I’m going on a first date tomorrow with a guy I matched with on a dating app a few days ago. In these past three days, I found him texting a bit more than I’m used to and it has caused some concerns for me.
My question is how should I tell him that I prefer to text less without hurting his feelings on the first date?
My expectation: Since we have set a date to meet, let’s just text to figure out the logistics. Maybe check in the night before or the morning on the day of.
His behavior: He would text me three, four times a day every day and seemed to expect more than just checking in.
Example: Today he started a trip and texted me to figure out when and where to meet. After we agreed to meet tomorrow somewhere, I thought the conversation was over. However, in the next 2 hrs, 5 hrs and 10hrs, he texted me again sharing pictures of his trip and asked me how my day went. I replied and he followed up with more questions. I felt a bit obliged and tired.
I do not think I can do this every day. I’m not a person who’s always on the phone. My work is busy; When I’m free I like to engage in fun activities or enjoy some me-time. (See my expectation as above)
Is it possible that we have different needs for personal space? For me texting that much is something I’d probably only do with my boyfriend, where there is naturally a lot to share and communicate on a daily basis. But with a guy I just met, I’d expect to interact mostly just on the dates we’d go.
Some context if it matters: - We are both in our early 30s. I am and he seems too to be looking for a serious relationship.
TL; DR: matched a guy on a dating app. He texted a lot, I didn’t like it. How to communicate that on our first date?