I recently accepted the friend request of a guy on Facebook. We shared a couple mutual friends, so I assumed we had met at a college party somewhere in the last few years. As it turns out, we haven't ever met, but have continued to chat with each other anyway.
Recently he offered to drive 2 hours to take me out to dinner and hang out. While I'd like to meet up with him in person and develop a further friendship, I'm a little uneasy because I've discussed how I currently have a partner (to which he acted indifferently upon discovering), yet this offer sounds potentially date-like to me based on the distance he's willing to travel and the particular restaurant he suggested.
I've met "friends" from online before, some of which had the wrong idea about our relationship when we met up, and I want to avoid that at all costs here. I'd feel more comfortable agreeing to meet with him if we discussed intentions first, but I do not want to come off accusatory in doing so (other than this invitation feeling kind of date-like to me, he really hasn't done anything to set off any red flags).
How can I tactfully discuss the boundaries of our friendship before agreeing to meet up with him? I'd like to find a way to feel more comfortable about his intentions without offending him or making him think he did anything wrong.
Note: My partner will more than likely not be able to (nor want to) hang out as part of this meet up.
Additionally: I touched base with the two mutual friends we share, and both said only positive things about him (very sweet, super shy, etc).