We live in a large and expensive city with really high real-estate costs. Both me and my wife are around 30 years of age. It's been over Four years into my marriage now. My wife is constantly worried that there is no substantial property that I could be inheriting from my parents.
She has been bringing this topic up, multiple times during the past year, resulting into a heated argument almost every time. Meanwhile my dad is building a house for himself, on the countryside far-away and constantly asks me to help him out financially. His retirement money pays almost 80% of the cost of this house. We believe it will go to my step-mom later. He recently called me up for some money, when my wife was around and that resulted into another of such arguments.
My parents and my siblings, when we were young, we lived among relatively poor neighbourhood. My dad was the only breadwinner of our family and many of his colleagues were alcoholics and gamblers. My dad at the same time, did not drink or smoke and paid for all of my education and now considers himself the best parent (he even mentioned it to me once). So, thinks it's disloyal of me to not help him financially now. I did help him financially a lot. But, he always wants more. He even stopped calling me up, when I said I don't have the money.
I'm a slight introvert and I could say a geek too. I did pretty average in studies. But, I'm doing well at work and manage to make a pay-check pretty close to what people with double my experience make (with the exact same education).
My wife has been working on her career for the past four years and holds a position slightly less common for people of her experience. Most of her equals at her job happen to be at least 3 year older than her.
It constantly intrigues her that all of her male colleagues and female colleagues' husbands have at-least a house of their own in the city, usually inherited from their parents. But, we have none such and it will take us about 10 years to save enough to own a reasonable house in the city. Despite all her efforts.
Now, I understand that the problem itself has no easy solutions.
How can I handle this situation, when it comes to relationship with my wife specifically. I need her to stop worrying about this issue. Or at-least prevent arguments in the future, if that's not possible.