I am an eighteen year old going to a 4 year university in the USA. This school was my number 1 choice going into the college selection process. I loved most things about it, and my parents met there and both were ecstatic when I selected it as my school. Right now I am a freshman in my first semester. There were several problems with this that I overlooked, ignored, or didn't understand how much they would mean to me.
The 3 main ones:
- Expensive: It's out of state, so instead of $20k, I am paying $50k per year. This fact has me really worried about my student debt after hearing all the horror stories.
- The atmosphere is much different than I anticipated. Maybe I am just too immature, but I cannot get used to the party atmosphere at all, and I think it has hindered me socially.
- My friends. In high school, I had a big group of friends, they were all awesome and we hung out all the time. They all went to the in state school. I also got in, but instead elected to go to my number 1 choice. While I still am in contact with nearly all of them daily, I am not a person that can just make new friends like that, and especially not one that can be as close with them as I am with my other friends.
My parents were thrilled when I committed to this school. They didn't pressure me into at all when I chose it, but once I did they confessed that they always wanted me to go there, and started...slightly down talking other schools that I got into (including the in-state). They also pay about 25% of my tuition, which is obviously amazing. I would like to tell them I want to switch schools in a way where I don't look like a "coward" (for lack of better term) and such that they will be just as supportive.
I hope I'm not sounding spoiled, and maybe I am in the wrong (please tell me if I am), but I just want to go to the school where I can be with my friends again and have a same (excellent) education. The schools are almost identically ranked in my major. A major part is that I just don't feel comfortable here and I want to convey that. I am visiting this weekend, where there is an opportunity to bring it up.
Thank you for your help.