing Becky in order to maximize the potential to re-establish that friendship?