First, a little background
My girlfriend and I have been together for just over 8 months now, and I have to say that this is the happiest relationship I think I've ever been in. I'm 23 going on 24 and she's 21. I just graduated college and she is finishing her senior year this year. Our relationship has, for the most part, been a healthy one. I feel fairly comfortable and able to talk to her about things, except for one area that I struggle with. I've always dealt with pretty serious anxiety, specifically relationship anxiety. It hadn't been a major issue however until my previous girlfriend cheated on and broke up with me. I dealt with many of the issues that brought up, however there's still one that I'm struggling with related to my anxiety in general.
I will add that I am on medicine now which helps tremendously--I had been opposed to taking medicine because of the drawbacks of the major types of anxiety medicine at the start of this summer. However after a particularly bad week caused by starting a new job, being unable to communicate with my girlfriend while she was out of state for awhile, and the general changes that come with graduating college I decided to try Buspirone. No noticeable side effects and much less anxiety is a good thing.
Until the start of this summer my girlfriend and I spoke fairly often throughout the day. Not constantly, of course, and I'd never expect that from anyone. I know I certainly wouldn't like it if my partner demanded I was talking to them all day via text. Still, we held conversations between classes and in the evenings while we were working on homework. At the start of the summer she took a trip to New York and I was basically unable to talk to her while she was away, and after that things have just been... different. We exchange maybe a total of 5-10 texts per day, and mostly our "conversations" feel like two ships passing in the night. Goodmorning texts, a few "Hope your day is going well!" texts, the occasional complaint about work. That sort of stuff. I'll try and have conversations occasionally that attempt to go deeper but she either seems to ignore my attempts at conversation or somehow doesn't notice that I'm trying to engage more than just minimally.
There doesn't seem to be anything wrong with our relationship, either. When I'm with her in person (about once/week or once/week and a half due to distance while she's not at school) we have conversations, talk, and everything just seems pretty normal. She doesn't seem to notice anything different as far as I can tell.
Currently I'm trying to decide how to broach the subject with her, without coming across as desperate or needy or clingy or what have you. I know that because of my anxiety much of what I'm thinking/feeling has no real cause and that I shouldn't really be feeling this way, but I just can't help but feel that there's something off. Yet I'm nervous about talking to her because the last thing that I want to do is make her feel smothered or like I'm being demanding of her attention. She knows about my anxiety, and we've talked about it a bit in the past (especially after the week that convinced me to try medicine). I can tell that she occasionally makes an effort to give me reaffirmation when she senses I'm in need of it, but this particular subject I'm just not so sure about.
Should I even bother bringing this up? Part of me feels like this is just a "me" problem and it's something I should deal with to avoid putting any unnecessary burden on her/to keep from making her feel like she has to devote unnecessary amounts of attention to me. I just miss our conversations and the connection they brought.
I'm looking to avoid a negative interaction with my girlfriend due to a perceived lack of conversation/drastic reduction in conversation on my end of things.