I have a friend (a woman), who I met around 8 months ago. Since then, she has become my best friend and we are extremely close. Understandably, my wife is envious of the relationship and even sometimes suspects it is more than a platonic friendship (at least emotionally).
How can I convince her that the relationship is platonic without changing the nature of the friendship?
Here are the critical, key points:
Me and 'Katie' (fictional name for my friend, for future reference only) met at a wrestling class. This is an intimate sport with a lot of closes, physical contact. We both love the sport and we train together 3 times per week (in a class situation) and then 1 on 1 alone once a week.
We meet up once a week for a non-wrestling related day. We usually do another activity just for fun and then go out for food or just hang out somewhere for the day.
We have a holiday booked for 1 week. It is a training camp and we are sharing a room, but it is a twin room.
We speak on the phone (via a texting app) on average 2 - 3 times per day. I would say we exchange an average of 20 - 50 messages per day. We always send one to each other last thing at night.
When we have been apart, we have told each other how we miss each other and have exchanged mutual feelings of loving each others company, loving being friends etc. She has also said if I am down or look sad that it makes her feel the same way.
Understandably, the above makes it look like there is something more than friendship potentially. But here is the thing. We are both married. She has said she is happily married and has 4 children with her husband. But she has also said that he is happy with our friendship and that she wants us to be friends forever. She said that since knowing me, she has been much happier in general.
I don't know if this has any relevance but I thought I would include it anyway that I was recently diagnosed with Autism. But I don't personally agree with that and also I have a job etc and friends so I am pretty 'normal' even if it is correct.
The friendship has dramatically improved my happiness levels. Having such a close friend is amazing, and I want to keep that, while still keeping my partner happy and comfortable also.
I have spoken to my wife about the friend and she said she won't stop me seeing her but that she is very jealous of it and doesn't like it.