I'm a person that prefer to solve problems rather than sharing them. Talking about "my day" or venting out about issues is, from my point of view, a waste of time which I could use by solving the problem or thinking about solution.
This unfortunately creates tension between me and my family. They would like to know what's eating at me while I think I dilute problem only with people who (I think) can help me.
This is creating new problems as people think my problem is with them.
How do I clearly and firmly state that I need some "Me" time and talking about me not sharing irritates and wears me down because it take me energy from addressing the real problem?
Edit - I would like to more clearly state that I don't like sharing and it's not the fault of others. The problems are more visible with my SO, my family get used to asking be questions that will result in answers they can help me with.