I have the following problem:
I own a house near the beach, in which I go only in summer. Every year, friends ask me (or try to manipulate me to invite them) to come and spend their vacations there. I have already invite some of them once (or even twice at some cases).
Every year they tell me things like "You are so lucky to have a house like that", "I was thinking about coming there again", "Can I come this year as well?", "Can I come because I had never been there and seems amazing?".
These behaviors literally make me very angry, because I feel like they use me. I haven't said anything until now because I usually avoid confrontation, and also because we are friends lots of years I don't want to tell them something that would deteriorate our relationship.
But at this point, because I feel like that is going to continue forever, I find that is very important to communicate with them that: a) If I wanted to, I would invite them by myself b) That it's tiring to have guests every year c) Stop them from inviting themselves in the future.
I am a woman in my 30s.