I've been dating my girlfriend for a few months now and I have given oral and fingered her frequently, but that's the furthest she's gone with anyone. I feel like merely bringing up or suggesting handjobs, blowjobs, or sex will make her feel like she has to do one or all of those things right now.
I feel the seeds of resentment being planted, but I don't want those feelings to flourish because I really enjoy so many other aspects of this girl.
I'm 23, she's 21 and we've been born and raised in the US. She seems really comfortable with me performing on her. We did talk about me doing stuff before and after but we've never brought up her doing anything for me.
How do I bring this up without making her feel like she has to do something she doesn't want to do? It seems impossible...