I was thinking of making this two separate questions but I think the two together are closely related and affect each other.
I've had the experience a few times were someone is trying to get me to do something or ask me questions that really is between me and a different person.
My specific situation is my landlord often has guests and family over. I live in the same building as my landlord does. I feel like whenever my landlord says something or I try to ask her something, a lot of random people butt in. This is a problem because:
- I don't feel like my privacy is being respected
- Sometimes people give me the wrong information
- In terms of legal concerns, my landlord is the one I should be communicating with.
One example is I asked my landlord how to turn on the heat, and a friend of hers butted in and showed me how to use the thermostat. What he showed me was wrong.
Another example is the landlord's friend asked me when I was moving out. I really think this is between me and the landlord.
In general, how do you politely tell someone you will discuss something with the person who it concerns (which is not them)?
There are two separate scenarios:
- The person who it does is present but others are too, and they keep jumping into the conversation
- The person who it concerns is not present, and the person asking the question is being a "busy body"
I think the situation where someone is trying to get into someone else's business is fairly generic so I'm not looking for super specific solutions to the couple examples I give here. (If necessary I can give more examples).