I know it's not a big deal for most, but I really do put a lot of effort into having a nice lawn, and our next door neighbour has done a few things that grind my gears, and I do not know how to resolve without creating a grumpy neighbour.

He replaced his front lawn with an extended driveway, while our side is a lawn.

As soon as we moved in, he cut a foot strip off our lawn, and replaced with new sod, so it looks like a nice edge to his property while ours looked mediocre.

Instead of worrying, we simply redid our entire front lawn with new sod to match.

The city-side curb grass we keep nice and thick (3" or so) while he cuts his bare. The issue is that recently he started cutting a full lawnmower width into our side.

I cut the grass twice a week, it's very maintained and definitely the better looking of the two, while he does it once a month, then damages some of our side, even if I just cut 30 minutes ago, he will go over what I just cut and take a strip and turn it yellow and bare.

How do I approach him without causing a heated neighbor situation?

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    Here is another similar question about a neighbor cutting grass: interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/8007/…. While the question is different, the top voted answer may work for you. – Stephen Meschke Aug 7 '18 at 23:24
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    I don't think this is necessarily a duplicate question. In this case I doubt the neighbour is doing this to be nice. My first thought is that there may be some uncertainty about exactly where the boundary line is between the properties. If this is the case, the communication required may be quite different. – user1751825 Aug 8 '18 at 7:20
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    I am not convinced this is a duplicate. The other question is about an invasive neighbour who comes doing the chores of the OP and doesn't respect privacy, this question seems more like a neighbour who oversteps the physical boundary in between the lawns. His reasons are unclear but he probably doesn't fell like he is making the OP a favour. – Evargalo Aug 8 '18 at 12:26
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    Voted to reopen because this isn't a duplicate. interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/8007/… is about a neighbor deliberately invading the OP's property. – DaveG Aug 8 '18 at 12:57

This doesn't have to be some Machiavellian endeavor here.

  1. Strike up conversation casually ("Hey Bill whats been going on?...")

  2. After a few minutes of small talk, get to the point, preferably in a way that makes it feel like a favor rather than instructions ("Oh yea, I was hoping you could help me out with something....")

  3. State the issue clearly, but kindly, and optionally shift blame to an absent party. That last part may/may not be advisable depending on the their disposition and the situation, but most of the time it's ok. ("Could I ask that you be careful to not mow too much over the property line? I don't mind too much, but the wife is particular about the lawn and on my case...")

The other option would be much more passive aggressive and put up some sort of divider that would make the division clearer and harder to mow over. That seems much more likely to create resentment though.

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