This is all going to sound very judgemental to my friend, but trust me, it's not. I think I know how she feels and I understand why she would do it and I want to help her. My whole friend group does.
My friend Alice is a very, very sweet person. People can't see this though because she lies. A lot. Big lies. She is always telling me about the boys she's with, but we've never been able to meet any of them. I saw her chatting with a boy on Facebook once, but then I also saw the other half of the chat when I wasn't supposed to.
People in my class in high school thought she was strange and weren't nice to her. They somehow looked up all the friends she had on Facebook, to find that most of them were fake.
She said she had a thing with this guy in the class and how they really liked each other, but I knew that he was the one leading the Facebook investigation.
We are in university now, she is in another country and we talk online.
Whenever we talk, she always spins up stories about all the guys that are just crazy over her and how she is playing hard to get. She is a great friend but I really hate seeing her lie like this.
My other friends do think she has some issues to deal with, but they don't see her lying problem. They seem to buy into every crazy story she tells.
I've brought up with them how I felt that most of her stories were untrue, but it didn't really go anywhere. We have talked about her a lot, only because we are worried that there's something going on in her life that she is not getting help for.
I know I can't help her with other issues, but I want her to at least feel that she doesn't need to lie to make herself look better.
How can I tell her that she doesn't need to lie to us because we are her friends and will support her no matter what, but without offending her?
EDIT: I'd like to emphasize that this friend is important to me. She takes lots of things to heart, however, so it's best if I phrase things subtly and gently.