My siblings and I have a rocky relationship and I want to find out what the causes for the issues are. The last times I've asked them about this I've got responses like "Everything is fine" or "There are no issues" and they seem to avoid any discussion about this topic. What can I do to find out what the causes of the issues are?
To improve this situation I invited my brothers to come over to my home where we could do a BBQ and talk a bit. I would like to address this topic in this occasion. Do you have an idea how I can talk to them about my view about this and ask them what's the cause of their current behaviour?
Ask for him to join you for a beer in private if others will attend and let him know how you feel. Give some examples of times that you have felt that your relationship has felt forced or strange, and then ask him if he feels the same way, and if he does, tell him that you would like to change that. That's pretty much it; be honest and open about how you feel. Either you two work out a plan to communicate better, or he directly or indirectly (by avoiding the subject) tells you how he feels and how he wants to proceed.