I’d like to know how I can make people stop telling others every single thing I tell them.
Here’s a dialog between me and my high-school classmate, in class:
Me: In case you can’t eat any more, can I have the rest? (Out of taste)
My colleague: No.
My colleague: Look, that guy asked me if he can eat my hamburger.
And then my colleague changed her mind and she gave me the hamburger.
I also had an experience similar into this one before, and many times in elementary school. I live in Romania.
Is there a way which you can speak to others in such that others won’t need to tell to others about what I told them or asked them? It’s really disrupting me and annoys me that they act like it is so weird. I wish there would be a way to put an end to this kind of situation.
For example, when you see someone eating something and you would like to how how it tastes, how do you ask your colleague in such a way that they wont tell others what you asked?
The reason I asked my colleague about this, is because I felt taste for it to eat, because I wanted to try how does the hamburger tastes different from shaorma.
Before one of my colleagues invited me and other one with her in one desk, so that we can talk in a break time, and she allowed me to eat from what she eats and she didn’t repeat it to others.
This doesn't seem like a weird request to me. I ask my mother or my sister sometimes this. And according to my logic, it is polite to ask someone. If that person says, no, then I respect their wish. Sharing food is one of the ways you can build good relationship.
Some info: 1. I'm 19 years old, and she's 18 years old. Some of my class are 18 years old. And I'm 1 year ahead of them in grade 12( the final school year).