I'm 21 years-old and still live at my parents' house. Like my dad, I'm pretty introverted. And we mainly like to do our own thing throughout the day. For me, that's playing video games, writing code, etc.
However, my mom never really understood that. Her personality is totally opposite to me. She keeps insisting I should go outside and enjoy life. Something I occasionally do, but prefer not to every day.
When I was younger, we had a lot of arguments about it. To the point where she called me socially disturbed, and where she threw a plate onto me in my room. Now this never happened again, but she still regularly throws comments towards me. I personally know I have no social issues.
For example, Friday night I went out with friends to have a drink, played poker, and went to the pub. The next day I wake up at 12 PM. And all I want to do is relax in my room, until 9 PM when I leave the house to friends again.
It happened to be a warm day. So at around 4 PM I went outside in the garden. My mother was there with a friend of hers, and started by saying I'm white and that I could use some sunlight.
At that point I'm instantly annoyed, but I remain calm and don't respond. I prefer not to speak to her anyways. So I escape back to my room.
How do I handle such a situation?
However, this is not the only thing she has to say about me. But is an example.
I have a lot of other issues with my mom, that I would like to work out. But I have no idea how to. We never have a normal conversation. I feel like everything I tell her is going to be used against me at some later point.
I'm at the point where I 'hate' my mother, and prefer not to see her ever again after moving out of the house. But I still know she loves me, and she tries to 'help' me. So I don't want that to be the outcome.