I have a close friend who I have been very supportive of each-other and it's been a relatively decent friendship but lately it's gotten out of hand.
My friend calls me 3 to 4 times a day and texts me non-stop. To the point I almost expect it. He always makes some kind of excuse why he needs to call me, for example he will say "I need you to call me. It's important." or "I have a question to ask you. Can you call me?" Then even if I tell him if he can just text me or if it can wait, he will call me anyways. Doesn't even matter what I'm doing. I could be at work, or out in town, or doing chores, and I'd have to drop everything. And these conversations will go on forever, to the point of wasting my time because there talking about stuff I really don't care about or he talked about it already.
I've tried a few things. Ignoring him turns into a nightmare. He will begin spam calling and texting me till I pick up. I'll wake up after a nap or coming back from outside, only to find tons of messages and voicemails with a slow progression of him getting pissed off because I didn't answer his calls. And the direct approach only gets similar results with the same excuse: "I have a right to call my friends!" I can understand like once a week, but 3 or more times a day... that's excessive...
It's putting a strain on our friendship and I can't stand doing this everyday. I'm desperate for some way to fix this without ending what would be a perfectly fine friendship otherwise.
Answering some questions:
Is there a chance of mental illness?
If you consider being short fused a mental illness. Otherwise, I'm sure if that was the case, I would have picked up on it.
Is there something in it for me?
No. I'm not a person who would use someone else for any reason and neither has he. Matter of fact, we hate depending on others. (Unless I have misunderstood what you mean.)
Is this a possible relationship issue?
I'm only clarifying this because I saw it brought up. I'm a dude, Hes a dude. There's nothing between us other then a long-term friendship. I'm not even going to bring sexuality into the mix ether.
What is he calling about?
When he talks about "urgency" he usually dose have a problem, but its usually only minor problem, like something I usually cant help him with and sometimes I'm sure he could care for on his own. But from what I've caught onto, its usually only something he can get my attention for so he can go "Well, since I have you on the phone..." And then he starts talking to me about random things that just have no connection to his original problem and are simply not important.